He showed up drunk at my door -WWYD?

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Anonymous wrote:Is the drunken display the stuff of all the sweet romantic comedies? Maybe he got drunk because he had just been dumped for no reason. Not the most mature way to handle it, but how would youl like it if he dumped you because of a joke you made? So he made a joke that you found to be in poor taste. People do that. Why would you be embarrassed? Did you really think your friends would think it was true? OP I think you both have maturity issues--his for his frat-boy sense of humor and way of dealing and you with your emotional reactivity and honestly I think the bigger problem lies with you. Do you generally trash 6 months of relationship investment based on a single joke?

It wasn't a joke. It was a sarcastic insult - he implied that his woman was a slut. What is funny about that?

+1. I hate when people say denigrating things and then they are like "can't you take a joke?" Such a cop out...like you can say whatever you want but as long as you say "it's a joke" at the end of it, it's all good- the other person is being too sensitive. OP, the pp who wrote that comment is wayyy off base and honestly your bf's comment and the pp's comment are examples of how we perpetuate a culture of violence and denigration of women in our society.

You nailed it.

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Anonymous wrote:Guy here. This is why good guys always get last. We would never put down someone (who we care about) like that. Instead we would be branded as too soft and too good to be true. Yet the assholes like the OP's bf will always have women (including the OP) 2nd guessing their decision to break things off.

I should also say that even if the OP is inclined to think he was just joking and out of line, it still could mean both of you are not compatible because you have different senses of humor. The things some women are prepared to put up with.............

Quit saying that. It's not true. If it's happening to you, you are not choosing the right women. You are self-selecting women who will do you wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:Leave him, OP.


You will live to regret it if you take him back. Mark my words and bookmark this post.

You will live to regret taking this guy back.

OP, read this and live by it. The poster who wrote this got it right. What do you have to gain from a person who humiliates you in public SIX MONTHS into a relationship? What about six years into it? Will he be beating you up? Will he be telling your children (God forbid you procreate with him!) horrible things about you? He's not worth it. Even if he were able to work the miracle of loaves and fishes, he's not worth it.

Relationships should ADD to your life, not DETRACT from it.

I can't even imagine how I would react if my hypotetical partner made remarks about me blowing my boss. The one thing I know for sure is that I'd dump him before the hour was over.

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UNLESS you're already in love with him and he's been your best BF so far, def DO NOT give another chance

No. Wrong. There's no second chance on something like that.

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I am 22 and he is 26. I'm in college but he is out already.

Give him a second chance. Now, if he's repeatedly said mean things like this in the guise of jokes before, and you've already told him how it makes you feel, then break up and move on - it's a pattern that indicates a deep seated problem on his part. But if this is the first such instance, I'd give him another chance.

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Anonymous wrote:I hear what many of you are saying about laughing it off. I have a good sense of humor and joke just as much as he. I'm a little crude with my jokes too. The problem I have is this isn't the first time he has made very bad jokes at my expense. I've told him the other three times that I didn't like it and expressed how it hurt my feelings. He again did it and that prompted me to break up with him. I feel he doesn't care about my feelings if he repeatedly does it. We've made jokes and fun of each other but he crosses the line with things. I've noticed he does this with his friends and family too.

oh wait, I didn't see this. You've already give him a second chance, and more! This guy is, at best, a jerk. Dump him and move on.