He showed up drunk at my door -WWYD?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of 6 months and I had a little argument on Tuesday. He said something really mean, meant to be a joke but it wasnt funny. I got a promotion and he said something along the lines of me blowing my boss for a raise sleeping with him because of my good looks. He said it out at dinner in front of friends. I was humiliated and broke up with him that night. He tried calling and texting repeatedly but I refused contact, still pissed off. Last night he shows up at my door at 1:30AM drunk. He was belligerent and saying he loved me and apologizing over and over. He threw up and I took care of him. I got him in a bath ( no easily, mind you), cleaned his clothes and let him crash on my couch. This morning he was embarrassed by his behavior and asked me to go to dinner. Telling me how he loves and misses me. Should I give him another chance or why not?

[Anonymous]

HELL NO.

He has demonstrated irresponsible, emotional, reactive behavior. Insulting you publicly, minimizing your feelings, not taking accountability, getting drunk past the point of self control. No matter your age some things are still applicable: Trust what people show you the first time.

You have no obligation here. Tell him no judgement, but you are not comfortable with a commitment anymore. And stand your ground. Be nice, but be firm.

[Anonymous]

Uh, no. That is two strikes--the incident on Tuesday (was he drunk then, too) then the one last night.

You can do better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend of 6 months and I had a little argument on Tuesday. He said something really mean, meant to be a joke but it wasnt funny. I got a promotion and he said something along the lines of me blowing my boss for a raise sleeping with him because of my good looks. He said it out at dinner in front of friends. I was humiliated and broke up with him that night. He tried calling and texting repeatedly but I refused contact, still pissed off. Last night he shows up at my door at 1:30AM drunk. He was belligerent and saying he loved me and apologizing over and over. He threw up and I took care of him. I got him in a bath ( no easily, mind you), cleaned his clothes and let him crash on my couch. This morning he was embarrassed by his behavior and asked me to go to dinner. Telling me how he loves and misses me. Should I give him another chance or why not?

I wouldn't. It wasn't meant to be a joke. It was meant to cut you down in front of your friends. He will never be supportive of your success.

[Anonymous]

How old is this guy?

Unless you are both very young (like college age) I'd say it's time to move on, as he sounds immature and possibly dangerous.

[Anonymous]

I agree your ex sounds immature and insecure OP. Even if you are young - you need to bounce. And try to find out what you found attractive from him in the beginning, so you don't potentially get into a relationship with someone else like him. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Lighten up. It was just a joke. You can let him know you felt hurt but breaking up over that seems really reactive unless the relationship meant nothing to begin with and even then seems awfully thin skinned and totally out of left field. If it is part of a larger pattern then that's another thing. Do you actually like your boyfriend OP? If yes of course take him back.

[Anonymous]

You broke up with him over a lame joke? It sounds like you must not have been that into him anyway if that is all it took to call it off after 6 months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend of 6 months and I had a little argument on Tuesday. He said something really mean, meant to be a joke but it wasnt funny. I got a promotion and he said something along the lines of me blowing my boss for a raise sleeping with him because of my good looks. He said it out at dinner in front of friends. I was humiliated and broke up with him that night. He tried calling and texting repeatedly but I refused contact, still pissed off. Last night he shows up at my door at 1:30AM drunk. He was belligerent and saying he loved me and apologizing over and over. He threw up and I took care of him. I got him in a bath ( no easily, mind you), cleaned his clothes and let him crash on my couch. This morning he was embarrassed by his behavior and asked me to go to dinner. Telling me how he loves and misses me. Should I give him another chance or why not?

I wouldn't. It wasn't meant to be a joke. It was meant to cut you down in front of your friends. He will never be supportive of your success.

This. He's shown you who he is.

[Anonymous]

How old are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are you?

Good question.

[Anonymous]

Stay away from him. He showed you his true colors. Don't expect it to get better over time.

[Anonymous]

It's one thing to make a joke like that in private, a whole other ball game at dinner in front of friends. And the drunken display last night? Hell no I wouldn't take him back.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he was jealous and tried to cover it up with something that really stretches the definition of a joke.

What is it about him that attracted you to him in the first place?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old is this guy?

Unless you are both very young (like college age) I'd say it's time to move on, as he sounds immature and possibly dangerous.

I am 22 and he is 26. I'm in college but he is out already.