He showed up drunk at my door -WWYD?

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Anonymous wrote:DTMF.

P.s. I'm a guy. The ex BF is a pathetic little turd IMO.

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a former PP here…after reading your second comment I want to say this:

I've been married to my DH 16 years and he has NEVER implied or said, in public or in private, anything degrading. He's *never* even called me a bitch even in the heat of a big argument.

You're barely 6 months in and this guy is joking in public about you blowing your boss?

Public humiliation is the #1 predictor of divorce.

NO, OP. Move on! Your instincts are correct.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. Lighten up. It was just a joke. You can let him know you felt hurt but breaking up over that seems really reactive unless the relationship meant nothing to begin with and even then seems awfully thin skinned and totally out of left field. If it is part of a larger pattern then that's another thing. Do you actually like your boyfriend OP? If yes of course take him back.

Of course I like him. In fact I'm in love with him. The part that hurt was even after explaining he didnt see how it cools hurt me. He likes to joke around but saying " did you suck his dick or let him bend you over the desk to get the promotion?" isn't ok. He said that in front of 3 of his friends and 2 of mine. It made me question what he really thinks of me and if he cares at all about my feelings.

I just turned 22 and he is going to be 27 in December.

Run, run, run. You are too young, and he is old enough to know better. Major red flag. Especially the lack of empathy once you made your feelings known.

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Anonymous wrote:Is the drunken display the stuff of all the sweet romantic comedies? Maybe he got drunk because he had just been dumped for no reason. Not the most mature way to handle it, but how would youl like it if he dumped you because of a joke you made? So he made a joke that you found to be in poor taste. People do that. Why would you be embarrassed? Did you really think your friends would think it was true? OP I think you both have maturity issues--his for his frat-boy sense of humor and way of dealing and you with your emotional reactivity and honestly I think the bigger problem lies with you. Do you generally trash 6 months of relationship investment based on a single joke?

It wasn't a joke. It was a sarcastic insult - he implied that his woman was a slut. What is funny about that?

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Anonymous wrote:Is the drunken display the stuff of all the sweet romantic comedies? Maybe he got drunk because he had just been dumped for no reason. Not the most mature way to handle it, but how would youl like it if he dumped you because of a joke you made? So he made a joke that you found to be in poor taste. People do that. Why would you be embarrassed? Did you really think your friends would think it was true? OP I think you both have maturity issues--his for his frat-boy sense of humor and way of dealing and you with your emotional reactivity and honestly I think the bigger problem lies with you. Do you generally trash 6 months of relationship investment based on a single joke?

It wasn't a joke. It was a sarcastic insult - he implied that his woman was a slut. What is funny about that?

+1. I hate when people say denigrating things and then they are like "can't you take a joke?" Such a cop out...like you can say whatever you want but as long as you say "it's a joke" at the end of it, it's all good- the other person is being too sensitive. OP, the pp who wrote that comment is wayyy off base and honestly your bf's comment and the pp's comment are examples of how we perpetuate a culture of violence and denigration of women in our society.

[Anonymous]

Leave him, OP.


You will live to regret it if you take him back. Mark my words and bookmark this post.

You will live to regret taking this guy back.

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Anonymous wrote:Is the drunken display the stuff of all the sweet romantic comedies? Maybe he got drunk because he had just been dumped for no reason. Not the most mature way to handle it, but how would youl like it if he dumped you because of a joke you made? So he made a joke that you found to be in poor taste. People do that. Why would you be embarrassed? Did you really think your friends would think it was true? OP I think you both have maturity issues--his for his frat-boy sense of humor and way of dealing and you with your emotional reactivity and honestly I think the bigger problem lies with you. Do you generally trash 6 months of relationship investment based on a single joke?

It wasn't a joke. It was a sarcastic insult - he implied that his woman was a slut. What is funny about that?

17:17 here ....+1

There was nothing funny about this and it wasn't a joke, either intended or as delivered.

I've been with DW for 34 yrs. and have never said anything like this in public ... nor in private.

Ex BF is an insecure, aggressive little twat. Leave him in the gutter where he belongs and someone else can try to deal with him if he ever grows up.

[Anonymous]

My last boyfriend was very crass, but he never said something about me on the same level as you describe. He always celebrated my accomplishments. He also would never get that drunk. But he ended up dumping me. You did the right thing, keep your head high girl!

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OP, I have been married 15 years and my DH would NEVER say something like this in front of other people. Your bf should be even more respectful when first dating you. Please do not take him back. I know you love him, but he needs to grow up and you should find someone else. He is old enough to know better.

[Anonymous]

Run, Bambi, run!

[Anonymous]

UNLESS you're already in love with him and he's been your best BF so far, def DO NOT give another chance

[Anonymous]

I would, it seems like a stupid, immature thing to say.

[Anonymous]

He feels threatened by your accomplishments. Congrats on the pro.orion OP and for being smarter than me at that age!!

[Anonymous]

Stay away from him. You've only be with him for 6 months. I cannot imagine what 6 years would look like.

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UNLESS you're already in love with him and he's been your best BF so far, def DO NOT give another chance

This is just scary. You don't give a guy like this another chance.