I'm an ugly woman. AMA.

[Anonymous]

Have you asked men out on dates? How do they respond? Have you ever flirted with a man in a bar, then made the first move to kiss him? If not, why not?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Aww, thanks, that was nice (to the first two PPs). I am touched. I am pretty ugly though. Where to start.

- Yes, big nose
- heavy acne scarring (dark blemishes and pits) which can probably only be corrected by laser (I've tried every cream - they don't work, especially not for pits, but not even for dark blemishes) all over my face, neck and upper chest
- 40 lbs over weight and with stretch marks and cellulite. I've been fighting the weight battle since I was 15, so throughout my prime in other words
- thin hair
- glasses (contact solution hurts my eyes, insurance doesn't cover LASIK surgery)
- just not a great face structure overall IMO

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Health savings will cover LASIK. You sign up for the LASIK doctors credit. You have the surgery you fax in the bill immediately to health savings ( my case FSAfeds) they reimburse before the first bill is due. Open season starts in nov 1. You can have the surgery January 2.

This is silly. There is nothing wrong with glasses. They don't make a person ugly at all. Lasik can have unplanned consequences. And can be inconvenient when your aging eyes change.

[Anonymous]

keep being a good friend and meeting new people. I hope you will get lucky and meet a good guy.

Interestingly, one of the "best" men I've come across (incredibly smart, good looking and does at least half the childcare/ cooking etc.) in my young adult life is married to one of the most ungainly women I know. But she's very intelligent and a good companion for him I'm sure. They've been married over 10 years.

[Anonymous]

If you could look like any celebrity, who would it be?

[Anonymous]

It's not your looks. It's your attitude.

http://www.cracked.com/blog/5-confessions-female-nice-guy/

[Anonymous]

I think all of the advice to get a nose job, makeover, etc. are misplaced and miss the point. Hey, anyone can benefit from a wardrobe update, new hair and some superficial improvement. But y'all are assuming that this will fix OP's issue.

Haven't we all known physically stunning people who nevertheless have poor confidence? Even though they've been told they are gorgeous they don't feel any self worth or they don't believe it? Some actually do not believe they are good looking. Some know it overall but laser in on their weaknesses. Others know they are goodlooking but for one reason or another don't feel worthy of happiness or being treated well. Some pursue relationships where they are objectified. Some of the most objectively beautiful women I know have sabotaged their chances at good relationships through poor self esteem.

And I think we have all seen or know people many would place in on the low end of the looks scale who are in fulfilling relationships. They've found someone who values them and they float each others' boats. Sometimes the couple has about the same looks rating, sometimes it's really asymmetrical. Doesn't matter.

OP could have her brain transplanted into the body of her choice tomorrow but if she walks around feeling ugly or invisible she'll project that.

[Anonymous]

The OP has to realize that one man's plain is another man's hot. I like urban, nerdy women who wear glasses. That is what I have liked since college. You just haven't met the right person yet.

[Anonymous]

Wow, are there that many nose jobs in the D.C. area?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, are there that many nose jobs in the D.C. area?

Almost everyone I know had one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 28 years old, have a job, have friends and a normal, pleasant social life, and I have a nice and loving family. I've never had a boyfriend, I've been on two dates, and I've kissed three times (all drunk make-outs in college). I'm the Queen of Plain Janes. Ask me anything.

Your life sounds good to me.

Live it.

Men come and go. Happiness is forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, are there that many nose jobs in the D.C. area?

Almost everyone I know had one.

Really what background/s? Curious. Do they come out and tell you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, are there that many nose jobs in the D.C. area?

Almost everyone I know had one.

Really what background/s? Curious. Do they come out and tell you?

NP. I move in such different circles.

[Anonymous]

Eleanor Roosevelt wasn't pretty but look at what she acjieved. As Judge Judy says, beauty fades but smart is forever. You sound like a nice person and that is a lot better than pretty and mean. Also, I, too, bet you are not ugly.

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Anonymous wrote:OP you are in the prime of your life. I have no idea if you are truly ugly or not. But if you think so then you should fix it NOW. Not twenty years from now. You should be having fun, flirting, dating in your 20s. You sound lonely and it doesn't have to be that way. 1) lose weight. Join crossfit and meet like minded people. 2) see a very good derm to discuss laser treatment for your skin. Neither one of these is major but could help. Get a personal shopper at Nordstrom. Get a great haircut and good hair color and free make up lessons. Lots of people will have said don't bother because you don't want a man who cares about looks. Well I live in the real,world and it doesn't make someone shallow to. Or ice persons looks initially. You are young. Don't give up yet. Very few people are truly ugly, it's a just difference in the amount of effort.

I agree with this poster. Be proactive, OP!

Ugh. "Join crossfit & meet like minded people." Who's to say OP's people are at crossfit!?

OP why do you think you've never dated? Do you really think it's your looks? Or a vibe you put out? Do you ever flirt with men? Are you interested in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, are there that many nose jobs in the D.C. area?

Almost everyone I know had one.

Really what background/s? Curious. Do they come out and tell you?

NP. I move in such different circles.

I know many "Persian" (Iranian) women who have had nose jobs. Is this what you are saying?