I'm an ugly woman. AMA.

[Anonymous]

I'm 28 years old, have a job, have friends and a normal, pleasant social life, and I have a nice and loving family. I've never had a boyfriend, I've been on two dates, and I've kissed three times (all drunk make-outs in college). I'm the Queen of Plain Janes. Ask me anything.

[Anonymous]

I'll bet you are not as "ugly" as you think. Hugs to you, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll bet you are not as "ugly" as you think. Hugs to you, OP.

+1

[Anonymous]

Your worth is not determined by what you look like.

[Anonymous]

What's so ugly about you? Is your face hardcore asymmetrical or something? Do you have a huge nose? How's your hair and body? Your teeth?

I ask this as a women with a pretty face and hair and nice skin, but a fat body. I guess men are more forgiving of fat than ugly. But it's still difficult either way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll bet you are not as "ugly" as you think. Hugs to you, OP.

+1

Agree. I think you are too hard on yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your worth is not determined by what you look like.

+ a million

self esteem can go a long way

[Anonymous]

Aww, thanks, that was nice (to the first two PPs). I am touched. I am pretty ugly though. Where to start.

- Yes, big nose
- heavy acne scarring (dark blemishes and pits) which can probably only be corrected by laser (I've tried every cream - they don't work, especially not for pits, but not even for dark blemishes) all over my face, neck and upper chest
- 40 lbs over weight and with stretch marks and cellulite. I've been fighting the weight battle since I was 15, so throughout my prime in other words
- thin hair
- glasses (contact solution hurts my eyes, insurance doesn't cover LASIK surgery)
- just not a great face structure overall IMO

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[Anonymous]

OP again. The other reason why I know I'm not pretty is that I've never gotten attention from men. Or if I do, it's when I'm alone and my gorgeous friends aren't around me. I'm accustomed to being the invisible, ignored one, standing by the side while my friends get hit on.

[Anonymous]

Would you want someone to like you for your looks? Is that what you like about people? Looks fade an amazing personality doesn't. My husband is not the hottest guy out there, but he's an amazing husband, friend and father. I wouldn't change him in for a hot guy for anything and I've been married for 9 years.

[Anonymous]

I really didn't mean for this to become an advice thread for me (but thank you all, it's well-intentioned). I just think the experiences of truly unattractive women are worth learning about.

I wouldn't say I want someone to like me just for my looks. It's just that you understand what it feels like to be undesirable, unwanted, and invisible for most of your life - in a romantic sense. I'm very desirable as a friend and quite popular. It's as a romantic or sexual prospect that I experience invisibility.

[Anonymous]

Has the invisibility helped you in any way?

[Anonymous]

In som ways. It's certainly less pressure. and gives me the freedom to enjoy my evening without distraction.

[Anonymous]

Tell us about your personality. Are you fun to talk to? What do you like to do for fun?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aww, thanks, that was nice (to the first two PPs). I am touched. I am pretty ugly though. Where to start.

- Yes, big nose
- heavy acne scarring (dark blemishes and pits) which can probably only be corrected by laser (I've tried every cream - they don't work, especially not for pits, but not even for dark blemishes) all over my face, neck and upper chest
- 40 lbs over weight and with stretch marks and cellulite. I've been fighting the weight battle since I was 15, so throughout my prime in other words
- thin hair
- glasses (contact solution hurts my eyes, insurance doesn't cover LASIK surgery)
- just not a great face structure overall IMO

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You can still have LASIK and pay out of pocket.