I'm an ugly woman. AMA.

[Anonymous]

What about pursuing a guy in your own looks category?

[Anonymous]

Getting a man I don't think is dependent on physical beauty. I have seen several unattractive people in awesome relationships and marriages.

Personality is key. I have an acquaintance that is very unattractive, 300 plus pounds and guys adore her. She is the life of the party.

I myself am attractive, more cute then anything but my personality is nothing like hers. She gets the guy every time even though outwardly I'm much more attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Getting a man I don't think is dependent on physical beauty. I have seen several unattractive people in awesome relationships and marriages.

Personality is key. I have an acquaintance that is very unattractive, 300 plus pounds and guys adore her. She is the life of the party.

I myself am attractive, more cute then anything but my personality is nothing like hers. She gets the guy every time even though outwardly I'm much more attractive.

You're right, it does sound like you have a bad personality.

[Anonymous]

I know what it's like to be the ignored, invisible friend. Sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Getting a man I don't think is dependent on physical beauty. I have seen several unattractive people in awesome relationships and marriages.

Personality is key. I have an acquaintance that is very unattractive, 300 plus pounds and guys adore her. She is the life of the party.

I myself am attractive, more cute then anything but my personality is nothing like hers. She gets the guy every time even though outwardly I'm much more attractive.

You're right, it does sound like you have a bad personality.

Wow, that was really unkind. PP was just trying to make an honest point, not toot her own horn. Go to bed.

[Anonymous]

My hair was thinning so I got a weave. Makes a big difference.

[Anonymous]

You will feel at home in dc

[Anonymous]

OP, all women are beautiful.

[Anonymous]

I am a middle aged man, not particularly attractive (50 lbs overweight; scars from surgery; skin age spots). But, when I was single, I mainly looked for personality.

I think the problem you are having is that you are 28. At 28, men are very superficial. However, there are guys out there that are looking for smart and funny.

[Anonymous]

Glasses don't equal ugly. That's a tv/movie trope. I wear glasses and have never lacked male attention. You need to find a pair that flatters your face.

[Anonymous]

M here. I think glasses are sexy.

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Anonymous wrote:This is one of the saddest threads I've ever read. OP you are as attractive as you feel you are. Not everyone feels great all the time, but to think you're ugly is to attract negativity. You need to be kind to yourself, it's the only way to love and be loved. It sounds cheesy but you need to stand in the mirror every day, look yourself in the eye and say, "I forgive you. I love you." Can't remember who I heard recommend this but it's life-changing. Do it till you believe it. GL.

This is so stupid and condescending. I am not the OP, but I am also less-than-average and you can ot just will your way into being pretty. Self-acceptance is great, but your physical self is your physical self. If someone was bad at sports or had a learning disability, would you tell them that the problem is their aren't co fide t enough? Life's not fair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - have you ever been evaluated for PCOS? Acne, being overweight (despite not over eating), and thin hair are all symptoms. Not everyone has the obvious symptom of cysts...

I was just about to post this!


OP, I don't consider myself very attractive, but met and married a wonderful man who also happens to be very good looking. He thinks I'm cute. It only takes one!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is one of the saddest threads I've ever read. OP you are as attractive as you feel you are. Not everyone feels great all the time, but to think you're ugly is to attract negativity. You need to be kind to yourself, it's the only way to love and be loved. It sounds cheesy but you need to stand in the mirror every day, look yourself in the eye and say, "I forgive you. I love you." Can't remember who I heard recommend this but it's life-changing. Do it till you believe it. GL.

This is so stupid and condescending. I am not the OP, but I am also less-than-average and you can ot just will your way into being pretty. Self-acceptance is great, but your physical self is your physical self. If someone was bad at sports or had a learning disability, would you tell them that the problem is their aren't co fide t enough? Life's not fair.

I don't know how the OP looks, but I can guarantee it's not her body that is hindering her in dating. If it is her looks, it's her clothes and the way she does her hair, which can be changed.

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Anonymous wrote:What's so ugly about you? Is your face hardcore asymmetrical or something? Do you have a huge nose? How's your hair and body? Your teeth?

I ask this as a women with a pretty face and hair and nice skin, but a fat body. I guess men are more forgiving of fat than ugly. But it's still difficult either way.

I disagree. Plenty of butter-faces with hot bodies get the hottest guys.

Having said that, I doubt you're ugly. I do think you have low self esteem.