I'm an ugly woman. AMA.

[Anonymous]

have you thought about getting a nose job?

[Anonymous]

Do you want to be pretty? Or do you care?

[Anonymous]

You can still have LASIK and pay out of pocket.

I'm trying to save up, but I don't earn much so it's not going quickly right now. I also want to save up to use a laser on my skin, but that's even more expensive so I might need to ask my parents to chip in for that.

Tell us about your personality. Are you fun to talk to? What do you like to do for fun?

I am fun! I'm pretty bubbly and very friendly, and a girl's girl so I have lots of female friends. (Many of them are gorgeous - I try to rise above my insecurity and be happy for them). I'm also a great cook and I love hosting dinners and entertaining.

I like knitting, going to rock concerts, cooking/baking, and fiddling with my Netflix queue.

[Anonymous]

Why was your skin so bad?

[Anonymous]

have you thought about getting a nose job?

Of course I've thought about it, but I likely won't. Money is one issue, but I also don't like the message it sends. As average and mediocre as my face is, it's still my face and I don't think I'd feel "authentically pretty". Plus, I don't think people would respect me very much if I did that.

Do you want to be pretty? Or do you care?

Of course I care; I care a lot. Most days I try not to let it get to me and be happy with what I have, and happy for the pretty girls. But then my eternal singlehood is a sore spot, and going out to a bar and being ignored while they get hit on - or going to a restaurant and having the waiter bring my friend a complimentary drink from a "mysterious admirer" - all hurt.

It's just something I have to learn to come to terms with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why was your skin so bad?

Some people are blessed with good skin, but many of us are not. I started breaking out at the age of ten and I still break out - adult acne. I've tried every acne medicine and been to every dermatologist. It still a battle and to be honest I've fought it less and less as time goes on. Like - if the pimple wants to come and then leave yet another scar on face, then go ahead. I'm tired of fighting it. Often I go out without wearing any make up at all, because I don't care. So men see me in all my Two-Face/Harvey Dent glory, lol.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you think people would respect you if you had a nose job?
Those people would be losers if they lost respect for you because of that.
Anyway, you gave to stop caring what those people think. You need to make yourself happy.

btw, I had a nose job and never even told anyone family, not even friends. Nobody asked.

[Anonymous]

Have you tried Internet dating?

[Anonymous]

I have tried OK Cupid and Tinder - almost nobody asked me out.

[Anonymous]

If an average-looking guy at your dinner party took you aside and said he wanted to take you to the bedroom (after every else leaves) for a wild night of freaky fun, would you say yes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If an average-looking guy at your dinner party took you aside and said he wanted to take you to the bedroom (after every else leaves) for a wild night of freaky fun, would you say yes?

I have no problem with average-looking guys. And I certainly have no problem with wild nights of freaky fun. I probably wouldn't do that with anyone I wasn't in a relationship with, though. Just not a casual sex person.

[Anonymous]

NP here. I am considered a fairly attractive woman. I get attention from men. I have a great personality and I am a go-getter and achiever at work and in my social sphere.

In my heart though I feel as if I am very unattractive. I just do not like my facial structure and I am envious of people who are self confident in their looks. I do not come across as insecure IRL because I know how to fake self confidence - but when I look at myself in the mirror - I just see ugliness.

I have always felt ugly - even when I was a kid. The reason could be that my mom was stunningly beautiful (actually, she still is - jaw dropping gorgeous!), but she is shy and an introvert. So, I became opposite of her. I became an extrovert and worked to improve my personality and be extremely well read etc...

I sometimes fantasize about what would it be like to be a world class beauty and look at yourself in the mirror and see just perfection. But, I am sure even beauty queens are insecure.

[Anonymous]

Agree with PP. Many women feel ugly. I was ugly until maybe high school. It took many years to begin to realize how attractive I became. Fortunately that meant I worked tirelessly to become educated and a good person. I hope that you find happiness in your looks OP.

[Anonymous]

I got one word for you OP...p%ssy.
I don't care how ugly you are, at the end of the day as long as you have a p%ssy you are not doomed to eternal singlehood and that's real talk.

[Anonymous]

OP - have you ever been evaluated for PCOS? Acne, being overweight (despite not over eating), and thin hair are all symptoms. Not everyone has the obvious symptom of cysts...