How often do you and partner have sex??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You guys are hilarious. I am a full-time working mom mid 40s parent to three kids. I contribute half of the income to our family. I'm actually taking a day off today. Why would I be reading dcum? No idea. I'm curious, but I'd like to know your socioeconomic status. Do you work? Is your husband making most of the money?

48 year old mom to two teenagers. I make 50% of the money. Off today because I have family in town. HHI is over $400K.

[Anonymous]

45 yo, together since college, 1 DD who is 9. 1-2 times per week. Would be more but I have Fibromyalgia that limits a lot of what I can do

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Talk to most women who aren't protected by anonymity (think-friends at work, siblings, runner girlfriends) and we all just hope to be left alone by our husbands. Mine has never been interested in my pleasure . Grew up puritanical catholic. I should have known better but he is a good provider. However, sex I only want with my lover.

Given the lack of anonymity and the uniform responses, it sounds like the group dynamic pressures women into saying they hate sex with their husbands. Doesn't necessarily make it true. Maybe there is some kind of slut shaming going on in your group.

[Anonymous]

8-12 times per month, but it's all condensed into the few days we get to see each other. It's a long distance relationship.

[Anonymous]

I'm impressed, it seems that most folks are enjoying an active sex life despite having young kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm impressed, it seems that most folks are enjoying an active sex life despite having young kids.

The alternative is we don't and our husbands either have affairs or divorce us or learn to resent us and ditch us even our youngest child is 18.

[Anonymous]

You should broaden your question to ask about frequency outside of the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm impressed, it seems that most folks are enjoying an active sex life despite having young kids.

The alternative is we don't and our husbands either have affairs or divorce us or learn to resent us and ditch us even our youngest child is 18.

I'm one of the pps who has frequent sex. Not my reason at all and I actually have a higher sex drive than DH. I have sex with him for the same reasons I had sex with him pre kids. Has nothing to do with the alternative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm impressed, it seems that most folks are enjoying an active sex life despite having young kids.

The alternative is we don't and our husbands either have affairs or divorce us or learn to resent us and ditch us even our youngest child is 18.

The alternative is a boring sex life. That's not an acceptable option, IMO.

[Anonymous]

Been together for 9 years married for 5, have sex before kids 3x's week. After first kid, 1x every week or other week. With 2 kids, 1x every month. We are really tired most of the time and the other day when we fooled around, we got caught by our 3 year old which was a sex kill.

[Anonymous]

So yay! Not only do we have to do natural unmedicated childbirth, breastfeed, haul our asses to work while still inhumanely sleep deprived, "lean in" at work while wondering if 50 hrs of childcare a week is harming your bond with your baby, make healthy appealing meals, keep organized houses, do cardio 5x/week, stay skinny, find something to wear other than capris ... but we also have to immediately start having sex 3-4 times a week or we will be "boring" and our DHs will leave us. Oh, and we should be orgasming 2-3 times per session. Got it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So yay! Not only do we have to do natural unmedicated childbirth, breastfeed, haul our asses to work while still inhumanely sleep deprived, "lean in" at work while wondering if 50 hrs of childcare a week is harming your bond with your baby, make healthy appealing meals, keep organized houses, do cardio 5x/week, stay skinny, find something to wear other than capris ... but we also have to immediately start having sex 3-4 times a week or we will be "boring" and our DHs will leave us. Oh, and we should be orgasming 2-3 times per session. Got it.

I do what makes me happy. Part of that is having sex or oral 3-4 times a week and having multiple orgasms. It has nothing to do with DH. That's what I want and how I feel. I don't care as much about staying skinny (ok I've never been skinny. Fit yes, skinny no). And I'm fine ordering Chinese if it means DH and I can not worry about dishes and cooking and can just relax with each otHer. People have different priorities and different things that make them happy. For me, that's being intimate with DH.

[Anonymous]

This thread is fascinating. You folks are having way more sex than I am and the women in my circle of friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is fascinating. You folks are having way more sex than I am and the women in my circle of friends.

I know. Super sexually active women posters, another question. During times on your life when you were single (if you ever were), did you masturbate as often as you now have sex with your partner? If youR libido is that high and you want it as often as he does, you would think you wanted it just as much when you were alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So yay! Not only do we have to do natural unmedicated childbirth, breastfeed, haul our asses to work while still inhumanely sleep deprived, "lean in" at work while wondering if 50 hrs of childcare a week is harming your bond with your baby, make healthy appealing meals, keep organized houses, do cardio 5x/week, stay skinny, find something to wear other than capris ... but we also have to immediately start having sex 3-4 times a week or we will be "boring" and our DHs will leave us. Oh, and we should be orgasming 2-3 times per session. Got it.

Is it so hard to get that some people have different priorities than those mentioned in your post? Id ask why you are so bitter...but I think I know why