How often do you and partner have sex??

[Anonymous]

Married 10 years, down to 4-5 times per year!

FWB - 5-6 times each time we are together. Easily 10 times these past 2 days.

[Anonymous]

Together 16 years. Two kids 4 & 8. When I was nursing each child my sex drive completely vanished.

Outside of that, 3-4xs a week. My DH is ready each and every day, just like when we first met.

I strongly believe that if you don't use it you lose it. the more sex you have the more sex you want. We would do it daily, but I wake up at 5AM to go to the gym every morning. Sometimes we both come home for work, get the kids busy with something and do a quickie in the shower or in the master bedroom closet That way I can get to bed early!

[Anonymous]

Keep an eye on it and keep making an effort, OP. My DW and I were about where you guys seem to be. I wanted it every 7-10 days. She probably wanted it every 5-6. We probably averaged once a week.

Then, after kids, our sex life plummeted. Maybe once a month. I hit the panic button when it got to two months. I wanted it more because I couldn't have it. Now I want sex every 2-3 days, my wife says she wants sex once a week, and yet we only have sex about twice a month now.

Been married 15 years, have 2 kids ages 8 & 9.

[Anonymous]

married 5 years. twin toddlers.

sex once in the past year. (I'm the wife, I'm the one upset about it.)

[Anonymous]

I'm a DH and don't want to do it as much as I do but feel I need to to prove something. Not sure what.

[Anonymous]

Married 6 years. Lucky to do it once a month. Two kids - one K one in pre-school. DW is a SAHM with part-time help, but despite that DW always too tired, hasn't showered, feels yucky, not in the mood, feels fat, PMS-y, etc.

[Anonymous]

5-6 times a week, married for a year and a half, together for almost 10, no kids

[Anonymous]

Sadly once a week. DH just isn't interested and we're both super tired.

We have a great marriage though and are crazy in love, make out and show affection in other ways. Sad.

[Anonymous]

Married about 15 years and three kids. We're on the once a month plan -- when I'm lucky. If I could have sex with my wife 3-4 times a week, I would. She's no longer interested. I guess I served my purpose.

[Anonymous]

Married 15 years. Less than once per month. My husband isn't interested. We have talked about it. Tried scheduling. Works for a short time and then back to the status quo. Before kids, 3 or 4 times per week.

[Anonymous]

Together 20 years , married 16 , 5 - 6 times/week
Empty nesters

[Anonymous]

No less than 17 times per week.

[Anonymous]

So is it impossible to maintain formerly active sx life once kids are here??

[Anonymous]

Good grief! So grateful that my DH is interested is having sex with me. A once a week sex life or less would be pretty bleak. My DH is at me every day-though I'd say we average 4xs a week. I thought all men were like that.

I guess it works if you both are sexually matched, but f not, it would be pretty demoralizing and certainly make the relationship vulnerable to affairs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So is it impossible to maintain formerly active sx life once kids are here??

A lot of people have chimed in 3, 4, 5xs a week. What exactly do you consider active?