Judgemental DC parents

[Anonymous]

So - one last comment and then I am out. I could have been self conscious. I was there with my kids on father's day. I forgot to put on any jewelry so I did not have on my engagement ring/wedding band, so as a pp mentioned maybe the woman thought I was a single/ divorced mother out with my kids on father's day.

Was I feeling guilty? NO. I had a super busy weekend with my kids doing a million outdoor fun things. I have no issues with TV/ ipad balanced with lots of other physical activities.

For those of you who have speculated that I was projecting on this woman, it is not the case. I know what I know. She did not have resting bitch face (although I can laugh at that!), she was looking at me with an air of superiority whispering to her husband about me using the iphone. That is a fact.

Whatever she felt, she behaved rudely. I did not deserve that treatment and just because it hurt my feelings it does not make me mentally ill or whatever other things these posters have called me.

Maybe I am not in the majority, but I still believe in civility. What bugs me about this whole thing is that she did not think that there was reason enough to avoid treating a stranger rudely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Not sure what she said. She watched me pull out the phone and as soon as I put the phone down, she started whispering in her husband's ear as she was staring at the phone on the table and he then turned to look at it, so I can be 100% sure that is what she was talking about.

Just a bummer and frankly are we all teaching our kids to be nasty and judgmental too?

Wait, so you didn't even hear her say anything? Sorry, but you're the problem OP. For all you know, she was whispering "Oh, man, I hope the kids don't see that and ask us to get out the Iphone." Because some people are trying to cut down on their kids' screen time. Big deal.
Or you were playing it too loud and they thought that was rude, and they talked about it in a whispered conversation between husband and wife. Who cares? Sounds like you're looking to be offended.

a) it was not too loud, b) I am 100% sure that she was making a nasty comment. I could see her face and I could see her body language even if I could not hear the words.

You are assuming -- chick may just have resting bitch face...you have no idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So - one last comment and then I am out. I could have been self conscious. I was there with my kids on father's day. I forgot to put on any jewelry so I did not have on my engagement ring/wedding band, so as a pp mentioned maybe the woman thought I was a single/ divorced mother out with my kids on father's day.

Was I feeling guilty? NO. I had a super busy weekend with my kids doing a million outdoor fun things. I have no issues with TV/ ipad balanced with lots of other physical activities.

For those of you who have speculated that I was projecting on this woman, it is not the case. I know what I know. She did not have resting bitch face (although I can laugh at that!), she was looking at me with an air of superiority whispering to her husband about me using the iphone. That is a fact.

Whatever she felt, she behaved rudely. I did not deserve that treatment and just because it hurt my feelings it does not make me mentally ill or whatever other things these posters have called me.

Maybe I am not in the majority, but I still believe in civility. What bugs me about this whole thing is that she did not think that there was reason enough to avoid treating a stranger rudely.

Sorry, but just because you feel certain of something doesn't make it a fact. You're probably right, but you don't know for sure. For all you know, she was giving you the stinkeye and whispering "Isn't that the woman that Joel left Barbara for?" I mean, really, you don't know. This is nowhere near a fact. It's your interpretation of events which you can choose to get upset and angry and, yes, judgmental, for, or not. I wouldn't have given it a second of thought.

[Anonymous]

OP, I think you're probably right that you encountered someone who whispered rudely about you and that's a shame, but your righteous indignation is over the top.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So - one last comment and then I am out. I could have been self conscious. I was there with my kids on father's day. I forgot to put on any jewelry so I did not have on my engagement ring/wedding band, so as a pp mentioned maybe the woman thought I was a single/ divorced mother out with my kids on father's day.

Was I feeling guilty? NO. I had a super busy weekend with my kids doing a million outdoor fun things. I have no issues with TV/ ipad balanced with lots of other physical activities.

For those of you who have speculated that I was projecting on this woman, it is not the case. I know what I know. She did not have resting bitch face (although I can laugh at that!), she was looking at me with an air of superiority whispering to her husband about me using the iphone. That is a fact.

Whatever she felt, she behaved rudely. I did not deserve that treatment and just because it hurt my feelings it does not make me mentally ill or whatever other things these posters have called me.

Maybe I am not in the majority, but I still believe in civility. What bugs me about this whole thing is that she did not think that there was reason enough to avoid treating a stranger rudely.

Earlier in the thread you told someone to f--- off...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you're probably right that you encountered someone who whispered rudely about you and that's a shame, but your righteous indignation is over the top.

I would have been upset too. Also at all the nasty posters on this thread who probably behave like that woman on a regular basis and think nothing of it. Don't like your attitudes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you're probably right that you encountered someone who whispered rudely about you and that's a shame, but your righteous indignation is over the top.

I would have been upset too. Also at all the nasty posters on this thread who probably behave like that woman on a regular basis and think nothing of it. Don't like your attitudes.

Nope, not right. I would never give someone the stinkeye unless they had personally harmed me or my family. But I still think OP is being defensive, arrogant, judgmental, and cares way too much about what other people think. And getting angry and indignant over something that doesn't even merit her attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Using the iPhone is not a problem, but it's inconsiderate to play an audio device within earshot of others. Use earphones or have them play a game that does not require audio.

The volume was down very low. We were sitting outside with traffic passing. I could hardly hear it. I guarantee she could not hear anything.

Never okay. Never! Use headphones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So - one last comment and then I am out. I could have been self conscious. I was there with my kids on father's day. I forgot to put on any jewelry so I did not have on my engagement ring/wedding band, so as a pp mentioned maybe the woman thought I was a single/ divorced mother out with my kids on father's day.

Was I feeling guilty? NO. I had a super busy weekend with my kids doing a million outdoor fun things. I have no issues with TV/ ipad balanced with lots of other physical activities.

For those of you who have speculated that I was projecting on this woman, it is not the case. I know what I know. She did not have resting bitch face (although I can laugh at that!), she was looking at me with an air of superiority whispering to her husband about me using the iphone. That is a fact.

Whatever she felt, she behaved rudely. I did not deserve that treatment and just because it hurt my feelings it does not make me mentally ill or whatever other things these posters have called me.

Maybe I am not in the majority, but I still believe in civility. What bugs me about this whole thing is that she did not think that there was reason enough to avoid treating a stranger rudely.

Earlier in the thread you told someone to f--- off...

Uh yes - after she used her magical powers of divination to diagnose me with a mental illness! I never said I would not defend myself, just that I go out of my way not to be rude to people for no reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So - one last comment and then I am out. I could have been self conscious. I was there with my kids on father's day. I forgot to put on any jewelry so I did not have on my engagement ring/wedding band, so as a pp mentioned maybe the woman thought I was a single/ divorced mother out with my kids on father's day.

Was I feeling guilty? NO. I had a super busy weekend with my kids doing a million outdoor fun things. I have no issues with TV/ ipad balanced with lots of other physical activities.

For those of you who have speculated that I was projecting on this woman, it is not the case. I know what I know. She did not have resting bitch face (although I can laugh at that!), she was looking at me with an air of superiority whispering to her husband about me using the iphone. That is a fact.

Whatever she felt, she behaved rudely. I did not deserve that treatment and just because it hurt my feelings it does not make me mentally ill or whatever other things these posters have called me.

Maybe I am not in the majority, but I still believe in civility. What bugs me about this whole thing is that she did not think that there was reason enough to avoid treating a stranger rudely.

She absolutely behaved rudely, deliberately. so. Which is why I said I would have messed with her. The only thing these type of people understand is when you turn it on them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So - one last comment and then I am out. I could have been self conscious. I was there with my kids on father's day. I forgot to put on any jewelry so I did not have on my engagement ring/wedding band, so as a pp mentioned maybe the woman thought I was a single/ divorced mother out with my kids on father's day.

Was I feeling guilty? NO. I had a super busy weekend with my kids doing a million outdoor fun things. I have no issues with TV/ ipad balanced with lots of other physical activities.

For those of you who have speculated that I was projecting on this woman, it is not the case. I know what I know. She did not have resting bitch face (although I can laugh at that!), she was looking at me with an air of superiority whispering to her husband about me using the iphone. That is a fact.

Whatever she felt, she behaved rudely. I did not deserve that treatment and just because it hurt my feelings it does not make me mentally ill or whatever other things these posters have called me.

Maybe I am not in the majority, but I still believe in civility. What bugs me about this whole thing is that she did not think that there was reason enough to avoid treating a stranger rudely.

Earlier in the thread you told someone to f--- off...

Uh yes - after she used her magical powers of divination to diagnose me with a mental illness! I never said I would not defend myself, just that I go out of my way not to be rude to people for no reason.

OMG, the diagnoser! People like that are hilarious parodies of normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So - one last comment and then I am out. I could have been self conscious. I was there with my kids on father's day. I forgot to put on any jewelry so I did not have on my engagement ring/wedding band, so as a pp mentioned maybe the woman thought I was a single/ divorced mother out with my kids on father's day.

Was I feeling guilty? NO. I had a super busy weekend with my kids doing a million outdoor fun things. I have no issues with TV/ ipad balanced with lots of other physical activities.

For those of you who have speculated that I was projecting on this woman, it is not the case. I know what I know. She did not have resting bitch face (although I can laugh at that!), she was looking at me with an air of superiority whispering to her husband about me using the iphone. That is a fact.

Whatever she felt, she behaved rudely. I did not deserve that treatment and just because it hurt my feelings it does not make me mentally ill or whatever other things these posters have called me.

Maybe I am not in the majority, but I still believe in civility. What bugs me about this whole thing is that she did not think that there was reason enough to avoid treating a stranger rudely.

Earlier in the thread you told someone to f--- off...

Uh yes - after she used her magical powers of divination to diagnose me with a mental illness! I never said I would not defend myself, just that I go out of my way not to be rude to people for no reason.

Just like you used your magical powers to divine what the lady in the restaurant was feeling/saying?
OP - you sound crazy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So - one last comment and then I am out. I could have been self conscious. I was there with my kids on father's day. I forgot to put on any jewelry so I did not have on my engagement ring/wedding band, so as a pp mentioned maybe the woman thought I was a single/ divorced mother out with my kids on father's day.

Was I feeling guilty? NO. I had a super busy weekend with my kids doing a million outdoor fun things. I have no issues with TV/ ipad balanced with lots of other physical activities.

For those of you who have speculated that I was projecting on this woman, it is not the case. I know what I know. She did not have resting bitch face (although I can laugh at that!), she was looking at me with an air of superiority whispering to her husband about me using the iphone. That is a fact.

Whatever she felt, she behaved rudely. I did not deserve that treatment and just because it hurt my feelings it does not make me mentally ill or whatever other things these posters have called me.

Maybe I am not in the majority, but I still believe in civility. What bugs me about this whole thing is that she did not think that there was reason enough to avoid treating a stranger rudely.

She absolutely behaved rudely, deliberately. so. Which is why I said I would have messed with her. The only thing these type of people understand is when you turn it on them.

You know this how? WEre you even there? This isn't OP, right? That's hilarious. YOu are so desperate to have an excuse to be angry and mean that you ar "certain" someone was so rude they deserve to have you actively interfere with their family time. Crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So - one last comment and then I am out. I could have been self conscious. I was there with my kids on father's day. I forgot to put on any jewelry so I did not have on my engagement ring/wedding band, so as a pp mentioned maybe the woman thought I was a single/ divorced mother out with my kids on father's day.

Was I feeling guilty? NO. I had a super busy weekend with my kids doing a million outdoor fun things. I have no issues with TV/ ipad balanced with lots of other physical activities.

For those of you who have speculated that I was projecting on this woman, it is not the case. I know what I know. She did not have resting bitch face (although I can laugh at that!), she was looking at me with an air of superiority whispering to her husband about me using the iphone. That is a fact.

Whatever she felt, she behaved rudely. I did not deserve that treatment and just because it hurt my feelings it does not make me mentally ill or whatever other things these posters have called me.

Maybe I am not in the majority, but I still believe in civility. What bugs me about this whole thing is that she did not think that there was reason enough to avoid treating a stranger rudely.

She absolutely behaved rudely, deliberately. so. Which is why I said I would have messed with her. The only thing these type of people understand is when you turn it on them.

You know this how? WEre you even there? This isn't OP, right? That's hilarious. YOu are so desperate to have an excuse to be angry and mean that you ar "certain" someone was so rude they deserve to have you actively interfere with their family time. Crazy.

OP here. This is not my comment. I did not say anything to the woman and would not have with my and her children present.

[Anonymous]

You played an iphone with volume on. Any level is not okay. Terribly rude! Own it.