If you are in the late 30-40's age range with young kids do you look your age?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 with one child. I'm Asian - I look about 29 or 30 and people are surprised to know I am married and have a kid. Asians generally look younger than their age. Frankly I find it disturbing because at work some people tend to not take seriously - they think I'm a recent graduate and don't have experience whereas I've been working for many many years and am at Manager level. Once they get to know me and my work it works out fine. But the initial reaction is annoying.

They think you are 29 and a recent graduate?

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27 with a 4 and 1 yo. Usually mistaken for 21

Oh, please. Anyone in their twenties can pass. You have nothing to brag about. Come back and talk to us in 10 or 20 years and see how well you are holding up then.

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Everyone DCUM thinks they look 10-20 years younger. When will people learn that saying "OMG you look so much younger" or "O wow I thought you were ____ (enter an age 7 years below the age they know you are)" are COMMON courtesy compliments and truly mean nothing. Its another way of saying you looking great. Sorry to break your bubble but people don't think you are 31 when you are 44, they just don't.


This is so true. I've said that many times "oh you look so much younger!" just as a common courtesy. Almost everyone I know looks their age. Many of you are fooling yourselves! Get a grip, you probably look your age (or older!).


PP here. By the way, this goes for women of ALL races/ethnicities. So tired of hearing darker-skinned ladies talking about how you don't age - you do! We all do! It's shown in different ways, but I can spot the difference between a 40 yo Asian woman and a 20 yo Asian woman! And the 40 yo is not going to look very different from the 40yo white woman, or the black woman, or latina....

Exactly. You can try fooling yourselves, but the changes are still there.

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone DCUM thinks they look 10-20 years younger. When will people learn that saying "OMG you look so much younger" or "O wow I thought you were ____ (enter an age 7 years below the age they know you are)" are COMMON courtesy compliments and truly mean nothing. Its another way of saying you looking great. Sorry to break your bubble but people don't think you are 31 when you are 44, they just don't.

It depends on the person. I'm very short and very thin. Most people put me at late teens to early 20s. When we switched dentists, my husband mentioned to the new dental hygienist that his daughter had just graduated. I walked in a few minutes later and the hygienist congratulated me and asked if I was ready for college. I was 43 at the time. At 44. a young colleague age 27 was being very patronizing until I casually worked my age into the conversation. She later admitted she was being a bitch to me because she assumed I was much younger than her. I always have to find ways to make it known that I'm older or risk clients treating me like an idiot. People usually get it once I start talking but physically I look like a child.

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People seem to assume I am a little younger, but I see the changes and think I look early 40s, which I am. For quite a long time people thought I was undergrad age, and the aging happened pretty fast around 40.

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I am 42 and have three kids. I think I look mid 40's. I keep fantasizing about taking the time and energy to take better care of myself, but obviously I'm not so great at it yet. In some ways I'm proud of my wrinkles - I feel like I earned them by taking chances, living hard, living fully - but I'd sure rather be one of y'all who looks a decade younger!!

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I'm 44 and a fair skinned, small framed caucasian woman. Generally, I think smaller "reads" younger. Possibly fair skinned people appear "innocent" and that also skews younger? Ive always been told that I look " innocent" and I think that's mostly due to having a baby face.

I have a 15 year old and when this comes up in conversation, I can see the person doing the math in his her/ head and trying to figure out of I was a teen mom! Forthe DC area, I practically was!

No, I do not look my age...I don't look 25, but can hang with my mid 30s co workers and you'd not guess I was oldest in the office.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 43 with a 2 yo. People think I am very late 20's-early 30's. What about you?

Bullshit. No way, unless you have olive or dark skin.

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OP, I doubt people actually think you look in your late 20s. They're just being nice.

I'm 37 and look like I'm in my early 30s now that I have a one year old. Prior to that, I may have been mistaken for late 20s once or twice, but that was just by the 21 year olds at work who have no sense of how old people are.

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White fair skin deteriorates after age 30 making those with olive, darker or Asian skin seem young. Thread ended.

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My kids are 12 and 14. I'm almost 49. People think I'm about 43.

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Unless you are Asian or African American, you probably are being lied to when people say you look younger. Just sayin'...

These two nationalities seem to age a lot less slower than the others for some reason.

Also, having oily skin is hell as a teen-ager, but a blessing when you are 40. You are almost guaranteed to never see a wrinkle in mid-life.

If you stay away from cigarettes and always use sunscreen, then congratulations. You have done everything in your power to drink from the fountain of youth.

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White fair skin deteriorates after age 30 making those with olive, darker or Asian skin seem young. Thread ended.

White skin doesn't age solely because it is white. Sunscreen starting in childhood, healthy diet and exercise and avoidance of alcohol and cigarettes. Lifestyle, folks.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 43 with a 2 yo. People think I am very late 20's-early 30's. What about you?

Bullshit. No way, unless you have olive or dark skin.

As someone who has olive skin, I can tell you I don't have a single wrinkle. I have no stretch marks and no saggy skin and I'm thin. I have thick shiny hair and nice thick eyebrows.

DESPITE having all that, I still look 40. I look good for 40, but I look 40. Even Cindy Crawford looks 48. She just looks great...that's all.

The only people these posters are fooling are themselves.

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I think I look older than my age. I've always thought that within a group of friends we all tend to think we are the same age because we share experiences. I am close friends with a group of 8 women that all have kids in the same class. We often forget that we are very different ages. I am the youngest at 39 the oldest is in her mid 50's.
I think if you have children many people will guess your age based on the age of your kids. In the DC area that adds 5-10 years. I am 39 with 4 kids. Around here that is "crazy" as I'm told often. When we were visiting family in the midwest I fit right in.