How to feel about wife going dancing / clubing

[Anonymous]

The fact that all these men on here are so suspicious makes me wonder how men act when they go out with their friends.

[Anonymous]

When I got out with DH, I dress up for him. When I got out with girlfriends, I dress up for me since it is an ego boost when someone says "WOW that dress looks great on you!" "Have you lost weight?" etc. I don't care if other men also happen to notice a plunging neckline or a short hem. DH is the only guy for me and I decline drink offers and don't dance with other guys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I got out with DH, I dress up for him. When I got out with girlfriends, I dress up for me since it is an ego boost when someone says "WOW that dress looks great on you!" "Have you lost weight?" etc. I don't care if other men also happen to notice a plunging neckline or a short hem. DH is the only guy for me and I decline drink offers and don't dance with other guys.

I think women get a bit of a power trip from knowing they can get guys worked up with no intent on following through.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh who gives a shit? If you're so damn insecure about your wife going out with her friends clubbing, how about go out dancing with her once in a while or do your own gno? No, most women will not cover up head to toe when going out. If it's such an issue, move to the Middle East.

Because, really, if you can't show off your tits and ass to your girl friends (and I'm shocked, shocked to learn that other men notice such things), then the mullahs have won.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I got out with DH, I dress up for him. When I got out with girlfriends, I dress up for me since it is an ego boost when someone says "WOW that dress looks great on you!" "Have you lost weight?" etc. I don't care if other men also happen to notice a plunging neckline or a short hem. DH is the only guy for me and I decline drink offers and don't dance with other guys.

I think women get a bit of a power trip from knowing they can get guys worked up with no intent on following through.

And I think the same thing can be said about guys who get checked out by women. Look, it's human nature to get an ego boost when someone of the opposite sex notices you or pays you a compliment. That doesn't mean there is any intention to cheat or to toe the line of what is appropriate.

But perhaps OP's wife feels that her husband doesn't pay attention to her, doesn't compliment her, etc and is seeking that from other men. Doesn't mean she's cheating, but could be worth exploring. OP have you talked to your wife about what is bothering you without accusing her of cheating? You may be surprised to learn she isn't totally happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh who gives a shit? If you're so damn insecure about your wife going out with her friends clubbing, how about go out dancing with her once in a while or do your own gno? No, most women will not cover up head to toe when going out. If it's such an issue, move to the Middle East.

Because, really, if you can't show off your tits and ass to your girl friends (and I'm shocked, shocked to learn that other men notice such things), then the mullahs have won.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fact that all these men on here are so suspicious makes me wonder how men act when they go out with their friends.

Funny. It's the women here that tell stories of making their men feel like insecure boys for assuming their wives are cheating and then, in the next statement, admit to US that you ARE cheating (and upset because your "insecure" husband has no proof).

I've read a handful of these messages just this year. And you wonder why feminazis yelling about "dressing to the nines" for other women sounds ridiculous at best.

[Anonymous]

I think anytime there are men or women going out with friends to places that have a sexually charged atmosphere, there is a risk. If a group of men go to a sports bar to watch a game or women treat themselves to a nice restaurant, that is one thing. But if it is a club with a reputation as a pick up place, that's a different story and only invites suspicion.

[Anonymous]

Lone dude in this thread, you sound like whiny beta, neck-bearded, no-game having jealous geek.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think anytime there are men or women going out with friends to places that have a sexually charged atmosphere, there is a risk. If a group of men go to a sports bar to watch a game or women treat themselves to a nice restaurant, that is one thing. But if it is a club with a reputation as a pick up place, that's a different story and only invites suspicion.

Yes and no. If there are already issues in the relationship, I can see why there is suspicion. But I don't think people normally are suspicious of their spouses if they go to someplace where the opposite sex is going to be and roaming around. If OP is uncomfortable with his wife going to the club, he needs to talk to her. It doesn't even sound like he knows she's dancing with other men (I have gone clubbing since meeting DH and did not dance with other men or let them buy me drinks). If OP's wife is coming home and talking about all the men she's danced with, then she's obviously trying to make her husband jealous for whatever reason.

[Anonymous]

I think women going to a personal trainer is a bigger risk than clubs. Bottom line is that there is a lot of opportunity to cheat if you spouse is of a mind.

[Anonymous]

Lol. All these guys bitching about women going out to clubs dressed up are the same ones that would get butt hurt when a women is uncomfortable with them going out to the strip club and call them uptight, prudish, etc. Yeah, no sympathy at all. If you think she's going to cheat, a club isn't the only place she can get a guy and she would have done it anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lone dude in this thread, you sound like whiny beta, neck-bearded, no-game having jealous geek.

Yup

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The fact that all these men on here are so suspicious makes me wonder how men act when they go out with their friends.

Funny. It's the women here that tell stories of making their men feel like insecure boys for assuming their wives are cheating and then, in the next statement, admit to US that you ARE cheating (and upset because your "insecure" husband has no proof).

I've read a handful of these messages just this year. And you wonder why feminazis yelling about "dressing to the nines" for other women sounds ridiculous at best.

Who's admitting something to the United States? Your misuse of caps and quotation marks is distracting.

I'm not a feminazi. I'm being honest. Whether or not you believe it isn't my problem. You sound like a dude with an agenda when you ramble on and on about cheaters. Get some therapy, man.

[Anonymous]

It really depends on your relationship. When I went out without DH, it was to have girl fun and dance. But we both knew our relationship was strong. OTOH, I had a friend whose marriage was on the rocks, and her outlet was to go clubbing and make out with guys, grind on them, etc. She did end up having at least 2 affairs I know of with guys she met in clubs.