How to feel about wife going dancing / clubing

[Anonymous]

09:13 here. I occasionally go out dancing/clubbing with my girlfriends. My experience is this: we do this rarely, maybe a few times a year and we always remain sober. We get dressed up on the conservative side of sexy, we dance with each other, chat, joke, laugh and generally have fun. We always stay close together and keep an eye on each other. Sometimes we might dance with a guy, that's the exception and there's never touching when dancing. It's always a boost to the ego when a man notices you or compliments you whether at a club or the library but none of us has any interest in the men we meet at clubs.

[Anonymous]

My DH would love for me to go on a girls night out - but not clubbing/dancing. I don't like dancing with females and my DH won't like me dancing with men.

[Anonymous]

How do you like sweaty men pawing your wife? There you have the answer.

[Anonymous]

This is a problem. Dancers always cheat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you like sweaty men pawing your wife? There you have the answer.

Oh for gods sakes. I don't let me paw me when my friends and I go out dancing. We mostly dance with each other.

Op, don't listen to alarmists. If you try to stop your wife from socializing with her friends by going dancing, that is very controlling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I go with friends it's just to hang out with them - not to find guys or hookup.

Same here, I'm a guy - when I go with friends its to hang out with them and not find girls or hookup. That's why I don't go to places where I can't hear them or where people dress to attract the sexual attention of other people. I used to go to dance clubs to pick people up. Now I wouldn't go without my wife.

[Anonymous]

So let's dig into this a little deeper. Married women seem to like to go dancing more than married men. They like it because it's "fun."

What about it is fun for a married woman that isn't fun for a married man? In particular, dancing in public -- these women could obviously get together in a room, turn on some music, and dance. But that's not fun, or at least not as fun. What is the source of the additional punch that's present in a club that's not present in a private setting?

My guess is that it has something to do with the plausibly deniable sexual tension in the room, but I'm open to other suggestions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I go with friends it's just to hang out with them - not to find guys or hookup.

Same here, I'm a guy - when I go with friends its to hang out with them and not find girls or hookup. That's why I don't go to places where I can't hear them or where people dress to attract the sexual attention of other people. I used to go to dance clubs to pick people up. Now I wouldn't go without my wife.

So wherever you go, whatever you are doing, do you make sure that what you are wearing is not attractive to the opposite sex? If you are at the gym or at a restaurant with friends, do you make sure that what you are wearing doesn't show off your best features that would appeal to the opposite sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I go with friends it's just to hang out with them - not to find guys or hookup.

Same here, I'm a guy - when I go with friends its to hang out with them and not find girls or hookup. That's why I don't go to places where I can't hear them or where people dress to attract the sexual attention of other people. I used to go to dance clubs to pick people up. Now I wouldn't go without my wife.

So wherever you go, whatever you are doing, do you make sure that what you are wearing is not attractive to the opposite sex? If you are at the gym or at a restaurant with friends, do you make sure that what you are wearing doesn't show off your best features that would appeal to the opposite sex?

Nope, I dress my best for work and my wife. I don't make an extra effort like people (and especially women) do for clubs.

And don't give me that "it just happens to be attractive" crap. If you don't think women at clubs take more care with their make up and are dressed in a way that shows off their breasts, ass, and legs more than in every day life, then you're blind.

[Anonymous]

Uh...It is unacceptable for a married woman to be in a nightclub dancing w/other men. Period.

I say you go into the club and spy on her.

See what type of dancing she is doing.

Then report back to us and we'll give you some damn good advice, ok?

[Anonymous]

OP, look up the word "cuckold." Soon that description may fit you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So let's dig into this a little deeper. Married women seem to like to go dancing more than married men. They like it because it's "fun."

What about it is fun for a married woman that isn't fun for a married man? In particular, dancing in public -- these women could obviously get together in a room, turn on some music, and dance. But that's not fun, or at least not as fun. What is the source of the additional punch that's present in a club that's not present in a private setting?

My guess is that it has something to do with the plausibly deniable sexual tension in the room, but I'm open to other suggestions.

--A good DJ (your iPod mix isn't nearly as good, trust)

--Getting out of the house. If you have a get-together, someone has to host, so there would always be one person who has to stay in her house and set up/clean up.

--Just being in a public setting can be refreshing

--Nice clubs have good cocktails

You tried to be clever and you failed. Bye.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Uh...It is unacceptable for a married woman to be in a nightclub dancing w/other men. Period.

I say you go into the club and spy on her.

See what type of dancing she is doing.

Then report back to us and we'll give you some damn good advice, ok?

Just because a woman is going to a nightclub with a bunch of female friends not mean she's going to be dancing with other men there. I don't. I dance in a group with my friends.

[Anonymous]

If your wife is going to cheat, she's going to cheat. Dancing will not change that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So let's dig into this a little deeper. Married women seem to like to go dancing more than married men. They like it because it's "fun."

What about it is fun for a married woman that isn't fun for a married man? In particular, dancing in public -- these women could obviously get together in a room, turn on some music, and dance. But that's not fun, or at least not as fun. What is the source of the additional punch that's present in a club that's not present in a private setting?

My guess is that it has something to do with the plausibly deniable sexual tension in the room, but I'm open to other suggestions.

I could cook a nice meal at home or I could eat out at a restaurant. I like eating out at restaurants. Unfortunately, I don't have frinds with ballrooms.