How to feel about wife going dancing / clubing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So let's dig into this a little deeper. Married women seem to like to go dancing more than married men. They like it because it's "fun."

What about it is fun for a married woman that isn't fun for a married man? In particular, dancing in public -- these women could obviously get together in a room, turn on some music, and dance. But that's not fun, or at least not as fun. What is the source of the additional punch that's present in a club that's not present in a private setting?

My guess is that it has something to do with the plausibly deniable sexual tension in the room, but I'm open to other suggestions.

--A good DJ (your iPod mix isn't nearly as good, trust)

--Getting out of the house. If you have a get-together, someone has to host, so there would always be one person who has to stay in her house and set up/clean up.

--Just being in a public setting can be refreshing

--Nice clubs have good cocktails

You tried to be clever and you failed. Bye.

Ditto to everything PP said. Plus you get to dress up however you want, knowing that no one really cares what you're wearing. That may be your only chance to wear that amazing pair of shoes/dress/top that you loved and bought but have nowhere else to wear it to. I don't enjoy parties that I host as much as when I'm a guest for the reasons PP stated.

It all boils down to how well do you know and trust your wife and her friends. A woman who knows the boundaries, going with similar friends, even if dressed a bit sexy but not slutty and not getting drunk while out, should not be a cause for concern. You should be more worried about her coworker that she has to take business trips with or work late on projects with.

[Anonymous]

I don't know. If she's dressing in short skirts and heels to go dancing with her friends but scoffs at the idea of wearing same outfit for her boyfriend/husband, it's safe to assume she's dressing for someone/everybody else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know. If she's dressing in short skirts and heels to go dancing with her friends but scoffs at the idea of wearing same outfit for her boyfriend/husband, it's safe to assume she's dressing for someone/everybody else.

Because people generally don't wear heels and club clothes around the house. And it'd be weird to wear "club" clothes to a nice restaurant. Ever hear of dressing for the occasion?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know. If she's dressing in short skirts and heels to go dancing with her friends but scoffs at the idea of wearing same outfit for her boyfriend/husband, it's safe to assume she's dressing for someone/everybody else.

It's other women who notice and appreciate clothing. Getting ready to go out with girlfriends is half the fun.

Whoever suggested dancing in someone's house sounds a little nuts. What that person described is what we did at sleepovers decades ago. There's energy to a crowd. That energy is not in my friend's living room because we're not 12 anymore.

[Anonymous]

That's just it. The only occasion she's willing to dress like that for is "out with her friends."

Since one doesn't need to go as far as skirt and heels in a club (unless it's for attention or more), she could tone it down a bit.

Again, when she's dressing "up" for everyone BUT you, it's a problem. Any guy who accepts "Deal with it" is already tasting another man when he tastes his wife.

[Anonymous]

OK, insecure dude.

[Anonymous]

Well, a lot of clubs won't let you in if you're wearing Old Navy jeans and a pair of clogs. You're welcome to tell your girl to try it, however.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's just it. The only occasion she's willing to dress like that for is "out with her friends."

Since one doesn't need to go as far as skirt and heels in a club (unless it's for attention or more), she could tone it down a bit.

Again, when she's dressing "up" for everyone BUT you, it's a problem. Any guy who accepts "Deal with it" is already tasting another man when he tastes his wife.

Women are the ones who notice the dressing up effort. It's not done to impress men. Tbh, men are a bit clueless about all the attention to detail and fashion trends.

[Anonymous]

Interesting responses.

Ok. Let's try this. If you're going out with the girls in "hooker-wear," will you at least come home and fuck your husband/boyfriend in it?

If the answer is no because you "want to get comfortable," his not wanting you to dress in that fashion is warranted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's just it. The only occasion she's willing to dress like that for is "out with her friends."

Since one doesn't need to go as far as skirt and heels in a club (unless it's for attention or more), she could tone it down a bit.

Again, when she's dressing "up" for everyone BUT you, it's a problem. Any guy who accepts "Deal with it" is already tasting another man when he tastes his wife.

Women are the ones who notice the dressing up effort. It's not done to impress men. Tbh, men are a bit clueless about all the attention to detail and fashion trends.

So men aren't noticing women dressed to the nines? Now, you're just trying to justify it all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's just it. The only occasion she's willing to dress like that for is "out with her friends."

Since one doesn't need to go as far as skirt and heels in a club (unless it's for attention or more), she could tone it down a bit.

Again, when she's dressing "up" for everyone BUT you, it's a problem. Any guy who accepts "Deal with it" is already tasting another man when he tastes his wife.

Women are the ones who notice the dressing up effort. It's not done to impress men. Tbh, men are a bit clueless about all the attention to detail and fashion trends.

So men aren't noticing women dressed to the nines? Now, you're just trying to justify it all.

Most men I know wouldn't know the difference between a carefully crafted outfit or a 15 year old dress from Kmart if they showed equal amounts of cleavage. But, show up at an event in an old dress and the women will absolutely say nasty things about you.

We're not nuts, our social rules are very different from yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Interesting responses.

Ok. Let's try this. If you're going out with the girls in "hooker-wear," will you at least come home and fuck your husband/boyfriend in it?

If the answer is no because you "want to get comfortable," his not wanting you to dress in that fashion is warranted.

My DH has no fetish for sex in heels, etc., so no. I wear nice clothing/heels (when appropriate) in public and am not a frump, whether I'm with him or not.

We have sex plenty even though we lounge around the house in pjs/yoga pants. Do you want a long-term partner, or do you want a fetish item? Are you unable to perform unless your girl is dressed in heels and short skirts?

You're attempting to create an equivalency where there is none.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Interesting responses.

Ok. Let's try this. If you're going out with the girls in "hooker-wear," will you at least come home and fuck your husband/boyfriend in it?

If the answer is no because you "want to get comfortable," his not wanting you to dress in that fashion is warranted.

Yes. I'd also happily go dancing WITH him, but he doesn't want to. He does not like crowded, loud places and isn't really into dancing. So if I want to go dancing, I have to go with my friends or by myself. I will always choose "with my friends" because I don't WANT to be a target for lecherous club dudes. I'm not going to wear a burqa, if for no other reason than that it's hot in most clubs, but I'm also not putting on sexy clothing with the express purpose of attracting other men. If a man approaches me, offering compliments, drinks, etc., my polite answer is thanks but no thanks. I'm not there to make friends.

I really do not understand what is so difficult to understand about this.

Oh and PP who said that all dancers cheat? Fuck you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Interesting responses.

Ok. Let's try this. If you're going out with the girls in "hooker-wear," will you at least come home and fuck your husband/boyfriend in it?

If the answer is no because you "want to get comfortable," his not wanting you to dress in that fashion is warranted.

Let's try this. If you want your wife/girlfriend to fuck you in "hooker-wear", ask her. Otherwise, keep your insecurity to yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Interesting responses.

Ok. Let's try this. If you're going out with the girls in "hooker-wear," will you at least come home and fuck your husband/boyfriend in it?

If the answer is no because you "want to get comfortable," his not wanting you to dress in that fashion is warranted.

Let's try this. If you want your wife/girlfriend to fuck you in "hooker-wear", ask her. Otherwise, keep your insecurity to yourself.

Apparently, the "dressed up woman" wears the pants for her men. LOL.