My egg donor is pregnant

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree that it is understandable that the OP is curious about the donor. Even though the donor's FB page is not fully privacy-protected, I doubt she would welcome a peeker who was just interested because she was her donor, just as I doubt anyone would be pleased that their ex is peeking.

Anonymity in these circumstances is to protect everyone - donor, OP, OP's child, donor's child. Would it be OK if the positions were reversed? If the donor had accidentally found out OP's name and was now following her on FB to see how OP's child was doing? Understandable curiosity, yes. But how would OP like it? The OP agreed to anonymity and now she is betraying her promise.

This situation would be much worse. Because it's OP who gave birth to and is raising the child. I have not used DE, but I imagine this situation would trigger anxiety about the genetic mother making claims to the child. There is no such dynamic when OP is looking at what the donor is posting on her public Facebook page.

[Anonymous]

I do not se how you can "stalk" a public page. Public means public. Do you people really think that only "some people" look at a public page? If that is what you think, you need to adjust your privacy settings!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree that it is understandable that the OP is curious about the donor. Even though the donor's FB page is not fully privacy-protected, I doubt she would welcome a peeker who was just interested because she was her donor, just as I doubt anyone would be pleased that their ex is peeking.

Anonymity in these circumstances is to protect everyone - donor, OP, OP's child, donor's child. Would it be OK if the positions were reversed? If the donor had accidentally found out OP's name and was now following her on FB to see how OP's child was doing? Understandable curiosity, yes. But how would OP like it? The OP agreed to anonymity and now she is betraying her promise.

This situation would be much worse. Because it's OP who gave birth to and is raising the child. I have not used DE, but I imagine this situation would trigger anxiety about the genetic mother making claims to the child. There is no such dynamic when OP is looking at what the donor is posting on her public Facebook page.

Well, it's only fair that OP gives her name to the donor and lets the donor see how she's doing. How PROUD the donor must be of OP.