My egg donor is pregnant
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Anonymous
| I found out my egg donor's name by an admin mistake, but have since been "peeking in" on her via FB. I recently found out she got married and is now pregnant. I'm having a flood of emotions -- I'm so happy for her, but I'm also in a weird state of suspension until I see her baby. Is this weird? I'm kind of afraid of seeing an alternate universe version of my kid, and I know I should bail now -- but like a train wreck, I'm not able to look away. Help!! |
Anonymous
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Look away now. You are being disrespectful. This woman became a donor with the understanding that she would be anonymous. Just because you found out her identity, you do not have the right to "peek in." Her privacy is her privacy.
Tell your spouse that you need him/her to help you be accountable. Shut down the FB account. Do not look her up. Put sticky notes on your computer. You can do this. When you are feeling a "flood of emotions" go be with your child. Or write him/ her a letter saying how much you love being his/her parent. Re-focus on your child, not some stranger's child. |
Anonymous
| Stop it. |
Anonymous
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You are the reason that people don't donate.
On behalf of those of us who have donated, I am offended and disgusted. I hope somewhere there is a person who is considering donating who reads this...and doesn't get convinced not to because of you. |
Anonymous
| Why does this woman not have privacy settings on her Facebook account? She evidently doesn't care too much if strangers "peek in". |
Anonymous
| Ugh this is so bizzare. Egg donation should be illegal. |
Anonymous
| What in the actual fuck is wrong with you OP? I really hope this is a troll post. |
Anonymous
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I really can't stop thinking a out how awful this is. Everything she has given you....and you are spying on her like this.
You are a horrible person. Simply horrible. |
Anonymous
| I did not use an egg donor, but I don't get why people think OP is behaving outrageously for looking at her egg donor's - apparently public - Facebook profile. If I had used a donor and had accidentally found out the name, I would probably also do this. After all, I'm carrying this woman's genetic child - who would not be curious to know more about her? If the donor cared who viewed her profile, she'd have privacy settings that limited access, like most people do. It's not like OP hacked her way onto her private page. I agree that it is unfortunate that OP found out the name, and that she shouldn't keep peeking in (for her own sake as well), but I don't think she is a bad person for having given in to her curiosity. |
Anonymous
| PP, this isn't a one time look. OP is continually checking in on this woman and tracking her life. She's obsessing about it. It's not okay, even if the donor does not have her privacy setting turned on. If I leave my front door unlocked, you still do not have a right to come into my house. |
Anonymous
| Oh, FFS. I think there are slightly worse things than peeking at someone's Facebook page. Quit acting like OP is some kind of serial killer or something. |
Anonymous
+1! This is stalking and it's pathological. OP, I hope you're a troll! |
Anonymous
| This is not pathological! How many of you have "stalked" your ex's FB page? Plenty of you, I bet. If it's a public page, it's not actually stalking. She's only seeing what this woman has voluntarily put on a public forum. Though I agree that for the OP's own sake she might want to stop (just like it's a good idea, for your own sake, not to look at exes' FB pages). |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
This is not stalking. She is no trying to contact her or make her do stuff. This really doesn't affect the donor in any way. |