Envious when people post about their wealth and success on DCUM?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
No, I don't share vacation photos. The more you write, the more obvious it is becoming that you are boring. I would look at that as the reason people are avoiding you.

Wow! The person that doesn't share photos is telling me that I am boring. I don't want to know anybody who has no life experiences to share. People are visual and generally enjoy looking at photos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:[quote=Anonymous
No, I don't share vacation photos. The more you write, the more obvious it is becoming that you are boring. I would look at that as the reason people are avoiding you.

Wow! The person that doesn't share photos is telling me that I am boring. I don't want to know anybody who has no life experiences to share. People are visual and generally enjoy looking at photos.

I have much more interesting experiences and thoughts to share than what happened at my vacations. I am paid to write, and have a decent sized audience.

Dumb people prefer visuals. Maybe your friends are not as dumb as you thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been a poster who has posted frequently on this thread and am also wealthy. I have never had the reactions OP says she has towards her vacations or other ways she spends her money. OP, perhaps it is time that you look at how you write these emails and determine if they are off putting, regardless of money. I suspect they are and that is why you get the cold shoulder on them. But I also suspect you are not the type of person to self reflect like that. Oh well. To each their own. I'm sure you will fit in just fine with those who like to talk about how expensive their hotel room was etc.

EVERYONE is insisting and implying that I like to boast. I say the opposite, and get messages about how I am the problem. Maybe you are right that my writing style is off putting or somehow confusing. My conversations to date are like everybody elses. But in the future, I am trying to meet more people who can discuss things like fancy hotel rooms in exotic destinations. I don't think that makes me a bad person.

This thread started mostly as a question but has become a personal attack. I also resent being called a troll. Why is it that if people don't like a post, they call people trolls?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been a poster who has posted frequently on this thread and am also wealthy. I have never had the reactions OP says she has towards her vacations or other ways she spends her money. OP, perhaps it is time that you look at how you write these emails and determine if they are off putting, regardless of money. I suspect they are and that is why you get the cold shoulder on them. But I also suspect you are not the type of person to self reflect like that. Oh well. To each their own. I'm sure you will fit in just fine with those who like to talk about how expensive their hotel room was etc.

EVERYONE is insisting and implying that I like to boast. I say the opposite, and get messages about how I am the problem. Maybe you are right that my writing style is off putting or somehow confusing. My conversations to date are like everybody elses. But in the future, I am trying to meet more people who can discuss things like fancy hotel rooms in exotic destinations. I don't think that makes me a bad person.

This thread started mostly as a question but has become a personal attack. I also resent being called a troll. Why is it that if people don't like a post, they call people trolls?

You are probably not a bad person, just BORING.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been a poster who has posted frequently on this thread and am also wealthy. I have never had the reactions OP says she has towards her vacations or other ways she spends her money. OP, perhaps it is time that you look at how you write these emails and determine if they are off putting, regardless of money. I suspect they are and that is why you get the cold shoulder on them. But I also suspect you are not the type of person to self reflect like that. Oh well. To each their own. I'm sure you will fit in just fine with those who like to talk about how expensive their hotel room was etc.

EVERYONE is insisting and implying that I like to boast. I say the opposite, and get messages about how I am the problem. Maybe you are right that my writing style is off putting or somehow confusing. My conversations to date are like everybody elses. But in the future, I am trying to meet more people who can discuss things like fancy hotel rooms in exotic destinations. I don't think that makes me a bad person.

This thread started mostly as a question but has become a personal attack. I also resent being called a troll. Why is it that if people don't like a post, they call people trolls?

OP -- you should step away from this thread. These folks aren't going to tell you what you want to hear. This is why I have a love/hate relationship with DCUM. Sometimes you get some really solid stuff but most of the time it's a bunch of folks with deep rooted self hatred.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP -- you should step away from this thread. These folks aren't going to tell you what you want to hear. This is why I have a love/hate relationship with DCUM. Sometimes you get some really solid stuff but most of the time it's a bunch of folks with deep rooted self hatred.

Thanks for this message. I was thinking the EXACT same thing! This is probably my last message. I think the mistake was posting to the relationship section instead of money and finance. Maybe people here have more relationship problems whereas the money and finance people are in my shoes. When you write that you are happy, people find a way to attack you. But if you write that your life is a mess, you get words of encouragement. Go figure.

What I hope to be my final is to the person who said "dumb people prefer visuals". I love writing AND i love pictures. So I guess I am half smart and half dumb.
By the way, I am a quiet, introverted person. I don't use FB, partly because I fear envious readers. I completely understand that I may seem boring to some people. But I'm very happy. We are a beautiful, happy, blessed family.

[Anonymous]

Not concerned at all about others. I don't assume people are happier or miserable due to wealth. I think most people who are unhappy or blissfully content will be at any income, barring extremes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I understand what you are saying. I am new wealth and live VERY conservatively. That is why posting about wealth would be offensive to all my middle class family, friends, and colleagues. After years of regular living, we are in a position to enjoy our wealth a bit.

You have money, but many people will say that if you don't use it, you'd might as well not have it. Why not enjoy yourself more?

It is impossible NOT to post about wealth on FB. FB is all about vacations (I travel to exotic destinations frequently). FB is about food (fancy restaurants and meals and dinner parties). FB is about sharing that new handbag you purchased. Or a new car. Or that new stainless steel refrigerator. Even if you make donations or pursue advanced degrees, people know that you need money to do that. People can be envious that they don't have money to do the same.

My point is that most FB posts are about how you live, which is directly associated to your wealth.

Whoa. This is why I am not a fan of "new money" people. Here is what I've posted on FB in the last two weeks:
1. Something I saw in a store that I would have loved when I was 5 yrs old (I did not buy it, and nobody could tell the store was Gap)
2. A pic of DD's feet while the rest of her body is hidden in the tree she just climbed
3. An article by David Sedaris that I liked and knew many of my friends would also enjoy
4. A simulation of flying through 17th century London done by university students that I thought was pretty cool

In that same two-week period I went to two fancy restaurants and firmed up plans to vacation next month at a beautiful place in Mexico. None of that made it onto my Facebook page. Why? Because I don't brag. It really IS what you make it. You are CHOOSING to use Facebook to brag. Facebook is not at ALL about purchases. Unless you make it that way.

Going to Mexico IS nothing to brag about dear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[quote=Anonymous
No, I don't share vacation photos. The more you write, the more obvious it is becoming that you are boring. I would look at that as the reason people are avoiding you.

Wow! The person that doesn't share photos is telling me that I am boring. I don't want to know anybody who has no life experiences to share. People are visual and generally enjoy looking at photos.

I have much more interesting experiences and thoughts to share than what happened at my vacations. I am paid to write, and have a decent sized audience.

Dumb people prefer visuals. Maybe your friends are not as dumb as you thought.

Annie Leibovitz may disagree with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP -- you should step away from this thread. These folks aren't going to tell you what you want to hear. This is why I have a love/hate relationship with DCUM. Sometimes you get some really solid stuff but most of the time it's a bunch of folks with deep rooted self hatred.

Thanks for this message. I was thinking the EXACT same thing! This is probably my last message. I think the mistake was posting to the relationship section instead of money and finance. Maybe people here have more relationship problems whereas the money and finance people are in my shoes. When you write that you are happy, people find a way to attack you. But if you write that your life is a mess, you get words of encouragement. Go figure.

What I hope to be my final is to the person who said "dumb people prefer visuals". I love writing AND i love pictures. So I guess I am half smart and half dumb.
By the way, I am a quiet, introverted person. I don't use FB, partly because I fear envious readers. I completely understand that I may seem boring to some people. But I'm very happy. We are a beautiful, happy, blessed family.

Blah blah blah... Yes please go to the money and finance section, everybody will be thrilled to hear about your hotel room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love the first two responses.

"I'm a 1%er!"
"I come from old money!"

Classic DCUM.

OP, I just figure most are lying because no one with money actually talks about it. Sort of like how a doctor doubled the amount drinks you say you have to get to the truth-- I half what anyone says is the income, at a minimum.

+1!The truly rich don't want/need to advertise it. Quite the opposite.

I don't think most people on DCUM are lying. I don't talk about money to people I know except my DH either, but this is an anonymous forum. Why not tell the truth?

[Anonymous]

Most on here are lying, posting from their shitshacks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most on here are lying, posting from their shitshacks.

Keep thinking that if it makes you feel better.

[Anonymous]

The people that are sitting here bragging about their wealth are not happy. It is funny, because they mostly seem to live in the "preppy" areas such as NW. They also complain about other aspects of there life.

Me? I will brag about having a wonderful caring wife, a great daughter, and a job that I love which pays enough to keep us comfortable, and allows us to buy a few toys. I will complain about my cancer. What keeps me up at night is, do I have enough life insurance for my family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love the first two responses.

"I'm a 1%er!"
"I come from old money!"

Classic DCUM.

OP, I just figure most are lying because no one with money actually talks about it. Sort of like how a doctor doubled the amount drinks you say you have to get to the truth-- I half what anyone says is the income, at a minimum.

+1!The truly rich don't want/need to advertise it. Quite the opposite.

I don't think most people on DCUM are lying. I don't talk about money to people I know except my DH either, but this is an anonymous forum. Why not tell the truth?

I tend to agree with this. Also, one thing I have noticed in my 50 years is it is easy to spend more than you make. Making 300,000 K (about 4500 after taxes every too weeks), and own a house with a 5000 mortgage? half the take home goes to the bank. Also, you can't drive a toyota on that income, so you are paying 900/month for the 5 series. There is not a lot left. And so much is passing through. It gets scary.

I felt richer when DW and I lived in an apartment, both worked, and had a HHI about 1/2 of what we have now. The difference was our expenses were much much lower.