TTC 10 months with no support from DH
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Anonymous
I just spoke with my OB's nurse. I called back and tried to get more answers but basically she said they'll do blood again tomorrow to see if numbers will go down and will schedule an ultrasound for next week to see what's going on. I'm only 4 weeks 2 days at this point so hopefully by then they'll see where the pregnancy is located. I am still bleeding since saturday bright red and slightly crampy - all she said about that was if I hemmorage or end up in intense pain to go to the ER. From what I have read the bleeding is a classic sign of ectopic so that's what I'm expecting at this point, especially since my levels aren't going down. |
Anonymous
| OP here. The doctor called and said she is concerned as nothing that has happened thus far is normal. My numbers are too low to see anything on ultrasound so I am scheduled for a another D&C tomorrow. That way she can see for sure if its tubal or not and that info may help my fertility going forward as far as treatment goes. I'm just gutted. It has been such a roller coaster of a week and last Wednesday I never would have guessed this would be the outcome. I am at my pre-op appointment and of course managed to run into every 8 month pregnant woman in the world between work and the doctors office. |
Anonymous
| OP wow- that's so surprising. And sad. Hugs. Please keep us updated I am following this thread |
Anonymous
| OP here. I am chickening out of the D&C. I know the doctor wants to do it to be certain it's tubal but the thought of going under again is really frightening me now that I'm home and it's settling in. I don't know what to do. |
Anonymous
| What happened Op |
Anonymous
OP here. I did go through with the D&C and they sedated me much more than last so it was so much easier. I barely remember going into the operating room whereas last time I was basically wide awake. But anyway she did find some tissue and removed it and today I am barely bleeding at all. So the math tells me the heavy bleeding up until yesterday as well as the stagnant betas was caused by retained tissue. Maybe like last time my body just doesn't know what to do with these failed pregnancies. Fingers crossed Mondays beta will drop significantly (otherwise they're assuming tubal and I have to get the shot). We are going out of the country to see family in May. I can't wait for a break! We will have some testing done before then and, based on those results, will resume TTC when we return in June. |
Anonymous
| With an unsupportive husband, maybe it's time to stop all together. A baby does not cure having a bad partner. |
Anonymous
Things are much, much better now. Ironic because things have been so difficult. |
Anonymous
| OP here to update. The D&C was a success as my levels dropped to zero so the bleeding was an ongoing "regular" miscarriage, not ectopic. I have an appointment Monday to see what sort of testing we can do to see if it's crap luck or if anything is wrong. |
Anonymous
| You need to stop it. You are not emotionally ready. I think you want a baby because others are having them. A recipe for disaster. |
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Anonymous
I think she needs to stop because her body clearly is not able to do what she wants it to do. |
Anonymous
OP here. I went to the doctor today and she took 12 vials for a full workup to see if she can identity anything and I will also give blood for progesterone on day 21 of my next cycle. She said not to get pregnant again until we have the results. We don't really have a choice but to put off TTC now as we are waiting for these results and then going overseas for 2.5 weeks in May. So we would be trying again June at the earliest and that's dependent on test results and any other testing. I am ok emotionally. I could be better obviously. It was difficult hearing the heartbeat next door at my appointment today. Also the intake nurse thought for whatever reason (I am 5'5 120 lbs) I had just given birth and congratulated me. That was an awkward moment and conversation. |
Anonymous
| OP I am so sorry. Ignore the prior posters who said you shouldn't try because you're too obsessed with it working- we ALL Feel that way when TTC, and those remarks were rude and insensitive. Best of luck to you. I know how hard it can be to wait out a month. Did she tell you what kind of blood tests they ran? |
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Veterinarian here...your Dr asked if you worked with animals and so "were exposed to hormones" um what the freak does that mean? Betas are hcg...HUMAN chorionic gondadotropin. What a moron. Like pregnant dogs are going to rub hormones on you or something?
We do sometimes give HCG shots as a trigger to cows and horses but I think you would know if you were exposed to that. Lemme guess when you do get pregnant he will tell you to get rid of you cats b.c they have "a virus in their urine." Oy. |