Trying to get a Harvard husband in Boston

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm just trying to picture OP at a bar...

Talking to guy 1:
OP: So what do you do?
Guy1: I'm an investment banker
OP: Oh, where did you go to school?
Guy1: Northwestern undergrad and grad
OP: Oh, well it was nice to meet you

Talking to guy 2:
OP: So, what do you do?
Guy1: I'm a cardiac surgeon
OP: Where did you go to med school?
Guy1: Tufts
OP: Nice to meet you but I have to go

Talking to guy 3:
OP: And what do you do?
Guy3: I'm a lawyer
OP: What law school did you go to?
Guy3: BC Law
OP: Well I have to go.

Well, that's what speed-dating is all about, nu?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, I'll bite. I married a Kennedy School grad. My experience is completely different from many of the stories posted here.

We met in DC the summer before he went to grad school. I was 23 and he was almost 26. We met at his going away party. I was not looking for a boyfriend at the time as I was enjoying the single life in DC. We've been married 11 years. I was 26 and he was 29.

I was a teacher at an independent school here in DC. I went to a really good school undergrad, but it wasn't an Ivy. I didn't go to grad school for education until after we were married. I'm not particularly beautiful nor do I have a perfect body.

I'm thinking about all his friends from grad school that are guys- most were in relationships during school and are now married to that person. A few we're single but were not jerks. They were sweet, fun guys. Most everyone ended up in DC. Many work for the Feds while a few (like my husband) work in the private sector. I would say that only one turned out to be an ass. Their wives are normal, regular, incredibly nice people. A few SAH and a few work. I wouldn't say that any of of the wives put their career before their family.

My husband and his friends call the K School Harvard Lite so take that as you will. He doesn't make as much money as a lawyer, but he does do pretty darn well. Chances are if you marry a K School grad that you won't be living in a 2 million dollar house in Newton but at least he'll be home for dinner most nights.



Hah! as I was reading this from my snob HLS position on a Hill, I was thinking "K School" doesn't count.

[Anonymous]

I know a triple Harvard grad who is single and looking (HLS, undergrad, and K- School [sorry all you K-schoolers out there) but she would have to be willing to switch teams unless OP suddenly turns into a man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So which is it? The guys in grad school are still just into hooking up and their studies or they are all taken by age 30. At what age is a guy ready for serious relationship?

lol yeah I was scratching my head about that one. Are they swinging to de-stress or waiting to be "hooked in"?

Anyone else having visions of the Princeton Mom by the way?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, what would happen if you found this Harvard man, get married, then a few years down the road he decides his days of commuting and sitting behind a desk all day are over.

Mr. Harvard announces he is forsaking Big Gig and settling on a large farm, gonna live off the land. He gets a tractor, some chickens, goats, sheep, pigs, and cows and goes at it.

You observe Mr. Harvard is no longer the pinch-faced, stressed out man you are accustomed to but a happy, smiling, guy who has found something he is truly happy doing.

He trades in the BMW for a pick-up truck, trades in his Gucci shoes and suit for a pair of work boots and bib-overalls.

He is still smart and all the bills are paid but he has decided, kind of like in Green Acres, that city life isn't for him.

Will you still stay married to him, knowing he is smart and educated, and that he is able to provide for the family, or will you dump him because the fantasy Cinderella life you have in your mind is no longer valid.

Will you shovel the manure for him? Will you get up at the crack of dawn and milk cows with him?

Or will you hoist your Gold Digger flag and sail away?

Holy cow s***t! I am this very man! For myself a nice herd of beef cattle up in Central Pa. (Leased some of my land for drilling shale gas)' love my truck, my wife, outdoor life! Kids up,at the crack o'dawn 'fore school,to get them chores done and I still do a little bit o' lawyerin' on the side! Shoulda seen how them gas boys reacted to this HLS farmer who could run circles around their god**mned contract. Worked with my neighbors on theirs too. We're all makin' a fine bounty off a Mother Earth and couldn't be happier! Oh, and I have a pick up truck with a gun rack and we do deer season with my Dad and my boys!

[Anonymous]

to 13:42 when I was at HLS only one couple out of a class of about 450 were married. One couple was a husband changing careers. The rest are all hard working men and women who really don't have time for a relationship. And I don't agre with 13:42's "they are already taken" by 30. They might have a girlfriend at Simmons Mattress but no one was serious.

What is Princeton mom? Another velcro parent. Tell me the story!

Finally, I was the one suggested young single adult groups in the churches in Cambridge. I forgot to mention that you must attend church at Harvard's Memorial Church just for the experience. The organist is worth the price of admission alone (free!). No one checks your I.D. going in unlike the libraries. It's a gorgeous church and if they offer any kind of social activities, do itl I think you will find almost all men there unmarried and in a rush (OCD) but that way you would know that everyone attending the Sunday night ice skating party (Harvard has its own indoor rink) are single.

Along the walls in Mem. Chapel are all the Harvard men who died in WWI.

[Anonymous]

I just read this thread after reading the thread about the 29 year old who can't get a man. It's like 2 complete polar opposites.

OP, unless your financial plan for the future is to live off generous alimony, drop this now. You need a choose a man for his character and if you guys can make a real, loyal team. I promise you anything else will just be misery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
What is Princeton mom? Another velcro parent. Tell me the story!

OP should hire the Princeton Mom to help OP get married: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2359172/Princeton-Mom-Susan-Patton-urged-female-undergrads-husband-signs-book-deal.html

[Anonymous]

What the hell is Simmons Mattress? I'm really curious now!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Holy cow s***t! I am this very man! For myself a nice herd of beef cattle up in Central Pa. (Leased some of my land for drilling shale gas)' love my truck, my wife, outdoor life! Kids up,at the crack o'dawn 'fore school,to get them chores done and I still do a little bit o' lawyerin' on the side! Shoulda seen how them gas boys reacted to this HLS farmer who could run circles around their god**mned contract. Worked with my neighbors on theirs too. We're all makin' a fine bounty off a Mother Earth and couldn't be happier! Oh, and I have a pick up truck with a gun rack and we do deer season with my Dad and my boys!

Kudos to you. A loyal wife, responsible children, and a job you love. You sir, have my utmost respect.

I have a strong inclination neither you nor your family require buckets of anti-depressants and Tums to cope with your lifestyle.

My 10-gallon hat, if I had one, would be off for you as I made a deep Japanese-style bow in your honor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So which is it? The guys in grad school are still just into hooking up and their studies or they are all taken by age 30. At what age is a guy ready for serious relationship?

You need to be the right person, at the right place and the right time. Most 26-30 would consider marriage if everything else clicked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what would happen if you found this Harvard man, get married, then a few years down the road he decides his days of commuting and sitting behind a desk all day are over.

Mr. Harvard announces he is forsaking Big Gig and settling on a large farm, gonna live off the land. He gets a tractor, some chickens, goats, sheep, pigs, and cows and goes at it.

You observe Mr. Harvard is no longer the pinch-faced, stressed out man you are accustomed to but a happy, smiling, guy who has found something he is truly happy doing.

He trades in the BMW for a pick-up truck, trades in his Gucci shoes and suit for a pair of work boots and bib-overalls.

He is still smart and all the bills are paid but he has decided, kind of like in Green Acres, that city life isn't for him.

Will you still stay married to him, knowing he is smart and educated, and that he is able to provide for the family, or will you dump him because the fantasy Cinderella life you have in your mind is no longer valid.

Will you shovel the manure for him? Will you get up at the crack of dawn and milk cows with him?

Or will you hoist your Gold Digger flag and sail away?

Holy cow s***t! I am this very man! For myself a nice herd of beef cattle up in Central Pa. (Leased some of my land for drilling shale gas)' love my truck, my wife, outdoor life! Kids up,at the crack o'dawn 'fore school,to get them chores done and I still do a little bit o' lawyerin' on the side! Shoulda seen how them gas boys reacted to this HLS farmer who could run circles around their god**mned contract. Worked with my neighbors on theirs too. We're all makin' a fine bounty off a Mother Earth and couldn't be happier! Oh, and I have a pick up truck with a gun rack and we do deer season with my Dad and my boys!

Ha! I am this woman (grew up on a farm and couldn't wait to get back) and my DH hasn't left me yet. He reads a lot of Wendell Berry and fancies himself a gentleman farmer. It's cute.

[Anonymous]

OP, can you just explain why you want a "Harvard" man in particular? I just left Boston after years of living and working there and I met many brilliant men - some married, some coupled, some single - who went to many different universities, so I'm genuinely curious what the specific attraction is for you.

[Anonymous]

Methinks OP has watched Love Story too many times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, can you just explain why you want a "Harvard" man in particular? I just left Boston after years of living and working there and I met many brilliant men - some married, some coupled, some single - who went to many different universities, so I'm genuinely curious what the specific attraction is for you.

Probably because she grew up in Hickville USA and wants to be able to everyone about how she bagged a Harvard man since that is how they measure success in hickville. She wants the trophy husband! Someone she can brag about etc. Its really kind of sad and pathetic when you think about it