I want a different life than my husband wants

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what if you made a plan to take your family for a hike on Sugarloaf this weekend? Would your husband actually refuse to go? You need to take the initiative to make your current life look somewhat more like how you'd like it to look. If not, it's not going to happen that you convince your husband to move to a different state and take up an entirely new lifestyle.

Good idea. However, I will be taking the kids and he will be at home golfing. Sigh.

would a change in location really change this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to talk with your DH. I had this issue and ultimately I just walked out on my previous life. XH created a life that I no longer wanted so I left. We didn't have children though.

Children make everything different. Its about them at that point.

This. We are retired but still living in DC which we don't particularly like due to child's school. We want DC to finish elementary at his immersion language charter bc there really are not many alternatives. We are moving back to NYC once he's done.

Can understand why pp is divorced. You really need to be on the same page as a couple regarding lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Now I've had it with trying to keep up with her demands for more....more income, more free time, more house, etc.

This is why you don't get married in the first place.

[Anonymous]

It took my husband three years to convince me to move from DC to WA state. I told him I'd give it three years and then opt to move back to DC if I hated it. Turns out I love it here, although job prospects for me *suck.*

If we divorced--which is possible--I'd have to move back to DC since that's where I'd be able to earn an decent income.