What does your husband think/say when you gain weight

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He says nothing unless I mention it. When I do, he tells me he loves me and that I'm beautiful (even though I gained 40 lbs in 3 years of depression and infertility treatments)

He does buy healthy food and helps me plan healthy meals. He encourages me to exercise by asking me to go on walks with him. I know he will be supportive in helping me get healthy again once I have this baby.

Sometimes I wonder if I would have gained less weight if I didn't feel so accepted and unconditionally loved by him, but I know that's not true and I'm the only one responsible for my current state.

Nice to see this come up again. I am now 28w pregnant and only up 9 pounds and on track to weigh less when the baby comes out than before I got pregnant. My midwife is happy with my diet and weight and the baby's progress - but it felt really great when my husband told me yesterday after my weigh in how proud he is of how well I'm eating and exercising for our baby.

[Anonymous]

He does not say anything, however, I never let myself creep up more than 10lbs over my wedding weight. I keep myself in check, he knows he does not have to do that.

We both keep fit, he has always been a big man, but weighs the same as in college. He is very muscular and could easily be fat, so he hits the ground running and the weights at least 5 days a week.

[Anonymous]

He knows that weight is a struggle for me and really he doesn't say much about it. I gained weight after the kids were born and have been up/down ever since. But he loves me fat/thin/in between, he's a good guy.

[Anonymous]

My husband has basically told me to lose weight or he will leave me. I am about 30 pounds over what I was when he met me and I am a size 16. It hurts.

[Anonymous]

He wants me to eat better and more regularly. I have poor eating habits and I tend to skip meals.

He will notice when I put on weight - only if my immunity if lowered. If I am feeling healthy, he does not care about my weight gain or loss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has basically told me to lose weight or he will leave me. I am about 30 pounds over what I was when he met me and I am a size 16. It hurts.

Wow. Sorry pp. He sounds like an ass. Do you really think he will or is he just trying to really motivate you in some way? Do you want to lose weight?

[Anonymous]

Mine would never ever comment. He is not an asshole.

Yes, I have gained weight. He would probably wish I would lose some but he is not stupid enough to say that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He says nothing unless I mention it. When I do, he tells me he loves me and that I'm beautiful (even though I gained 40 lbs in 3 years of depression and infertility treatments)

He does buy healthy food and helps me plan healthy meals. He encourages me to exercise by asking me to go on walks with him. I know he will be supportive in helping me get healthy again once I have this baby.

Sometimes I wonder if I would have gained less weight if I didn't feel so accepted and unconditionally loved by him, but I know that's not true and I'm the only one responsible for my current state.

Nice to see this come up again. I am now 28w pregnant and only up 9 pounds and on track to weigh less when the baby comes out than before I got pregnant. My midwife is happy with my diet and weight and the baby's progress - but it felt really great when my husband told me yesterday after my weigh in how proud he is of how well I'm eating and exercising for our baby.

To the last poster, that's a lot of pressure he is putting on you.
You sound like you have a crazy relationship with food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has basically told me to lose weight or he will leave me. I am about 30 pounds over what I was when he met me and I am a size 16. It hurts.

Tell the jackass that he will probably die before you do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He says nothing unless I mention it. When I do, he tells me he loves me and that I'm beautiful (even though I gained 40 lbs in 3 years of depression and infertility treatments)

He does buy healthy food and helps me plan healthy meals. He encourages me to exercise by asking me to go on walks with him. I know he will be supportive in helping me get healthy again once I have this baby.

Sometimes I wonder if I would have gained less weight if I didn't feel so accepted and unconditionally loved by him, but I know that's not true and I'm the only one responsible for my current state.

Nice to see this come up again. I am now 28w pregnant and only up 9 pounds and on track to weigh less when the baby comes out than before I got pregnant. My midwife is happy with my diet and weight and the baby's progress - but it felt really great when my husband told me yesterday after my weigh in how proud he is of how well I'm eating and exercising for our baby.

Weird. Are you Asian?

[Anonymous]

He says nothing because he is too busy traveling to other cities to testify as a mental health witness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He says nothing because he is too busy traveling to other cities to testify as a mental health witness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He says nothing because he is too busy traveling to other cities to testify as a mental health witness.

Small world, so does mine.

[Anonymous]

My ex told me he was no longer attracted to me and divorced me.

[Anonymous]

My husband gets mad if I get any smaller than a size 10. He wouldn't go for unhealthy in either direction (too big, too small).