Do you really want hand-me-down baby clothes from a friend?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm of the opinion that accepting and wanting hand me downs for your children is a very American thing. One American friend of mine brought over a huge bag of hand me downs to her Indian friend's home. The Indian friend, who was from an affluent family, was completely offended, got angry with my American friend, and told her, "Pick up that bag of old clothes and get it out of my house." My American friend left sobbing. I think lots of people who don't accept hand me downs are people from certain cultures where that's frowned upon.

It must be DCUM, there's someone else bashing and making generalizations about Indian people. Give it up, bitch.

I have to agree with this. I'm married to a SA guy. They have something against used stuff.

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Anonymous wrote:I took hand me downs and just weeded out anything we didn't want (stained clothes, clothes with holes, things that were sized weirdly) and donated those.

+1. Same here. Though my friend gave me a huge bag of used any clothes and say to bring whatever that I didn't pick back to her. I thought it was strange since she's done with having kids and no one in her family or close friends are having kids. But I will honor that!

Please don't donate stained or torn clothing.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate hand me downs. I do not want someone's used clothes for myself or my child even if it is in great condition. Of course, I would probably nicely accept them because I would feel bad and then donate them

Agree

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Anonymous wrote:I hate hand me downs. I do not want someone's used clothes for myself or my child even if it is in great condition. Of course, I would probably nicely accept them because I would feel bad and then donate them

You are a pathetic snob.

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Yes! I love hand me downs. I use what I can, and what I don't need I pass on to others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes! I love hand me downs. I use what I can, and what I don't need I pass on to others.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm of the opinion that accepting and wanting hand me downs for your children is a very American thing. One American friend of mine brought over a huge bag of hand me downs to her Indian friend's home. The Indian friend, who was from an affluent family, was completely offended, got angry with my American friend, and told her, "Pick up that bag of old clothes and get it out of my house." My American friend left sobbing. I think lots of people who don't accept hand me downs are people from certain cultures where that's frowned upon.

It must be DCUM, there's someone else bashing and making generalizations about Indian people. Give it up, bitch.

I have to agree with this. I'm married to a SA guy. They have something against used stuff.

I just brought some of my child's dresses to my Indian neighbor. Such crap.

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I have been so grateful for hand me downs over the years! It allowed me to splurge on brand name pieces without having to spend money on basics like jeans or onesies or overalls.

DD is now in K and we still have a few friends who give us hand me downs. I'm finding that now at this age, although things are in great shape, our styles differ and I'm giving away more than we're keeping which is fine. My sister has a younger daughter so I pack up anything that's in good shape and that I think she'd like. Everything else is donated unless it's ripped or horribly stained.

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I LOVE HAND ME DOWNS!!! I would even love to receive more than we do, but most friends have boys or much older kids. I have two sources that give us most of what's in usable condition from their kids, and these clothes has been 50-70% of my kid's wardrobe depending on the season/size. It's a huge money saver and time saver. Even if the clothes aren't in great condition or aren't my taste, we can send them to child care as back up clothes for messy days. It minimizes the stress of shopping for clothes because I can just fill holes and get what I like without worrying too much about the cost.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate hand me downs. I do not want someone's used clothes for myself or my child even if it is in great condition. Of course, I would probably nicely accept them because I would feel bad and then donate them

If you're not going to use them, then please don't take them and donate them, that's AWFUL. That's terrible - I'm sure people have other friends that would happily take them.

Why one earth would you say donating baby clothes is awful??

I can afford to buy my kids' clothes as can all my friends and siblings. If your circle is also financially sound, why would you not want your nicer quality or gently worn baby clothes to go to someone who is poor or who really would benefit from not having to buy nice baby clothes?

You sound like my mother in law.

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When I was a FTM I did not want hand-me-downs, but as my kids got older, I happily take them assuming the parent doesn't want them back. If your kids are in daycare (or even if they're not), you always need backup clothes. I take hand-me-downs and leave a bunch a day care, 1-2 sets for the car, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:

If you're not going to use them, then please don't take them and donate them, that's AWFUL. That's terrible - I'm sure people have other friends that would happily take them.

Why one earth would you say donating baby clothes is awful??

I can afford to buy my kids' clothes as can all my friends and siblings. If your circle is also financially sound, why would you not want your nicer quality or gently worn baby clothes to go to someone who is poor or who really would benefit from not having to buy nice baby clothes?

You sound like my mother in law.

Unfortunately your reading comprehension is off--re-read the pp's post. She is saying don't take them if you are just going to donate them, as the friend who is giving them to you could give them to someone else who would use them.

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NP not reading what is surely 6 pages of elitists decrying the peasantry of accepting hand-me-downs, and normal people.

YES. LOVE HAND-ME-DOWNS. Was incredibly proud of sourcing over 150 pieces of baby clothes, toys, etc for a grand total of about $40 spent at yard sales -- most of the pieces were just given to me. Hello, they wear/use most of them for like a month, max. New is a waste of money unless it's a special occasion or you need something you didn't get via hand-me-down (like a coat or snowsuit or the right size of boots, or whatever).

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Anonymous wrote:NP not reading what is surely 6 pages of elitists decrying the peasantry of accepting hand-me-downs, and normal people.

YES. LOVE HAND-ME-DOWNS. Was incredibly proud of sourcing over 150 pieces of baby clothes, toys, etc for a grand total of about $40 spent at yard sales -- most of the pieces were just given to me. Hello, they wear/use most of them for like a month, max. New is a waste of money unless it's a special occasion or you need something you didn't get via hand-me-down (like a coat or snowsuit or the right size of boots, or whatever).

You did not read tye whole thing, did you?

It is the opposite of what you suspect.

Six pages with a tiny handful of people saying they prefer new clothes being called names by those who are offended that others do not like hand me downs.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

If you're not going to use them, then please don't take them and donate them, that's AWFUL. That's terrible - I'm sure people have other friends that would happily take them.

Why one earth would you say donating baby clothes is awful??

I can afford to buy my kids' clothes as can all my friends and siblings. If your circle is also financially sound, why would you not want your nicer quality or gently worn baby clothes to go to someone who is poor or who really would benefit from not having to buy nice baby clothes?

You sound like my mother in law.

Unfortunately your reading comprehension is off--re-read the pp's post. She is saying don't take them if you are just going to donate them, as the friend who is giving them to you could give them to someone else who would use them.

I read it.

She was very clear that she thinks it is awful to donate the clothes to needy strangers. She sounded horrified by the very idea.

I guess the nice clothes are for her kind of people and the poors can get the torn and dirty clothes.