Do you really want hand-me-down baby clothes from a friend?

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Anonymous wrote:I took hand me downs and just weeded out anything we didn't want (stained clothes, clothes with holes, things that were sized weirdly) and donated those.

+1. Same here. Though my friend gave me a huge bag of used any clothes and say to bring whatever that I didn't pick back to her. I thought it was strange since she's done with having kids and no one in her family or close friends are having kids. But I will honor that!

Please don't donate stained or torn clothing.

Why not? If it's not good enough to give away/sell in a thrift store, then it gets sold to a textile recycler who will sell it to someone to stuff car seats or for other purposes. I'd rather this happen, than the clothes be stuck in a landfill.

As someone who volunteers at these places that is not what happens. Most things get tossed and it takes up many man hours going through people's junk because they wanted a tax write off. You know nobody wants shit stained onesie just toss it.

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I don't do hand-me-downs, because I can't get over the "previously owned" factor. I am very frugal when it comes to baby clothes, but I'd rather get unworn stuff from Target and Walmart than expensive used stuff.

I'd be okay with sharing between siblings.

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Absolutely. They wear particularly the early ones for a few weeks, often they are nearly new.

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Seeing this thread is 3+ yrs old, curious for an update Op.

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love handmedowns --- had my first at 36, most of my friends already had little boys so we have benefited from some very generous, fashionable folks and our son looks GOOD most of the time.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate hand me downs. I do not want someone's used clothes for myself or my child even if it is in great condition. Of course, I would probably nicely accept them because I would feel bad and then donate them

Every clothing item your baby wears is brand new?

Yes, it is. It is not expensive at all though, mainly target. I just do not feel comfortable putting someone elses socks or shirts on my child. I do not look down on anyone that likes or needs handmedowns, but they just aren't for me

It's not like it's a complete stranger though, it's your friend's child? And they are babies! And you wash them! This is the silliest thing I've ever heard.

(NP) so what if you know where they are coming from. I agree, I prefer buying clothing for my kids to hand-me-downs. But I have of course passed clothes from my oldest dd to my youngest--because I picked the clothes. I like my kids to look good.

We can accept that you want to accept leftovers from others; no need to say it's "silly" for us not to feel the same as you do.

This board is so depressing - I should have been a lawyer and married a lawyer, and then I would have enough money to buy baby gap and designer clothes for my children. Instead I get by on hand me downs and GASP! department store clothes. My kids must be dressed so fugly compared to yours, PP. You probably wouldn't want to me my friend because my kids are dressed so poorly.

I'm a lawyer and I'm married to a lawyer. We love hand me downs

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Anonymous wrote:If you have any doubt, OP, there are plenty of charities for people in true need of hand-me-downs. Affluent-to-affluent hand-me-downs serve very little public good.

Signed,
an arguably affluent mom

They do. It's more environmentally friendly

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Anonymous wrote:I'm of the opinion that accepting and wanting hand me downs for your children is a very American thing. One American friend of mine brought over a huge bag of hand me downs to her Indian friend's home. The Indian friend, who was from an affluent family, was completely offended, got angry with my American friend, and told her, "Pick up that bag of old clothes and get it out of my house." My American friend left sobbing. I think lots of people who don't accept hand me downs are people from certain cultures where that's frowned upon.

That is insanely rude. I would drop an ungrateful friend like that in a heartbeat. If she didn't want the clothes, she could have just said "no thank you, we have plenty of clothes."

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My non profit has a relationship with a company called Ohio Mills that recycled clothing that cannot go to others. I'd look to see where their bins are.

As far as hand me downs. They aren't for me. Baby clothes don't hold up well!

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Anonymous wrote:My non profit has a relationship with a company called Ohio Mills that recycled clothing that cannot go to others. I'd look to see where their bins are.

As far as hand me downs. They aren't for me. Baby clothes don't hold up well!

I find that baby clothes (up until 18 mo or 3t) hold up very very well.