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We just need to buy her the crib, right?
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1. She's an adult
2. She didn't need to leave her job (I threw up ALL day long from week 6 to the day I delivered both my babies) and I continued to work ft up to delivery 3. Resgistries are for suggested gifts (you are not required to buy from these lists). |
Anonymous
| Buy her something nice off the registry, but not the crib. Sign her up for a year's worth of diapers (excellent idea on DH's part btw!). Save all of your baby stuff for a few months, and when reality sets in, let her know you still have them and she's welcome to whatever she'd like. |
Anonymous
Well, it would be a problem if she was a cashier, hairstylist, or receptionist. It's likely you have a desk job and a flexible employer. A 19 year old is not likely to be afforded those same benefits and allowances. |
Anonymous
| For the PP's who're saying "NO CRIB", how much would it cost to also buy a toddler bed (OK, that's a bit of a luxury) and a full-sized bed (which I'm guessing can be used up through college) cost (and don't forget to factor in delivery costs)? |
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Well by then one would hope she'll have come to the realization that she can't turn her nose up at more affordable options nor scoff at free! second hand gear from friends and fam.
If she's still that clueless, then one would hope she'd have gotten a job and can buy her own stuff. |
Anonymous
stepkid here. My brother's girlfriend was a waitress at a chain restaurant. She got fired for throwing up too often. I'm sure she could have fought it but what's the point? The boss would have found another reason. She tried getting another job but nobody would take her on as she was clearly pregnant. She certainly did try. She is a full time student so they ultimately decided it was best for my brother to get another job and for her to keep going to school, and it's working out okay although they're obviously super broke. Anyway, have some empathy and ability to think outside of your office job box. I worked sick and pregnant too, but not everyone has the same sort of job. I have another friend who is an airline pilot. She couldn't throw up on the job, either, and had to take a ton of sick leave her first trimester. |
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It sounds like a lot of PP's didn't get a lot of use out of their kids' cribs, but we sure did: 2 kids, 3 years each, including its toddler bed incarnation. I also think a crib is a real necessity. Once the baby starts moving just a little, a crib is often the only safe place you can put the baby down. Plus, where is the baby going to sleep if you don't have a crib?
I think the grandparents' buying a crib is a great idea. Whether $700 is an appropriate cost is a personal decision (we spent something like that on our Bellini crib 12 years ago, but have "cheaped out" on other things that our friends spend much more on.) OP, if you don't feel comfortable paying that much, you can tell her that: "Ashley, your dad and I really would like to buy the baby a crib, but this one is beyond our reach. Is there any crib in the $xxx dollar range you would like us to buy for you, or would you rather we give you (a gift certificate towards the crib purchase, diapers for 6 months, etc.)?" Then you're being respectful of her autonomy, treating her generously and politely, but not feeling railroaded yourself. |
Anonymous
| 23:17 again. I just re-read your post, and saw that you're leaning toward getting her the crib. That is a wonderfully generous sentiment, and a great way to show her kindness at what inevitably will be a difficult time of her life. If you really want to do it, and can afford it, there is no reason not to. |