pregnant at 47

[Anonymous]

Wow! That is a great success story given your age. It gives me hope to try this before throwing in the towel on IVF in general.

[Anonymous]

Hi OP. First CONGRATS ! Second, did you do anything special, acupuncture, herbs, exercise, etc? If so, please feel free to pass along recommendations if you found anything particularly helpful. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

I saw a link about NCIVF on fertility friends in UK, I'm currently at the Lister clinic but they do not offer this IVF option. Does anyone know of a clinic in Europe or UK that does have it and will allow women over 40 to cycle?

[Anonymous]

not sure about anywhere else but Dominion Fertility in DC area or new hope in NYC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I saw a link about NCIVF on fertility friends in UK, I'm currently at the Lister clinic but they do not offer this IVF option. Does anyone know of a clinic in Europe or UK that does have it and will allow women over 40 to cycle?

Some time ago I visited this website (babyandbump.com), where I saw many posts about IVFs (I believe including NCIVF I believe) from ladies in the U.K. So I would post this question there. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

PP thanks I will check out babyandbump, I wish I could go to the U.S.

[Anonymous]

there is Dr. Geeta Nargund in UK, saw some info on IVF connections.

[Anonymous]

(I would like to make it clear, I'm not the OP.)

And what if the legitimate answer is, "I'd like to have a biological child?" That's a "legitimate answer" that has sustained the human race. How about another legitimate answer: "I don't have to justify my reproductive choices to strangers on internet message board."

Your declaration that your idle insult is a "legitimate question" does not make it so. Are you going to the expectant mothers thread and asking the women there "why don't you just adopt?" People who can have children without assistance never have to justify their decisions. But people who need the help of assisted reproductive technology do. Why is that?

I have also never heard of anyone in the "why don't you adopt" crowd who mentions that they are also an adoptive parent themselves. That's because people who really HAVE adopted are by and large sensitive and loving, understand that the process is not like "baby-shopping," and tend not to ask stupid questions. They love their children but they realize that the adoption path may not be for everyone, even though it is a beautiful way to build a family.

There are, indeed, many children in the world who need homes. It should not be the "job" of the infertile to take care of all of them; all of us have a role to play. So, PP...how many children have you adopted?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:(I would like to make it clear, I'm not the OP.)

And what if the legitimate answer is, "I'd like to have a biological child?" That's a "legitimate answer" that has sustained the human race. How about another legitimate answer: "I don't have to justify my reproductive choices to strangers on internet message board."

Your declaration that your idle insult is a "legitimate question" does not make it so. Are you going to the expectant mothers thread and asking the women there "why don't you just adopt?" People who can have children without assistance never have to justify their decisions. But people who need the help of assisted reproductive technology do. Why is that?

I have also never heard of anyone in the "why don't you adopt" crowd who mentions that they are also an adoptive parent themselves. That's because people who really HAVE adopted are by and large sensitive and loving, understand that the process is not like "baby-shopping," and tend not to ask stupid questions. They love their children but they realize that the adoption path may not be for everyone, even though it is a beautiful way to build a family.

There are, indeed, many children in the world who need homes. It should not be the "job" of the infertile to take care of all of them; all of us have a role to play. So, PP...how many children have you adopted?

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:(I would like to make it clear, I'm not the OP.)

And what if the legitimate answer is, "I'd like to have a biological child?" That's a "legitimate answer" that has sustained the human race. How about another legitimate answer: "I don't have to justify my reproductive choices to strangers on internet message board."

Your declaration that your idle insult is a "legitimate question" does not make it so. Are you going to the expectant mothers thread and asking the women there "why don't you just adopt?" People who can have children without assistance never have to justify their decisions. But people who need the help of assisted reproductive technology do. Why is that?

I have also never heard of anyone in the "why don't you adopt" crowd who mentions that they are also an adoptive parent themselves. That's because people who really HAVE adopted are by and large sensitive and loving, understand that the process is not like "baby-shopping," and tend not to ask stupid questions. They love their children but they realize that the adoption path may not be for everyone, even though it is a beautiful way to build a family.

There are, indeed, many children in the world who need homes. It should not be the "job" of the infertile to take care of all of them; all of us have a role to play. So, PP...how many children have you adopted?

You should be a lawyer. Well said.

[Anonymous]

You both are quite kind. But if the mod has removed the offending posts, it only makes sense to delete mine too. If only because it looks like I'm fussing at nothing!

[Anonymous]

Nah, it's cool. We need a ticker that says "this post has been removed for violating the no-asshole rule" or something. I actually reported it - so thanks mod!!

[Anonymous]

Thank you 10:01 poster! I am so sick of judgmental comments from all of my fertile friends especially the one about adoption. They think it's just like going to a store and picking out a baby you like to bring home. Also, when I say that I want to have a biological child who has my eyes and my husband's smarts, I feel guilty for some reason. Now having read your post, I see I don't have to be.

[Anonymous]

Reminding me that I need to start a thread about stupid things people say.

[Anonymous]

In this day in age it is amazing how many people say stupid things to those of us struggling with infertility. Poster 10:01 (who makes it clear she is not the OP, cause I think she is over at the expectant Mom forum) you wrote a beautiful post and bring up lots of good points for those of us that WANT our own biological child.