Politcal disagreement with friends - when is it too hard to stay friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been friends with this person for several years. She's been a great friend, but since Trump became president, she's been showing me a pretty ugly side. She knows my husband and I are federal workers, and when I told her last year that we're worried about our jobs, she said flippantly, "well, there's too much waste and you'll be fine anyway since you're both so smart." And then she throws in, I'll pray for you both! I didn't know what to do with that, and asked her how she'd feel about the possibility of losing her job and she basically said people in the private sector get laid off all the time and again emphasized it wouldn't be the end of the world. I let it go.

Over the last year, she's started to say more and more unsettling things like that, basically glossing over a lot of the corruption going on, deflecting to Biden and Obama any time I question Trump, and then emphasizing that I need to pray more when I'm worried or focus on positive things. Kinda funny, that's exactly what my MAGA parents and relatives all say as well-- pray more and seek joy! WTF is that all about. My MAGA mom will forward all these warm and fuzzy platitudes and Mother Theresa quotes in response to anything negative I send her about Trump.

Would you back away from the friendship? I've never imagined that an actual friend would respond this way over employment concerns, even sounding happy about people losing their jobs. I told her about a good friend of mine with kids to support who had to leave her federal job because of the administration and again, the same callous response--"the government is such a waste, I hate paying taxes, and I'll pray for her!" Is this a MAGA thing? Think happy thoughts and pray to Jesus in response to any mention to the administration's corruption and cruelty?

I don't care for Trump, but you sound pretty delusional about how people outside of the DC bubble think about federal bureaucrats. 5 of the top 10 richest counties in the country are in the DMV and most Americans see these jobs as nothing more than cushy jobs for insiders wasting their tax dollars.

Why are you bringing up Trump's misdeeds to a friend who you know supports Trump? Do you also bring up Mohammad's misdeeds to your Muslim friends? It sounds like you are looking for a fight. And how dare she suggest focusing on positive things rather than ranting and raving about Trump? The gall.

Didn’t stop you from voting for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if a friend did not vote for Harris or Trump in 2024? I have a long time friend who votes libertarian and I find it offensive that she did not vote for Harris. She is hurt by this but I am finding it hard to care. Am I wrong?

She thought Trump being elected was acceptable. Gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if a friend did not vote for Harris or Trump in 2024? I have a long time friend who votes libertarian and I find it offensive that she did not vote for Harris. She is hurt by this but I am finding it hard to care. Am I wrong?

She thought Trump being elected was acceptable. Gross.

No. She always votes libertarian.

[Anonymous]

Religion is believing in a delusion to provide comfort for yourself. Your friend is going to lean into that delusion when she feels uncomfortable. Its not about you. Its about her. This is who she is. Take it or leave it but I wouldn't take her comments personal because shes just saying them to support her politics and religion and doesn’t know how to exist in the world unless she makes everything conform to these beliefs. This is how ultra religious and ultra political people are. Expect this to happen for every issue related or unrelated to you and then decide if you want to be friends. Personally I would just dial down the relationship to an acquaintance level if my views were so different. I prefer friends who aren't loyal to a religion or political party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have cut every Trump supporter out of our lives, our kids haven't seen or spoken to that set of grandparents since 2016. It has been so much more peaceful and we have no regrets at not being in touch with people who are opposed to our values as a family.

What values are those? Being arrogant narcissistic twats?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if a friend did not vote for Harris or Trump in 2024? I have a long time friend who votes libertarian and I find it offensive that she did not vote for Harris. She is hurt by this but I am finding it hard to care. Am I wrong?

She thought Trump being elected was acceptable. Gross.

No. She always votes libertarian.

It’s a two-party system. She had the option to vote Harris but decided that Trump was an acceptable outcome with her throwaway vote.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have cut every Trump supporter out of our lives, our kids haven't seen or spoken to that set of grandparents since 2016. It has been so much more peaceful and we have no regrets at not being in touch with people who are opposed to our values as a family.

What values are those? Being arrogant narcissistic twats?

You seem to have trouble following. PP is avoiding arrogant, narcissistic twats.