Politcal disagreement with friends - when is it too hard to stay friends?

[Anonymous]

If people finally show you who they are, unashamedly, why not believe them. Is this the kind of person you want as a friend? What does "friend" mean to you?

I think it is fine to end a relationship with someone who is repugnant in beliefs.

[Anonymous]

Pretty simple for me. I have no close friends by choice who are MAGA. End of story. I have one person I tolerate who is MAGA - my MIL- because I can’t divorce her and she keeps her MAGA views to herself when she is around me. . And no, I’m not some crazy liberal. Just a rational, middle of the road, non- racist, rational thinker. Why would I want to be friends with a mentally ill, racist, misogynistic, white trash, bitter cult member? Because let’s face it, that ALWAYS has been and will always be MAGA.

[Anonymous]

We still haven't heard back from OP any specifics as to what her federal job actually is, why she thinks it's so important, and why her friends or anyone else should give a shyte about it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pretty simple for me. I have no close friends by choice who are MAGA. End of story. I have one person I tolerate who is MAGA - my MIL- because I can’t divorce her and she keeps her MAGA views to herself when she is around me. . And no, I’m not some crazy liberal. Just a rational, middle of the road, non- racist, rational thinker. Why would I want to be friends with a mentally ill, racist, misogynistic, white trash, bitter cult member? Because let’s face it, that ALWAYS has been and will always be MAGA.

You don't have to be friends with anyone if you disagree with them politically. Needing to demonize everyone who voted differently than you is a manifestation of your psychological disorder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pretty simple for me. I have no close friends by choice who are MAGA. End of story. I have one person I tolerate who is MAGA - my MIL- because I can’t divorce her and she keeps her MAGA views to herself when she is around me. . And no, I’m not some crazy liberal. Just a rational, middle of the road, non- racist, rational thinker. Why would I want to be friends with a mentally ill, racist, misogynistic, white trash, bitter cult member? Because let’s face it, that ALWAYS has been and will always be MAGA.

You don't have to be friends with anyone if you disagree with them politically. Needing to demonize everyone who voted differently than you is a manifestation of your psychological disorder.

Trump has made it clear he is a misogynist (“grab them by the …”) and a racist (taking out an ad to condemn the “Central Park Five,” who BY THE WAY, were later found innocent…and no, he didn’t apologize; and he was found guilty of unfair housing practices.)

He is a CONVICTED rapist. He is mentioned in the Epstein Files more times than Jesus is mentioned in the Bible. Go ahead, Google that to confirm by multiple sources. I’ll wait.

If you support someone who is a known rapist, an alleged pedophile who is suppressing the evidence thereof from public view, and who is proven to be a misogynist and a racist, then you yourself are OK with all of those things. And that makes you, forevermore, a crappy human not worth knowing.

Buh bye.

[Anonymous]

Since you all despise these people I guess you are not friends

[Anonymous]

We have cut every Trump supporter out of our lives, our kids haven't seen or spoken to that set of grandparents since 2016. It has been so much more peaceful and we have no regrets at not being in touch with people who are opposed to our values as a family.

[Anonymous]

I do a lot of work to nurture friendships.

I don't have time to deal with evil Trumpers. Why should I subject myself to their nonsense?

They can revel in their Idiocracy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pretty simple for me. I have no close friends by choice who are MAGA. End of story. I have one person I tolerate who is MAGA - my MIL- because I can’t divorce her and she keeps her MAGA views to herself when she is around me. . And no, I’m not some crazy liberal. Just a rational, middle of the road, non- racist, rational thinker. Why would I want to be friends with a mentally ill, racist, misogynistic, white trash, bitter cult member? Because let’s face it, that ALWAYS has been and will always be MAGA.

You don't have to be friends with anyone if you disagree with them politically. Needing to demonize everyone who voted differently than you is a manifestation of your psychological disorder.

Project much?

There was no rational reason why a non-a-hole would vote for Trump in 2024. You could maybe get a pass if you were ignorant in 2016, but in 2024 you know exactly the depravity you were supporting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have cut every Trump supporter out of our lives, our kids haven't seen or spoken to that set of grandparents since 2016. It has been so much more peaceful and we have no regrets at not being in touch with people who are opposed to our values as a family.

Same here. They were all sort of a mess and aren’t missed.

[Anonymous]

The mentally ill are strong here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been friends with this person for several years. She's been a great friend, but since Trump became president, she's been showing me a pretty ugly side. She knows my husband and I are federal workers, and when I told her last year that we're worried about our jobs, she said flippantly, "well, there's too much waste and you'll be fine anyway since you're both so smart." And then she throws in, I'll pray for you both! I didn't know what to do with that, and asked her how she'd feel about the possibility of losing her job and she basically said people in the private sector get laid off all the time and again emphasized it wouldn't be the end of the world. I let it go.

Over the last year, she's started to say more and more unsettling things like that, basically glossing over a lot of the corruption going on, deflecting to Biden and Obama any time I question Trump, and then emphasizing that I need to pray more when I'm worried or focus on positive things. Kinda funny, that's exactly what my MAGA parents and relatives all say as well-- pray more and seek joy! WTF is that all about. My MAGA mom will forward all these warm and fuzzy platitudes and Mother Theresa quotes in response to anything negative I send her about Trump.

Would you back away from the friendship? I've never imagined that an actual friend would respond this way over employment concerns, even sounding happy about people losing their jobs. I told her about a good friend of mine with kids to support who had to leave her federal job because of the administration and again, the same callous response--"the government is such a waste, I hate paying taxes, and I'll pray for her!" Is this a MAGA thing? Think happy thoughts and pray to Jesus in response to any mention to the administration's corruption and cruelty?

I don't care for Trump, but you sound pretty delusional about how people outside of the DC bubble think about federal bureaucrats. 5 of the top 10 richest counties in the country are in the DMV and most Americans see these jobs as nothing more than cushy jobs for insiders wasting their tax dollars.

Why are you bringing up Trump's misdeeds to a friend who you know supports Trump? Do you also bring up Mohammad's misdeeds to your Muslim friends? It sounds like you are looking for a fight. And how dare she suggest focusing on positive things rather than ranting and raving about Trump? The gall.

[Anonymous]

I knew someone in my friend group was a massive Trump supporter. Unlike your situation I only, and barely, tolerated her but kept my feelings to myself about it since it was my issue and didn’t want to cause waves in my friend group. I was DOGEd and it was a very clear cause/effect of Trump illegally canceling federal contracts, so I mentioned that when I told my friends that I was laid off. I said thanks Trump, won’t stand up in court but it will be too late for me. While I’m in the throes of losing my career she ranted that Biden was no better, blah blah.

I finally cracked and privately tore into her. Haven’t spoken to her since and I have not one regret about it. Who the hell needs friends like that??

[Anonymous]

People like that are dead to me.

[Anonymous]

What if a friend did not vote for Harris or Trump in 2024? I have a long time friend who votes libertarian and I find it offensive that she did not vote for Harris. She is hurt by this but I am finding it hard to care. Am I wrong?