Inlaw wedding- would this bother you?

[Anonymous]

We invited kids to our wedding, it's part of the circle of life, people, not a night club dance-off. The kids run around, dance, listen to loud music, try new food, meet relatives and take pictures with people they might not ordinarily meet. If they get cranky or tired Mommy or Daddy or Gramma takes them home and maybe take turns coming back for the party. If they cry during the ceremony Mommy takes them outside. Truth is only people who don't have kids would not invite kids, or a bridezilla who is worried about being upstaged by your adorable 2 year old.

This is my idea of a great wedding but I can respect that others want something different. Some people prefer something more family and people oriented and some people want something more elegant and black_tie.

However, I firmly believe that no one should ever expect someone to attend their wedding or be offended if an invited family member can not bear the cost of travel or chooses not to leave a small child at home. If you want more people to attend then you need to be a more accomodating host not expect people to put their immediate family needs aside just for you.

[Anonymous]

I would be pissed if we had to use our only vacation money for my DH to go to a wedding and I wasn't going. That said, I would probably stay home and enjoy myself and chalk it up to being part of his family. Get a babysitter, go out to dinner and a movie, wear pj's all day. Also, for those who said to stay at another resort, while beautiful, St. Lucia isn't the easiest place to get around, the roads suck and taxis are expensive. We had a 2 hr boatride from the airport to the resort and if we had taken a car, it would have been five hours. We stayed at one resort, took a cab to eat at another resort (Ladera-fabulous!!) and the taxi ride was $35 one way for ONE mile!! So, it might not be all that easy and convenient to go from one resort to another.