Friends with little to no family, holiday edition

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have little to no family. I don't expect anyone to check in or catch up specifically because it's the holidays.

Take this off your plate. Really.

Same for me! I’ll be actually very happy to be alone for Xmas

That’s great! Can I ask how you got to that mindset? Do you have kids or a partner? I have a few friends who are quite bothered by the holidays, and I don’t know how to cheer them up. I just spent the afternoon with one of them today, and I’m glad I made the time because they did seem down and needing connection. And no, I don’t think my family life is perfect and there is a lot that frustrates me about the holidays, but I also appreciate my family.

Please let your friends be bothered. It's okay. It's really okay. People who don't do holiday cheer aren't defective. If they're unhappy, well, their happiness is their own business. Trying to "cheer someone up" when they're not into it is obnoxious, and likely to backfire. Just let people be.

People get to experience the season differently than you do. It's okay.

Op here- weird that you are chiming in to answer for this PP. And also weird that you assume that you know my friends better than I do, and that you insist on putting words in my mouth. Both friends that I am thinking of in particular have told me the holidays are tough. I connected with one yesterday for a few hours and we talked about it a lot. So please stop your angry, defensive projecting of your own insecurities. If you don't have something positive to add to this thread, move on.

Weird that you'd get so wackadoodle defensive about an innocuous comment you disagree with. OP, your savior complex is showing and it's ugly af.

I’m getting serious Annie Wilkes vibes from all your posts…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have little to no family. I don't expect anyone to check in or catch up specifically because it's the holidays.

Take this off your plate. Really.

Same for me! I’ll be actually very happy to be alone for Xmas

That’s great! Can I ask how you got to that mindset? Do you have kids or a partner? I have a few friends who are quite bothered by the holidays, and I don’t know how to cheer them up. I just spent the afternoon with one of them today, and I’m glad I made the time because they did seem down and needing connection. And no, I don’t think my family life is perfect and there is a lot that frustrates me about the holidays, but I also appreciate my family.

Please let your friends be bothered. It's okay. It's really okay. People who don't do holiday cheer aren't defective. If they're unhappy, well, their happiness is their own business. Trying to "cheer someone up" when they're not into it is obnoxious, and likely to backfire. Just let people be.

People get to experience the season differently than you do. It's okay.

Op here- weird that you are chiming in to answer for this PP. And also weird that you assume that you know my friends better than I do, and that you insist on putting words in my mouth. Both friends that I am thinking of in particular have told me the holidays are tough. I connected with one yesterday for a few hours and we talked about it a lot. So please stop your angry, defensive projecting of your own insecurities. If you don't have something positive to add to this thread, move on.

Weird that you'd get so wackadoodle defensive about an innocuous comment you disagree with. OP, your savior complex is showing and it's ugly af.

I’m getting serious Annie Wilkes vibes from all your posts…

Log off. Touch grass. Judge less, observe more. I believe in you, PP.

(kinda)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have little to no family. I don't expect anyone to check in or catch up specifically because it's the holidays.

Take this off your plate. Really.

Same for me! I’ll be actually very happy to be alone for Xmas

That’s great! Can I ask how you got to that mindset? Do you have kids or a partner? I have a few friends who are quite bothered by the holidays, and I don’t know how to cheer them up. I just spent the afternoon with one of them today, and I’m glad I made the time because they did seem down and needing connection. And no, I don’t think my family life is perfect and there is a lot that frustrates me about the holidays, but I also appreciate my family.

Please let your friends be bothered. It's okay. It's really okay. People who don't do holiday cheer aren't defective. If they're unhappy, well, their happiness is their own business. Trying to "cheer someone up" when they're not into it is obnoxious, and likely to backfire. Just let people be.

People get to experience the season differently than you do. It's okay.

Op here- weird that you are chiming in to answer for this PP. And also weird that you assume that you know my friends better than I do, and that you insist on putting words in my mouth. Both friends that I am thinking of in particular have told me the holidays are tough. I connected with one yesterday for a few hours and we talked about it a lot. So please stop your angry, defensive projecting of your own insecurities. If you don't have something positive to add to this thread, move on.

Weird that you'd get so wackadoodle defensive about an innocuous comment you disagree with. OP, your savior complex is showing and it's ugly af.

Wherever you go, there you are, PP. posting as other people doesn’t change that…

What are you even talking about? I responded in thread, as myself. Sorry you can't read, I guess?

It’s an expression

"Posting as other people" isn't an expression, it's an accusation: that someone's sockpuppeting. I wasn't.

The first part is trite enough that even I've heard it. It's also functionally useless in this context. Try harder next time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have little to no family. I don't expect anyone to check in or catch up specifically because it's the holidays.

Take this off your plate. Really.

Same for me! I’ll be actually very happy to be alone for Xmas

That’s great! Can I ask how you got to that mindset? Do you have kids or a partner? I have a few friends who are quite bothered by the holidays, and I don’t know how to cheer them up. I just spent the afternoon with one of them today, and I’m glad I made the time because they did seem down and needing connection. And no, I don’t think my family life is perfect and there is a lot that frustrates me about the holidays, but I also appreciate my family.

Please let your friends be bothered. It's okay. It's really okay. People who don't do holiday cheer aren't defective. If they're unhappy, well, their happiness is their own business. Trying to "cheer someone up" when they're not into it is obnoxious, and likely to backfire. Just let people be.

People get to experience the season differently than you do. It's okay.

Op here- weird that you are chiming in to answer for this PP. And also weird that you assume that you know my friends better than I do, and that you insist on putting words in my mouth. Both friends that I am thinking of in particular have told me the holidays are tough. I connected with one yesterday for a few hours and we talked about it a lot. So please stop your angry, defensive projecting of your own insecurities. If you don't have something positive to add to this thread, move on.

Weird that you'd get so wackadoodle defensive about an innocuous comment you disagree with. OP, your savior complex is showing and it's ugly af.

Wherever you go, there you are, PP. posting as other people doesn’t change that…

What are you even talking about? I responded in thread, as myself. Sorry you can't read, I guess?

It’s an expression

"Posting as other people" isn't an expression, it's an accusation: that someone's sockpuppeting. I wasn't.

The first part is trite enough that even I've heard it. It's also functionally useless in this context. Try harder next time.

Got it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have little to no family. I don't expect anyone to check in or catch up specifically because it's the holidays.

Take this off your plate. Really.

Same for me! I’ll be actually very happy to be alone for Xmas

That’s great! Can I ask how you got to that mindset? Do you have kids or a partner? I have a few friends who are quite bothered by the holidays, and I don’t know how to cheer them up. I just spent the afternoon with one of them today, and I’m glad I made the time because they did seem down and needing connection. And no, I don’t think my family life is perfect and there is a lot that frustrates me about the holidays, but I also appreciate my family.

Please let your friends be bothered. It's okay. It's really okay. People who don't do holiday cheer aren't defective. If they're unhappy, well, their happiness is their own business. Trying to "cheer someone up" when they're not into it is obnoxious, and likely to backfire. Just let people be.

People get to experience the season differently than you do. It's okay.

Op here- weird that you are chiming in to answer for this PP. And also weird that you assume that you know my friends better than I do, and that you insist on putting words in my mouth. Both friends that I am thinking of in particular have told me the holidays are tough. I connected with one yesterday for a few hours and we talked about it a lot. So please stop your angry, defensive projecting of your own insecurities. If you don't have something positive to add to this thread, move on.

Weird that you'd get so wackadoodle defensive about an innocuous comment you disagree with. OP, your savior complex is showing and it's ugly af.

I’m getting serious Annie Wilkes vibes from all your posts…

Log off. Touch grass. Judge less, observe more. I believe in you, PP.

(kinda)

I really hope you find some peace

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have little to no family. I don't expect anyone to check in or catch up specifically because it's the holidays.

Take this off your plate. Really.

Same for me! I’ll be actually very happy to be alone for Xmas

That’s great! Can I ask how you got to that mindset? Do you have kids or a partner? I have a few friends who are quite bothered by the holidays, and I don’t know how to cheer them up. I just spent the afternoon with one of them today, and I’m glad I made the time because they did seem down and needing connection. And no, I don’t think my family life is perfect and there is a lot that frustrates me about the holidays, but I also appreciate my family.

Please let your friends be bothered. It's okay. It's really okay. People who don't do holiday cheer aren't defective. If they're unhappy, well, their happiness is their own business. Trying to "cheer someone up" when they're not into it is obnoxious, and likely to backfire. Just let people be.

People get to experience the season differently than you do. It's okay.

Op here- weird that you are chiming in to answer for this PP. And also weird that you assume that you know my friends better than I do, and that you insist on putting words in my mouth. Both friends that I am thinking of in particular have told me the holidays are tough. I connected with one yesterday for a few hours and we talked about it a lot. So please stop your angry, defensive projecting of your own insecurities. If you don't have something positive to add to this thread, move on.

Weird that you'd get so wackadoodle defensive about an innocuous comment you disagree with. OP, your savior complex is showing and it's ugly af.

I’m getting serious Annie Wilkes vibes from all your posts…

Log off. Touch grass. Judge less, observe more. I believe in you, PP.

(kinda)

I really hope you find some peace

Then you'll be relieved to find I'm totally fine, despite your projections. Thanks, though.

Imagine being this judgmental of a stranger. I can't, but you apparently have that kind of time and the desire to spend it doing... this.