What makes a man commit to being faithful?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single (35/F). I’ve noticed many of the men I meet aren’t interested in being in a faithful/committed relationship.

Of course, I’m looking for marriage with the right person and before we can be monogamous of course it starts with baseline of being in a relationship.

what am I missing? Do some men just not want to commit? Or what does it take for single men to settle down? I hate to think all men cheat.

Man here: There are really two scenarios that make men want to commit: 1. He has no particular interest in commitment and has been dating around and then he meets the person who changes his mind. This happens almost immediately in my experience. (Note: he may not reveal this, I’d certainly counsel him not to in the current dating market, you can scare people off that way) 2. He reaches the moment where he says to himself “uh oh, I need to settle down” and he then marries the person he is currently dating or the next person he dates. You’d rather be in the first than the second situation, of course. If I were giving advice, I’d say it’s perfectly reasonable for a woman to say “no sex unless we are exclusive”; if he’s into you, that won’t be a problem. If not, probably better not to waste your time, he for the streets.

You might be a man, but you are not a good man. Many men fall in love and adore the woman and want to spend their lives with her. You are just a narc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No offense, but you gotta be a whore in the bedroom for sure. And make sure he eats good.

Keep his bell full and his balls empty. And don’t be a nag.

It’s really as simple as that.

Plenty of those men still cheat.

Cheating has nothing to do with a man’s spouse feeding or f***ing him. It’s an internal thing. Stop blaming women for men’s poor behaviour.

Nah. Women unquestionably have a strong, even decisive influence on male behavior. You control access to what he wants, as you certainly understand very well.

Sorry incel, women aren’t responsible for your shitty character or actions. Grow up and take some responsibility for being a sh!tty human.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single (35/F). I’ve noticed many of the men I meet aren’t interested in being in a faithful/committed relationship.

Of course, I’m looking for marriage with the right person and before we can be monogamous of course it starts with baseline of being in a relationship.

what am I missing? Do some men just not want to commit? Or what does it take for single men to settle down? I hate to think all men cheat.

Man here: There are really two scenarios that make men want to commit: 1. He has no particular interest in commitment and has been dating around and then he meets the person who changes his mind. This happens almost immediately in my experience. (Note: he may not reveal this, I’d certainly counsel him not to in the current dating market, you can scare people off that way) 2. He reaches the moment where he says to himself “uh oh, I need to settle down” and he then marries the person he is currently dating or the next person he dates. You’d rather be in the first than the second situation, of course. If I were giving advice, I’d say it’s perfectly reasonable for a woman to say “no sex unless we are exclusive”; if he’s into you, that won’t be a problem. If not, probably better not to waste your time, he for the streets.

You might be a man, but you are not a good man. Many men fall in love and adore the woman and want to spend their lives with her. You are just a narc.

Is that not scenario 1?

[Anonymous]

Integrity. He either has it, or he doesn't.

You can't "make" a man commit to being faithful. He's either a faithful, loyal man of integrity and standards, or he's not.

There are a lot of 'nots' around, unfortunately. Most of them will blame women, too. "If only she'd..." and then it's something goofy, like if she looked different, or whatever. Look at all the supermodels who've been cheated on. No amount of looks will "make" a man be a better man than he's willing to be by and for himself. You either choose to be a person with integrity for yourself or you don't. No exceptions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Character.

This times a million. A woman, no matter what she does, is not responsible for her man's morals and character. If he doesn't have integrity, you aren't doing anything to keep him faithful. Everything else said on here is total horseshit.

Yup. That.

[Anonymous]

As a male married over 30 years who has been faithful it’s pretty simple. I still love my wife and we have a great sex life. In addition, integrity means a lot to me and if I cheated my children would lose respect for me. That is way too high a price to pay.

[Anonymous]

I'm faithful because I was never the kind of guy who had a lot of options. I have not cheated on my wife of 20 years because the opportunity has never come up. And I don't put myself in situations where the opportunity might come up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm faithful because I was never the kind of guy who had a lot of options. I have not cheated on my wife of 20 years because the opportunity has never come up. And I don't put myself in situations where the opportunity might come up

That sounds sad. If a woman showed interest in you you’d immediately go cheat on your wife? Does she know this?

[Anonymous]

Don't get fat or ugly, don't nap

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm faithful because I was never the kind of guy who had a lot of options. I have not cheated on my wife of 20 years because the opportunity has never come up. And I don't put myself in situations where the opportunity might come up

That sounds sad. If a woman showed interest in you you’d immediately go cheat on your wife? Does she know this?

It doesn't feel sad to me. My wife shows interest in me and other women don't.

[Anonymous]

It's how they were raised. Some are just cheaters.

Their own unhappiness may cause them to look for answers outside the marriage and one answer is an AP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single (35/F). I’ve noticed many of the men I meet aren’t interested in being in a faithful/committed relationship.

Of course, I’m looking for marriage with the right person and before we can be monogamous of course it starts with baseline of being in a relationship.

what am I missing? Do some men just not want to commit? Or what does it take for single men to settle down? I hate to think all men cheat.

Men are not built for monogamous relationships. All men will cheat if given the opportunity. You can’t control it.
You should only worry about what you can control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm faithful because I was never the kind of guy who had a lot of options. I have not cheated on my wife of 20 years because the opportunity has never come up. And I don't put myself in situations where the opportunity might come up

That sounds sad. If a woman showed interest in you you’d immediately go cheat on your wife? Does she know this?

A study showed that 76% of men would.
That’s how men are. Yes, it’s sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No offense, but you gotta be a whore in the bedroom for sure. And make sure he eats good.

Keep his bell full and his balls empty. And don’t be a nag.

It’s really as simple as that.

Plenty of those men still cheat.

Cheating has nothing to do with a man’s spouse feeding or f***ing him. It’s an internal thing. Stop blaming women for men’s poor behaviour.

Nah. Women unquestionably have a strong, even decisive influence on male behavior. You control access to what he wants, as you certainly understand very well.

Sorry incel, women aren’t responsible for your shitty character or actions. Grow up and take some responsibility for being a sh!tty human.

Sorry dingbat, a relationship involves two people and the behavior of one of them necessarily affects how the other behaves.

[Anonymous]

A study also showed that 79% of women stop respecting and caring as much as they did during the earlier stages of relationship.

Your behavior changed so why worry now when his does too.