What makes a man commit to being faithful?
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Anonymous
Yes. Sufficient for at least 90% of guys. You will get a guy who will adore you forever. |
Anonymous
Are you a guy? |
Anonymous
Yes. |
Anonymous
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Sex and be easy going. That’s about it.
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Anonymous
| DEATH. |
Anonymous
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OP I hate to break it to you but your post sounds pitiful. Don’t try and contort yourself for male approval. Men at the stage in life where you are, who are not yet settled down, are by and large selfish as heck. You can be as nice, docile, accommodating, and sex focused as you want….they will just take, and not offer true commitment. In the end you will feel like used crap.
A good one is a rare unicorn. The sooner you understand this, the happier you will be. |
Anonymous
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Honestly I am not even that attractive and never had any problems finding guys who want to be monogamous with me. Granted this was years ago and I’m now married.
Being able to weed out scumbags, f boys, and cheaters is an important skill. I have always been very good at boundaries, reading people, and understanding their motivations. I’m not sure how much can be taught if you don’t if you don’t intrinsically have it. My advice is to talk about exclusivity early and if he hedges at all, move on. Honestly I never even had to bring it up because most guys tried to lock it down early. Even better if he moves first to DTR. |
Anonymous
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Most of us married a lot earlier and had our family built by 35. We were always committed and were discounted by women who are ready to settle down at 35.
A number of us were also cheated on and find it hard to be in that position again, especially when we are still paying for past mistakes in the form of alimony. The rest of the pool have never been the guy you want to settle down with for life. |
Anonymous
This. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that getting men to commit comes down to 2 things: 1. You have the ability to walk away (secure financially, lots of friends, lots of other options, look hot, etc) 2. You have high standards and WILL walk away the moment he doesn’t reach them. Any man who says just be easy going and put out is lying. Those women get cheated on left and right. And as the saying goes - who do you ask how to catch a fish, the fish or the fisherwoman? |
Anonymous
| Kind men, honest men, nice guys. It has nothing to do with the woman at all. |
Anonymous
| A kind man does not make you change for him, twists you in a pretzel to please him, only narcissists do that. |
Anonymous
You must be one of them yourself, if you are tearing down women so easily. I do not know of a single woman like that. |
Anonymous
Absolute patriarchal horseshit. |
Anonymous
| You've missed them, OP. I'm 40 and all the men I know committed at least a decade or more ago. There's only been 1 who I saw finally got married, and his bride looked halfway through a pregnancy in the photos he posted to social media. |
Anonymous
| “Dating these days can feel like you are shopping at the flea market at closing time.” That’s hilarious, even though I do not an agree. |