How tired are you of mean girl culture of moms at your private?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What are some examples of mean girl culture of moms? There are moms who I avoid but if I’m being honest it’s more based on how they are dressed(eg dripping with expensive bags, jewelry etc), but otherwise we haven’t experienced any behaviors that directly impact DD so I’m genuinely curious.

Maybe you should not judge people based on their clothes or accessories. You sound a bit superficial. Why don’t you get to know the person instead?

People who dress in this way: conspicuous ultra high end labels don’t share my values. Yes they can be nice lovely people but beyond exchanging pleasantries I have no interest in developing relationships with people who practice extravagant consumerism.

You realize this is just the flip side of the coin right? You are still excluding people because of what they are wearing...

This is typical at DC private schools, galas, work events, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have loved watching a few moms fan girl over the semi-famous people. Then curate their kids' friends away from the kids their kids were actual friends with, to steer them to friendship with the semi-famous peoples' kids (who dress and act in ways that the moms previously looked upon with critical judgment). That's been quite fun to observe.

I've found private to be around half composed of a really solid group of parents and kids and a half composed of aspirational and achieved mean girls with kids who seem to be on the path to becoming their parents.

Find your people. Don't fret if the cool kids don't like you. Take it as a compliment.

There are no famous people in DC.

nerd-famous

In DC a Deputy Assistant Secretary or national section journalist might be considered famous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I do not consider any of the moms at my child’s school friends. Over a decade ago when my child enrolled at his private, the father of one of his classmates deliberately humiliated me in front of a bunch of the other moms by insinuating that I was having an affair with him. I have never cheated in my over two decade long marriage. A bunch of the moms believed him so I checked out socially. My child had also been socially excluded outside of school beyond the obligatory school invites like game nights etc. I did host birthday parties for him a few times over the years. That’s all. He does get along with the other children at school according to his teachers. I’m grateful for that.

why, and how, did the Dad do that - it would be helpful to give a little more context. did he merely make a tasteless joke, or did he actually tell facts (true or not) that made everyone think you were having an affair?
was he a single Dad or was he married too? if married, it is odd that he would shame himself and his own kids in front of the Mom group.

Someone’s paranoid.

Don’t worry. The only people who would recognize this account would be the four people who were present at the time. Leave me alone and bugger off and I won’t out you as the experienced sexual harasser you are. Lucky for you, I remember what happened to Anita Hill.

[Anonymous]

It’s how our school enables mean moms by appointing them to leadership positions even when they know how egregious some of the behavior is. School thinks it keeps the money flowing when in reality it means they lose out because a lot of parents disengage and decide to donate less or even nothing.

We have reduced our donations because we’re pretty disgusted with the spinelessness of school leadership and know many parents who feel the same.

[Anonymous]

seems to me the mean moms finish last always, or almost always. that system doesn't work. Give it a year or two or so, you'll see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:seems to me the mean moms finish last always, or almost always. that system doesn't work. Give it a year or two or so, you'll see.

At an all boys school in the area the mean moms/dads have run things for years. Have leadership positions and some serve on the board. They throw the parties and decide who is on or out of the social group all the way though until graduation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:seems to me the mean moms finish last always, or almost always. that system doesn't work. Give it a year or two or so, you'll see.

At an all boys school in the area the mean moms/dads have run things for years. Have leadership positions and some serve on the board. They throw the parties and decide who is on or out of the social group all the way though until graduation.

Can you please share the school? We are considering all boys and this is one of my personal concerns with the club crowd

[Anonymous]

Not necessarily. Some kids throw the parties (or the parents let them host them) because they are the kids that don’t get invited.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:seems to me the mean moms finish last always, or almost always. that system doesn't work. Give it a year or two or so, you'll see.

At an all boys school in the area the mean moms/dads have run things for years. Have leadership positions and some serve on the board. They throw the parties and decide who is on or out of the social group all the way though until graduation.

Just because a parent volunteers and throws a party doesn't mean everything else is great.