How tired are you of mean girl culture of moms at your private?
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Anonymous
It’s not happening here either. It’s just in people’s heads. The quote from that PP about the boys coming over is as close as I’ve ever seen to evidence of an actually mean mom, but it sounds like a mom who just carelessly stuck her foot in her mouth and then tried awkwardly to cover for it. Bad, but it happens, and it’s social ineptitude more than malice. |
Anonymous
Because these are not typical experiences. I have 4 kids who went through several different schools and never made a donation to get a sibling admitted and never had another parent be mean to me. |
Anonymous
It depends on what years you're talking about, but moms can absolutely impact who is invited to what at younger ages. |
Anonymous
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I just steer clear of certain moms, though I would not say that mean moms are pervasive at the independent school DD attends. If they were, we might reconsider sending our child there.
DD has a solid group of friends. We are friendly with the parents of her friends and that is enough for us. We also feel our child is getting a great education, which is what matters most to us. When DD was in public school, we also had some mean moms. I think they were less noticeable because the public schools tend to be larger than many independents in the area. |
Anonymous
| Why would you keep your kid at a private where they are. treated like crap? |
Anonymous
| In my experience, the parents were very nice but the kids were all turds. I was told by someone at the school that kids mature and become a lot nicer in 12th grade. By then, it's a bit late! The good news is that college is wonderful! The kids are friendly and it's a fresh start. If you have trouble meeting people, there's a new semester around the corner with all new students in new classes. Just get through high school - it's often tough and not easy being stuck with the same people! |
Anonymous
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Yup.
NCS. |
Anonymous
I know one Mom at NCS who is extremely sweet and nice - and for good measure she is incredibly hot! |
Anonymous
| This is the main reason we chose public. |
Anonymous
| Maybe I’m oblivious but I never notice any mean girl behavior from parents at our k-8 or all girls HS. I never felt excluded because I’m aware events have different capacities and relationships are different among different people. I think this is only an issue for parents who are trying to relive HS through their children. |
Anonymous
| The nature of a lot of privates is that they attract competitive people who feel they have high standards for themselves. Some of these folks only feel good about themselves if they are “winning,” even if that means putting others down. Some of these folks have anxiety that drives them to lash out. The trick is to find secure people and gravitate toward them. It’s usually possible to walk away from the drama. |
Anonymous
There was just as much, if not more, mean girl behavior among the moms at our former public school than there's been at our private school. The way that *parents* treated my autistic child was one of the reasons I pulled her and her NT sibling out of public school. |
Anonymous
Yeah. I would not assume someone in an Alhambra necklace is mean. Basic? Yes. Totally lacking in style? Yes. Mean? No. |
Anonymous
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There are "mean moms" at every school public and private. Same with "mean girls"
And there are some boy moms that suck as well. |
Anonymous
Because you want your child to have the best education possible? |