Dating at gender-lopsided universities

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'd avoid Northwestern based on their mailers alone. It's like direct marketing to women who aren't interested in dating. One mailer featured a group of eighteen mostly attractive women and only seven males. Of the seven male students one appears to be photoshopped and another looks about forty.

Northwestern is in the greater Chicago area. If you can't find a boyfriend in 4 years in a metro the size of Chicago, I would argue you are not prioritizing finding a relationship.

Brochure photography is funny. The people who make them often get a bee in their bonnet about when to take the pictures. The talent is hastily assembled, often ad hoc. Like telling all the work study student guides to go outside and take a picture.

I once ended up in a brochure months later without being told that was the purpose of the pictures. I found out when someone brought me the finished brochure. I definitely consented to having my picture taken but didn't expect it to be committed to physical paper.

I feel bad for the brochure photo people. They are supposed to get a good mix of races and genders, in good lighting with a good background that shows the school, looking like they are having fun but in a wholesome studious way, and have it all look natural and organic. I’m amazed they do it as well as they do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Specify which is 60% and which sex is 40%.

I don't know of any notable 60m/40w colleges

There are a few. WPI is one.

Stevens is another (66m/34w as of fall 2024).

Pretty much any tech focused school that isn't super selective. Rose Hulman, RPI, RIT (MIT and similar are selective enough to maintain 50/50).

It's more like 55M/45F but Virginia Tech is another one to look at.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:60/40 is not going to be that perceptible. It’s a pretty normal college gender split. 70/30 is not great.

It’s definitely perceptible at UVA which is around 58/42.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Subtract guys who barely speak English (stem) and gay guys (non-stem) and the odds get even worse.
I was at one of these colleges and guys really played the field. Fun for them.

I used to live in San Francisco, same issue. Every schlubby guy I knew who wanted a girlfriend had one, and all the amazing, beautiful, accomplished women I knew were single. I saw the writing on the wall and left in my thirties.

Men are not interested in “accomplished” women.

The point that’s relevant to this thread is that on a college campus everyone has essentially the same accomplishments.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:60/40 is not going to be that perceptible. It’s a pretty normal college gender split. 70/30 is not great.

It’s definitely perceptible at UVA which is around 58/42.

UVa varies by school. Nursing School has its own dorm setup and is overwhelmingly female. Engineering school has more men, but not as lopsided as Nursing. Arts&Sciences has more women, and is the largest undergrad program by some margin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Northwestern University is about 54% female/46% male for undergraduates.

U Chicago 53.5% female/46.5% male.

U Penn 54% f/46% m.

WashUStL is 55% female/45% male.

USC 52% f/48% m.

Columbia 49% female/51% male.

NYU 59% female/ 41% male.

Dartmouth 48% female/50.6% male.

Princeton is 50/50.

Brown 52% f/48% m.

Yale is 51% female.

Cornell is about 55% female.

Harvard 53% f/47% m.

Duke is 53%f/47%m.

Stanford is 51.6% female.

MIT 46% female/50% male/3% other gender identities.

UCLA 60.5% female/38.5% male.

Emory 57% female/43% male.

Georgia Tech 40% female/60% male.

Davidson College 53% f/47%m.

Amherst 54%f/44%m/2% other.

Vanderbilt is 52%f/48%m.

U Michigan 52% f/48% m.

Brandeis 57.5% f/42.5% m.

U Virginia 56.5% female.

U Maryland 49% f/51%m.

The percentage of gay guys at top schools is a lot higher than the percentage in the general population, from my research.

[Anonymous]

Fortunately for women, the world is much more global at a younger age. US women in their 20s don't need to rely on the pool of US men if they want to date or marry also-college-educated men. My daughter has focused at college on building a strong mainly-female friend group through her room and dorm mates, and making friends through classes and activities with both boys and girls. She wouldn't want one of her female friends not to have been admitted so that another male would be available to date. First, dating isn't her priority, and second, she can also date graduate/med/law students.

A broader matter, but the young women I know aren't so concerned with dating or meeting a future husband at college. They're very busy and directed toward their studies, friend groups, and activities. They are also more directed to fitness and healthy lifestyles than to romantic relationships. There 's certainly some dating, and some longer term relationships, but that doesn't seem to be the norm nor the goal.

I do think it's an issue that men in the US aren't keeping up with US women or men internationally in terms of academic achievement. And I agree that it's worthwhile to identify ways to support boys (and girls) with different learning and behavioral aptitudes at different ages. But I'd strongly recommend against any notion that men should be admitted to college with lower qualifications in order to provide dates or romantic partners for women. As I write that it seems ludicrous to even suggest.

Signed, mom of a daughter and son in college, both of whom are doing just fine.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Northwestern University is about 54% female/46% male for undergraduates.

U Chicago 53.5% female/46.5% male.

U Penn 54% f/46% m.

WashUStL is 55% female/45% male.

USC 52% f/48% m.

Columbia 49% female/51% male.

NYU 59% female/ 41% male.

Dartmouth 48% female/50.6% male.

Princeton is 50/50.

Brown 52% f/48% m.

Yale is 51% female.

Cornell is about 55% female.

Harvard 53% f/47% m.

Duke is 53%f/47%m.

Stanford is 51.6% female.

MIT 46% female/50% male/3% other gender identities.

UCLA 60.5% female/38.5% male.

Emory 57% female/43% male.

Georgia Tech 40% female/60% male.

Davidson College 53% f/47%m.

Amherst 54%f/44%m/2% other.

Vanderbilt is 52%f/48%m.

U Michigan 52% f/48% m.

Brandeis 57.5% f/42.5% m.

U Virginia 56.5% female.

U Maryland 49% f/51%m.

The percentage of gay guys at top schools is a lot higher than the percentage in the general population, from my research.

In my high school class two males made it to the Ivy League and BOTH were gay. Statistically that seems odd.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Northwestern University is about 54% female/46% male for undergraduates.

U Chicago 53.5% female/46.5% male.

U Penn 54% f/46% m.

WashUStL is 55% female/45% male.

USC 52% f/48% m.

Columbia 49% female/51% male.

NYU 59% female/ 41% male.

Dartmouth 48% female/50.6% male.

Princeton is 50/50.

Brown 52% f/48% m.

Yale is 51% female.

Cornell is about 55% female.

Harvard 53% f/47% m.

Duke is 53%f/47%m.

Stanford is 51.6% female.

MIT 46% female/50% male/3% other gender identities.

UCLA 60.5% female/38.5% male.

Emory 57% female/43% male.

Georgia Tech 40% female/60% male.

Davidson College 53% f/47%m.

Amherst 54%f/44%m/2% other.

Vanderbilt is 52%f/48%m.

U Michigan 52% f/48% m.

Brandeis 57.5% f/42.5% m.

U Virginia 56.5% female.

U Maryland 49% f/51%m.

The percentage of gay guys at top schools is a lot higher than the percentage in the general population, from my research.

Please do share your "research" with us.

[Anonymous]

Recommend to just date the athletes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Recommend to just date the athletes.

A college lacrosse player once told me they called girls who wanted to date lax players laxtitutes.

[Anonymous]

I guess that makes girls who want to date cross country runners crosstitutes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Recommend to just date the athletes.

Oh god, they're even worse

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Statistical studies don't matter at the individual level.

Teach your daughter some attitudes and strategies that will allow her to identify available guys she is interested in. 40% will be enough.

I think young people have always focused too much on drinking parties and bars. It would be better to set up friend dates and coffees and such and warm people up from there. It's hard for girls to be the inviters, but strategically I think it could have many advantages.

Bless your heart. You don't know many college students, do you?

I do. The ones I know are more into thinking than drinking. Thanks for the blessing!

You know the two are not mutually exclusive, right?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Specify which is 60% and which sex is 40%.

I don't know of any notable 60m/40w colleges

DP. I think Georgia Tech is 60/40 m/f. Here are some others that are close:

Colorado School of Mines - 68/32
Caltech - 57/43
Virginia Tech - 57/43