Dating at gender-lopsided universities

[Anonymous]

Stereotypes galore on these forums. It's kinda funny sometimes because some are so far from reality and why correct them they won't believe if you do

[Anonymous]

There was an article about this a few years back that featured Tulane as an example school. It's unfortunate for both sexes. For women it's obviously a disadvantage.

For men, psychologically they are more likely to behave like players in a female-dominated environment. Men in more male-dominant environments (like military or tech schools) end up behaving more chivalrous, respectful and committed when dating. I'd rather my son spend age 18-22 at a school with an equal split, or slightly more men, rather than him feeling like women are fish in a barrel. Their brains are still developing and they're learning how to interact with the opposite sex. Seems unhealthy.

[Anonymous]

There is research on this, it creates a very poor environment for girls.

[Anonymous]

Here is the article. I have boys and would not want this environment for them either. I have a friend whose son went to a 60/40 school and ended up transferring out. Sounded like a disproportionate share of the guys who were there were gay. This kid is not homophobic but we wanted at least a few straight male friends and it was slim pickings.

https://www.nytimes.com/2023/09/08/magazine/men-college-enrollment.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare

[Anonymous]

There have been a few threads on this, here is one: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1200873.page

[Anonymous]

I think this is part of why small rural schools are falling out of favor. At least in more urban environments you can fall back on Tinder.

[Anonymous]

I think at least 10% of the college aged girls are gay or bi so I bet it’s not as much of an issue as you think.
The bigger issue is that most of the straight guys don’t really know how to ask girls out. The pressure on kids to get perfect grades and do EC in HS doesn’t really lead to a situation where kids have the free time to develop good dating confidence and skills.
My son has a girl friend and I actually think it’s a great experience for him to learn how to be a good boyfriend—-but his grades are not as good as the boys that don’t date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here is the article. I have boys and would not want this environment for them either. I have a friend whose son went to a 60/40 school and ended up transferring out. Sounded like a disproportionate share of the guys who were there were gay. This kid is not homophobic but we wanted at least a few straight male friends and it was slim pickings.

https://www.nytimes.com/2023/09/08/magazine/men-college-enrollment.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare

Was it vasser? That’s always been the stereotype there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think at least 10% of the college aged girls are gay or bi so I bet it’s not as much of an issue as you think.
The bigger issue is that most of the straight guys don’t really know how to ask girls out. The pressure on kids to get perfect grades and do EC in HS doesn’t really lead to a situation where kids have the free time to develop good dating confidence and skills.
My son has a girl friend and I actually think it’s a great experience for him to learn how to be a good boyfriend—-but his grades are not as good as the boys that don’t date.

Girls should be asking guys out now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Subtract guys who barely speak English (stem) and gay guys (non-stem) and the odds get even worse.
I was at one of these colleges and guys really played the field. Fun for them.

I used to live in San Francisco, same issue. Every schlubby guy I knew who wanted a girlfriend had one, and all the amazing, beautiful, accomplished women I knew were single. I saw the writing on the wall and left in my thirties.

Men are not interested in “accomplished” women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think at least 10% of the college aged girls are gay or bi so I bet it’s not as much of an issue as you think.
The bigger issue is that most of the straight guys don’t really know how to ask girls out. The pressure on kids to get perfect grades and do EC in HS doesn’t really lead to a situation where kids have the free time to develop good dating confidence and skills.
My son has a girl friend and I actually think it’s a great experience for him to learn how to be a good boyfriend—-but his grades are not as good as the boys that don’t date.

Girls should be asking guys out now.

I agree with this, as a woman. It's a logical advance in gender equality.

[Anonymous]

Why is the San Francisco ratio skewed? I would have guessed it was disproportionately male.

[Anonymous]

I went to one like this - not in my favor. I had a serious bf for a year or so, and besides this went on many dates.

If you think about there’s more guys than girls, but it’s not like it’s 1-1 pairing all the time, then you know she’ll meet someone, won’t be left with zero dates the whole time.

[Anonymous]

College kids don’t date anymore. They hookup and have casual sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Following. I know this will be an issue DD cares about.

It's every college in America, so tell her to get ready.

Well, not the ones that are far closer to 50/50.