Wedding Party Guest Goes Silent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You Urban Moms are witches (with a b) for saying this person is a bridezilla. You have someone come on your big day and dictate how everything goes. It’s not your wedding, no one cares what you think.

OP, sockpuppeting means you know your point is shite. Just take your L (to the altar) and sod off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The sockpuppeted response wording is weird…I feel like we’re being trolled from a nursing home

It's pit bull troll. Same tone, same weird repetitions, same violently nasty, aggressive comments with no substance. They're also pro-drugs, but the relationship forum is where they troll hardest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love that a missing bridesmaid would probably throw the whole wedding party off balance and ruin the pretty pretty princess photos. But there’s now way this is real because normal people don’t treat their friends like this.

But what about my pinterest-perfect pics?! How am I ever going to be a wedding influencer on the 'gram?!

-OP, probably

[Anonymous]

The tone of the sock puppeteer is unhinged. OP did you go off your meds?

[Anonymous]

Ridiculous, OP.

It's not fair to discriminate by marital or engaged status. One of my aunts, and a friend of my mother's, have been living with their boyfriends all their adult lives. They're part of a group of women who came to adulthood during the sexual revolution and did not think it important to be married. But their boyfriends are their life partners, and need to be respected as such.

[Anonymous]

OP sounds horrid.

Also, the wedding is not "your day." It's a communal event. If it were just your day, you would do it alone, just you, your betrothed, and the officiant. You include other people because you're making a public statement in front of your loved ones and they're acknowledging it, affirming it, and committing to support you in it. Your exclusionary behavior is quite troubling and bodes ill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds horrid.

Also, the wedding is not "your day." It's a communal event. If it were just your day, you would do it alone, just you, your betrothed, and the officiant. You include other people because you're making a public statement in front of your loved ones and they're acknowledging it, affirming it, and committing to support you in it. Your exclusionary behavior is quite troubling and bodes ill.

THIS! Your wedding is a day to celebrate you and your new spouse. As such, your preferences should be considered. But this ridiculous IT'S MY DAYYYY!!!! nonsense is complete garbage. If you want your day, your way, pp is 100% correct: do it alone.

You send out invitations because it's supposed to be inviting, and fun. Get a grip, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re all a disaster.

😩

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am going against the masses here to say that no one is entitled to a plus one, including a member of the wedding party. That’s definitely not a hard and fast rule - have the DCUM masses not heard of the common trope of bridesmaids/groomsmen hooking up at a wedding? That’s because they came without dates! As long as bride applies same rule to all people it’s absolutely fine. Weddings are not sorority date parties and guests should be people the bridal couple actually have met.

Yes this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am going against the masses here to say that no one is entitled to a plus one, including a member of the wedding party. That’s definitely not a hard and fast rule - have the DCUM masses not heard of the common trope of bridesmaids/groomsmen hooking up at a wedding? That’s because they came without dates! As long as bride applies same rule to all people it’s absolutely fine. Weddings are not sorority date parties and guests should be people the bridal couple actually have met.

Yes this.

wrong. you and pp are incredibly rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yall are wild for thinking she’s a brideszilla, or being tacky. If a bridesmaid isn’t allowed a plus one then she’s not allowed a plus one. That simple. Karens of the world think the bridesmaid is “entitled” to a plus one on someone else’s day.

It’s surprising that people like you even have anyone in their lives who would agree to be their bridesmaid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's in your wedding party? The right thing to do would be to let her bring a +1.

+1. Hope she didn’t already pay for her dress. I hope this is a troll post

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Original Poster here. Only those married or engaged got plus ones. She wanted to bring her tinderella.

Why didn’t you budget for plus ones for everyone in your bridal party? They are people too, not just your wedding accessories. After all the time and money they’ve committed to your nuptials, it’s very rude of you to deny them a plus one.

[Anonymous]

OP how much is each bridesmaid spending to be a part of your wedding?

[Anonymous]

wrong. you and pp are incredibly rude.

Hard disagree. It is absolutely acceptable to include plus ones only for guests in long-term relationships. We are working with a very high- end wedding planner in DC right now who said this is not at all unusual. When you are hosting a wedding with limited space and/or that is “luxury” many of you will rethink this.