Wedding Party Guest Goes Silent

[Anonymous]

I love that a missing bridesmaid would probably throw the whole wedding party off balance and ruin the pretty pretty princess photos. But there’s now way this is real because normal people don’t treat their friends like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You Urban Moms are witches (with a b) for saying this person is a bridezilla. You have someone come on your big day and dictate how everything goes. It’s not your wedding, no one cares what you think.

Oh hi OP. Yes, you're still the problem.

[Anonymous]

I think OP has just been dying to use “tinderella” and made this op just for that purpose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think OP has just been dying to use “tinderella” and made this op just for that purpose.

I think so too.

[Anonymous]

The sockpuppeted response wording is weird…I feel like we’re being trolled from a nursing home

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Original Poster here. Only those married or engaged got plus ones. She wanted to bring her tinderella.

Who cares who she brings? I think you’re the wrong one Op.

[Anonymous]

I am going against the masses here to say that no one is entitled to a plus one, including a member of the wedding party. That’s definitely not a hard and fast rule - have the DCUM masses not heard of the common trope of bridesmaids/groomsmen hooking up at a wedding? That’s because they came without dates! As long as bride applies same rule to all people it’s absolutely fine. Weddings are not sorority date parties and guests should be people the bridal couple actually have met.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some facts:

1) Guest refused to RSVP until weeks after the deadline because she did not know if she was going to break up with guy first/before wedding.

2) Everyone else is married. This "date" is someone no one has met, lives long distance from ex-friend and has no relationship with anyone.

3) Wedding party is mostly family, everyone is married.

4) You don't call us yelling at us because we wouldn't let you bring a Tinderella. Our day, our rules.

5) Not a troll, real life.

6) If you Urban Moms want to chip in for her plate of food, its about $300 per head. Why would we pay for that?

Someone in the wedding party isn't a guest. Someone in the wedding party doesn't RSVP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s beyond tacky for you not to give a bridesmaid a +1, whether he’s a boyfriend, a husband, or even just a friend. You are tacky, tacky, tacky for not immediately and graciously giving a member of your wedding party a +1.

That’s all.

This times 1000!!!

OP sounds like a bridezilla.

+1 seriously, op. Thus is a person who has presumably spent a lot of money already to be part of your day and you dont give her a plus 1?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some facts:

1) Guest refused to RSVP until weeks after the deadline because she did not know if she was going to break up with guy first/before wedding.

2) Everyone else is married. This "date" is someone no one has met, lives long distance from ex-friend and has no relationship with anyone.

3) Wedding party is mostly family, everyone is married.

4) You don't call us yelling at us because we wouldn't let you bring a Tinderella. Our day, our rules.

5) Not a troll, real life.

6) If you Urban Moms want to chip in for her plate of food, its about $300 per head. Why would we pay for that?

She’s a bridesmaid, not a “guest”.
I don’t say this often, but $300 for a plate is expensive but if you can’t afford to cover one extra person, then it doesn’t sound like you can afford this wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re a POS for not giving your bridesmaid a plus one. I don’t foresee a lot of your friendships lasting if this is how you treat your nearest and dearest.

You’re a POS for saying that when you don’t even know this person. I can see that you’re just a true bundle of joy and probably have so many friends. You’re a sad pathetic person.

Bridesmaids (and groomsmen) are supposed to be your nearest and dearest. If you treat someone like OP is treating this person, you are definitely a POS.

I do have many friends, and gave all of them a +1 to my wedding. Guess what, we're all still friends too!

[Anonymous]

OP don't give in on the plus one. Your position is totally reasonable.

But don't un-invite. Un-inviting would be tacky and immature.

[Anonymous]

You’re all a disaster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Original Poster here. Only those married or engaged got plus ones. She wanted to bring her tinderella.

You're a judgmental cµnt, and a cheap one, at that. Way to curse your own wedding, idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is a male date being called a tinderella? Is this a lesbian bridesmaid? I can't figure out what op keeps using that word.

Because it's cutesy and she's attempting to minimize the bridezilla nature of expecting her "friend" to show up and serve her all day but not have a person there with her to enjoy the wedding like everyone else because only marrieds get to have relationships (now that she's getting married; they were besties before, but no more).

Calling the bridesmaid's potential plus one a 'tinderella' is beyond judgmental, and makes it clear that the OP is a micromanaging bridezilla from hell who doesn't deserve friends in the first place. But the plate is $300. She needs you to know that.