Race-based verbal attack-- what would you do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have filmed it

can’t film something which never happened.

[Anonymous]

It's really funny how Jeff alows these racist af fake story threads to go on and on for days when it's about white men while he bans people for mentioning how obnoxious black women are with their yelling and speaker phones in public.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only people I’ve EVER seen say racist things to asian people are black guys in carry outs and corner stores or liquor stores in ratchet neighborhoods.

I spend a lot of time in these neighborhoods working with clients, and I regularly visit these types of stores. Most are operated by Korean or Vietnamese people who have the place as a family business. And I have personally witnessed a LOT of verbal abuse directed at them exclusively from black males.


While I think the OP of this thread is making the whole thing up, I DO know stuff like this happens, because I’ve witnessed it personally. But it’s not white guys doing it. It’s black guys.


We should at least have an honest conversation about that.

Bolded—— The ONLY people? Baloney.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A variation of this same topic pops up every couple months here. The details and minutia is always slightly different, but the principle themes are always the same:

Perpetrator is ALWAYS a “older white man”

Victim is ALWAYS a younger Asian woman

ALWAYS some variation of “you need to go back to wherever you came from”

Sometimes the OP is the eyewitness, sometimes the OP is the victim herself

At no time has the antagonist ever been described as a race other than white. Never.



If you follow DCUM long enough, you’ll spot these threads every few months. This is at least the sixth one I can recall. There was another one in the past year where the OP was outraged that a white male stranger said “Xi Xi” to her daughter as a greeting, and had the unmitigated gall to assume they were Chinese. Or the one about the “homeless man on north Capitol street” who angrily yelled racial epithets at the OP while panhandling and then followed her while continuing to scream at her. He of course was a “white man with a MAGA hat”…..


Yeah, this is all so tiresome.


Find a new schtick, OP. This one is worn out.

sorry it’s been so tiresome to read about this! Immagine how tiresome it would be to experience this every couple of months or weeks or days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A variation of this same topic pops up every couple months here. The details and minutia is always slightly different, but the principle themes are always the same:

Perpetrator is ALWAYS a “older white man”

Victim is ALWAYS a younger Asian woman

ALWAYS some variation of “you need to go back to wherever you came from”

Sometimes the OP is the eyewitness, sometimes the OP is the victim herself

At no time has the antagonist ever been described as a race other than white. Never.



If you follow DCUM long enough, you’ll spot these threads every few months. This is at least the sixth one I can recall. There was another one in the past year where the OP was outraged that a white male stranger said “Xi Xi” to her daughter as a greeting, and had the unmitigated gall to assume they were Chinese. Or the one about the “homeless man on north Capitol street” who angrily yelled racial epithets at the OP while panhandling and then followed her while continuing to scream at her. He of course was a “white man with a MAGA hat”…..


Yeah, this is all so tiresome.


Find a new schtick, OP. This one is worn out.

Agree. The OP is the same, tiresome, concern-troll who keeps posting similar-themed garbage every few weeks or months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A variation of this same topic pops up every couple months here. The details and minutia is always slightly different, but the principle themes are always the same:

Perpetrator is ALWAYS a “older white man”

Victim is ALWAYS a younger Asian woman

ALWAYS some variation of “you need to go back to wherever you came from”

Sometimes the OP is the eyewitness, sometimes the OP is the victim herself

At no time has the antagonist ever been described as a race other than white. Never.



If you follow DCUM long enough, you’ll spot these threads every few months. This is at least the sixth one I can recall. There was another one in the past year where the OP was outraged that a white male stranger said “Xi Xi” to her daughter as a greeting, and had the unmitigated gall to assume they were Chinese. Or the one about the “homeless man on north Capitol street” who angrily yelled racial epithets at the OP while panhandling and then followed her while continuing to scream at her. He of course was a “white man with a MAGA hat”…..


Yeah, this is all so tiresome.


Find a new schtick, OP. This one is worn out.

Agree. The OP is the same, tiresome, concern-troll who keeps posting similar-themed garbage every few weeks or months.

And you are the same, tiresome, racist, old white dude who keeps responding to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am an Asian woman and have had people yelling at me to go back to my country often (I was born here).

No one ever intervenes so OP, I appreciate that you said something.

It doesn't even matter exactly what you said. It matters that you stood up and said something, and showed support for the woman. It was also wise to not provoke him further, and to protect yourself at the same time.

Thank you.

What sorts of people yell this at you?


Is it only white men?

No, both black and white. Homeless men too LOL

Homeless people don’t count for these purposes. They’re mentally unwell. I’m white and homeless people yell nasty stuff all the time. I don’t take it personally

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm wondering how others would have handled this situation:
Yesterday I popped in to my local convenience store to get coffee on the way to work. As I was leaving, the white man in line behind me had a disagreement with an Asian woman behind the counter and became verbally aggressive ("You people should just go back where you came from" and similar comments on and on). I felt the need to speak up, so I addressed the man with "OK, you've made your point, time to let it go." I wanted to offer some support for the employee, but I didn't want to further escalate the situation. He did lower his voice and just muttered under his breath. I left at that point. I kept thinking about it all day, though, and wondering if there was something more I could have done.

That was kind of you, op. Are you Asian?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were way too nice and I actually think you said the wrong thing. Made your point? As if there was a point to be made. What you should have said is "leave the woman alone you racist POS." I have no patience for fragile white boys who don't know how to behave in public.

Tell me you’re a man without telling me you’re a man.

A woman putting a man in place in public sounds like a great idea until you have enough life experience as a woman to know that over half the time you will be putting yourself in physical danger by doing this. I used to incite this crap until I realized I could really get myself killed. Men are unhinged. Racists are unhinged. Put them together and you aren’t changing this man’s horrible ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm wondering how others would have handled this situation:
Yesterday I popped in to my local convenience store to get coffee on the way to work. As I was leaving, the white man in line behind me had a disagreement with an Asian woman behind the counter and became verbally aggressive ("You people should just go back where you came from" and similar comments on and on). I felt the need to speak up, so I addressed the man with "OK, you've made your point, time to let it go." I wanted to offer some support for the employee, but I didn't want to further escalate the situation. He did lower his voice and just muttered under his breath. I left at that point. I kept thinking about it all day, though, and wondering if there was something more I could have done.

You want the guy to come back after you leave and be nastier. Too many white people are too insulated and can't relate to people who don't look like then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am an Asian woman and have had people yelling at me to go back to my country often (I was born here).

No one ever intervenes so OP, I appreciate that you said something.

It doesn't even matter exactly what you said. It matters that you stood up and said something, and showed support for the woman. It was also wise to not provoke him further, and to protect yourself at the same time.

Thank you.

What sorts of people yell this at you?


Is it only white men?

No, both black and white. Homeless men too LOL

Homeless people don’t count for these purposes. They’re mentally unwell. I’m white and homeless people yell nasty stuff all the time. I don’t take it personally

Not all homeless people are mentally unwell unless you are stretching to include people who would be fine if they took their medication or stayed off alcohol and drugs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am an Asian woman and have had people yelling at me to go back to my country often (I was born here).

No one ever intervenes so OP, I appreciate that you said something.

It doesn't even matter exactly what you said. It matters that you stood up and said something, and showed support for the woman. It was also wise to not provoke him further, and to protect yourself at the same time.

Thank you.

What sorts of people yell this at you?


Is it only white men?

No, both black and white. Homeless men too LOL

Homeless people don’t count for these purposes. They’re mentally unwell. I’m white and homeless people yell nasty stuff all the time. I don’t take it personally

Not all homeless people are mentally unwell unless you are stretching to include people who would be fine if they took their medication or stayed off alcohol and drugs.

Well, I don’t think any of us can say for sure as there is a lot of comorbidity between mental illness and addiction, but I find people who get mortally offended by people like this to be sort of strange, and almost looking to be angry about something.

These sorts of homeless people are crazy, to put it simply. Ignore them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm wondering how others would have handled this situation:
Yesterday I popped in to my local convenience store to get coffee on the way to work. As I was leaving, the white man in line behind me had a disagreement with an Asian woman behind the counter and became verbally aggressive ("You people should just go back where you came from" and similar comments on and on). I felt the need to speak up, so I addressed the man with "OK, you've made your point, time to let it go." I wanted to offer some support for the employee, but I didn't want to further escalate the situation. He did lower his voice and just muttered under his breath. I left at that point. I kept thinking about it all day, though, and wondering if there was something more I could have done.

Video him and put him on blast

[Anonymous]

Pics or it didn’t happen

[Anonymous]

In those situations, I ignore the ranting white man completely. For one, you never know I he’s armed. I talk directly to the person being targeted and I have 911 typed into my phone (just in case.)

“I’m so sorry. I promise I’m American and my mom taught me manners. I hope your day gets better!”