Spinoff: were you and/or your spouse virgins on your wedding night?

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HA HA HA HA HA HA HA

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Only about 1/3 of Americans are virgins when they get married. About half of Americans have 4-10 partners over a lifetime, mostly before marriage. A small percentage of Americans have more than 10 partners over their lifetime.

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Anonymous wrote:Only about 1/3 of Americans are virgins when they get married. About half of Americans have 4-10 partners over a lifetime, mostly before marriage. A small percentage of Americans have more than 10 partners over their lifetime.

Where are you getting these numbers from?

[Anonymous]

No, I had slept with about 30 men before I met my xH. Unfortunately most of the men I had slept with were pretty awful in bed because I always went for "good"/"nice" guys rather than men I was attracted to. Only a couple were memorable.

xH was also pretty terrible in bed, but I really had nothing good to compare him to.

After we divorced, I started dating men I was physically attracted to rather than "husband material". I was completely blown away by how good in bed men can be. I went from having an O 0-10% of the time, to nearly 100% of the time (and now, the only time I don't O is if we've gone multiple rounds and we're on the 4th-5th round). Also amazed there are men who can go 5+ rounds, all night long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. We both waited for marriage and had sex for the first time on our wedding night. We have enjoyed a wonderful sex life consistently... married over 30 years. My heart feels fulfilled and happy because we are each other's one and only. No comparisons. I've always thought, you can learn everything you need to know (about sexual compatibility by "just making out.". And I feel sorry for singles in today's society...it's too promiscuous out there...and people don't understand that they are missing out. No doubt my thinking so will offend those who've made different choices, but think about it. There's no romance anymore. I watch old tv sitcoms and women used to be more cherished and respected, behaving as, and treated as ladies. Nowadays, women are cherished (as they should be). It's sad...and I believe it society is no longer handling dating and/or marriage as they ought to be. Maybe people should try chastity for a change. Sex without love and commitment seems unfulfilling (in my opinion). Something to think about...

Yes, I miss the old days when I couldn't get a credit card without my husband's signature. Or a home loan. Not get fired for being pregnant, or take bc--without my husband's permission. And my boss could stick his hand up my skirt and I didn't get to complain. The good old days when women were cherished.

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Anonymous wrote:No, I had slept with about 30 men before I met my xH. Unfortunately most of the men I had slept with were pretty awful in bed because I always went for "good"/"nice" guys rather than men I was attracted to. Only a couple were memorable.

xH was also pretty terrible in bed, but I really had nothing good to compare him to.

After we divorced, I started dating men I was physically attracted to rather than "husband material". I was completely blown away by how good in bed men can be. I went from having an O 0-10% of the time, to nearly 100% of the time (and now, the only time I don't O is if we've gone multiple rounds and we're on the 4th-5th round). Also amazed there are men who can go 5+ rounds, all night long.

You (or they) must be young. Or taking something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only about 1/3 of Americans are virgins when they get married. About half of Americans have 4-10 partners over a lifetime, mostly before marriage. A small percentage of Americans have more than 10 partners over their lifetime.

This stat has to be 50 years outdated

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Anonymous wrote:Only about 1/3 of Americans are virgins when they get married. About half of Americans have 4-10 partners over a lifetime, mostly before marriage. A small percentage of Americans have more than 10 partners over their lifetime.

Did you get your data from the church of LDS?

20 years ago, approximately 3-4% of Americans were virgins when they married. I found this number on a few academic articles from 20 years ago.

I'd guess that number has only gone down - because while more young americans are virgins than ever before, it's likely because of how de-socialized they are, and specifically how men are basement dwelling nerds who no women want to marry - so we have a lot less marriages too. In other words, the numbers of nerdy virgin types are growing, but so are the numbers of non-marrieds, and they are likely the same pool of people. No woman needs to settle and marry a nerdy virgin. So those who marry are probably more social and normal, and less likely to be virgins, than even 20 years ago. This paragraph is just my hypothesis. But the data on 3% 20 years ago is widely out there.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Each others first as well. Still married 25 years later.

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Anonymous wrote:No, I had slept with about 30 men before I met my xH. Unfortunately most of the men I had slept with were pretty awful in bed because I always went for "good"/"nice" guys rather than men I was attracted to. Only a couple were memorable.

xH was also pretty terrible in bed, but I really had nothing good to compare him to.

After we divorced, I started dating men I was physically attracted to rather than "husband material". I was completely blown away by how good in bed men can be. I went from having an O 0-10% of the time, to nearly 100% of the time (and now, the only time I don't O is if we've gone multiple rounds and we're on the 4th-5th round). Also amazed there are men who can go 5+ rounds, all night long.

You (or they) must be young. Or taking something.

I’m 39, most of the men I’ve slept with since my divorce are 35-42. So not super young but I like men who are in shape, so all were very healthy, six packs, ate well, etc.

Even when my xH was young he had trouble getting it up, which I think was more due to his unhealthy lifestyle than age.

[Anonymous]

DH was a virgin when we married, but I had been with 8 men before him.

Although the first few times were unsatisfactory and often hilarious (he is 99% sure what goes where ), I had been able to shape our bedroom activities exactly to my liking, and very happy with the results.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH was a virgin when we married, but I had been with 8 men before him.

Although the first few times were unsatisfactory and often hilarious (he is 99% sure what goes where ), I had been able to shape our bedroom activities exactly to my liking, and very happy with the results.

Lucky!

[Anonymous]

No, and I was glad of that. I had been in a long-term relationship where we were compatible I did not like the sex between us and in another one where it was not good emotionally but the sex was good. I knew that it was necessary to have both and I found that in my husband. We've been married 33 years and sometimes sex is what's gotten us through hard times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I had slept with about 30 men before I met my xH. Unfortunately most of the men I had slept with were pretty awful in bed because I always went for "good"/"nice" guys rather than men I was attracted to. Only a couple were memorable.

xH was also pretty terrible in bed, but I really had nothing good to compare him to.

After we divorced, I started dating men I was physically attracted to rather than "husband material". I was completely blown away by how good in bed men can be. I went from having an O 0-10% of the time, to nearly 100% of the time (and now, the only time I don't O is if we've gone multiple rounds and we're on the 4th-5th round). Also amazed there are men who can go 5+ rounds, all night long.

How are the new men different from the old men, in bed and outside of bed?

[Anonymous]

Neither of us were virgins but my prior experience was pretty limited and not very satisfactory. I was a virgin until I was 22 and in grad school. I wasn’t expecting to have sex but things got a little out of hand and before I knew it I was no longer a virgin. There were only two other guys before my now husband and both guys were “nice companions” but the sex was never very good most likely because of my not being fully committed. Sorry boys! I knew my now husband for two years before we got together and I had a major crush on him. When we finally got together I finally realized what great sex was all about. I can’t imagine waiting until marriage to have sex…..what if it’s disappointing a year in?