Spinoff: were you and/or your spouse virgins on your wedding night?

[Anonymous]

People hide if they are virgins because it makes them sound uncool and failure. People exaggerate their body count because it makes you sound accomplished and cool. None of survey on this topic is accurate or scientific.

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Anonymous wrote:Its not as rare as you would think because virgins are made to think that it's something to be ashamed off. This should be accepted as an equal choice.

Whether you are a virgin or a high body-count individual, shouldn’t that fact be kept PRIVATE? (shared only with your spouse or fiancé?).

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Yes it should be private and not shared even with spouse. However people should sincerely repent and live morally.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Its not as rare as you would think because virgins are made to think that it's something to be ashamed off. This should be accepted as an equal choice.

Whether you are a virgin or a high body-count individual, shouldn’t that fact be kept PRIVATE? (shared only with your spouse or fiancé?).

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Yes it should be private and not shared even with spouse. However people should sincerely repent and live morally.

“Repent”? LOL.

DCUM has been overrun by religious weirdos.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I were college sweethearts, each other's first in everything. We dated for several years. Virgins on wedding night, both 25 yrs old.

We have been very happily married for 35 years and continue to have a wonderful sex life as well. I think our relationship outside the bedroom has played a key role in my desire for him. I trust him completely and feel adored by him at all times, so it is easy for me to have him lead in the bedroom and communicate my needs.

I think it is a BS to think that you become good at sex by sleeping with a lot of people. There are enough resources available for you to become good at sex even if you are only with one person - if you have desire, trust and communication. You can become good at sex if both of you want to improve your sex life. Sleeping with a lot of other people just empties out your soul and heart. Being good at sex is not rocket science. Around the world people have sex on their wedding nights without all the premarital sex practice.

Thankfully, both of us have matched libido.

I think the bold is a load of BS. .I say that as someone who only has had one partner and waited for a very long time because of nonsense like that. As you said sex is what people make of it.. and people have it for different reasons and yes sometimes it can be damaging but not because it's before marriage

No one is saying that sleeping around before marriage is damaging. I believe sleeping around before, during, after marriage is damaging. You have to have emotional connection, commitment, honesty and mutual respect with a worthy person, ( while both of you are single or married to each other) - and only then have sex with them.

Sleeping around damages women's ability to pair bond. The women I know who slept around in grad school tended not to have great marriages.

Is that what they say in tradwifeland?

I believe that sleeping around is harmful for both men and women. And it damages the ability to pair bond for both genders.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I were college sweethearts, each other's first in everything. We dated for several years. Virgins on wedding night, both 25 yrs old.

We have been very happily married for 35 years and continue to have a wonderful sex life as well. I think our relationship outside the bedroom has played a key role in my desire for him. I trust him completely and feel adored by him at all times, so it is easy for me to have him lead in the bedroom and communicate my needs.

I think it is a BS to think that you become good at sex by sleeping with a lot of people. There are enough resources available for you to become good at sex even if you are only with one person - if you have desire, trust and communication. You can become good at sex if both of you want to improve your sex life. Sleeping with a lot of other people just empties out your soul and heart. Being good at sex is not rocket science. Around the world people have sex on their wedding nights without all the premarital sex practice.

Thankfully, both of us have matched libido.

I think the bold is a load of BS. .I say that as someone who only has had one partner and waited for a very long time because of nonsense like that. As you said sex is what people make of it.. and people have it for different reasons and yes sometimes it can be damaging but not because it's before marriage

No one is saying that sleeping around before marriage is damaging. I believe sleeping around before, during, after marriage is damaging. You have to have emotional connection, commitment, honesty and mutual respect with a worthy person, ( while both of you are single or married to each other) - and only then have sex with them.

Sleeping around damages women's ability to pair bond. The women I know who slept around in grad school tended not to have great marriages.

Is that what they say in tradwifeland?

I believe that sleeping around is harmful for both men and women. And it damages the ability to pair bond for both genders.

Agreed

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I were college sweethearts, each other's first in everything. We dated for several years. Virgins on wedding night, both 25 yrs old.

We have been very happily married for 35 years and continue to have a wonderful sex life as well. I think our relationship outside the bedroom has played a key role in my desire for him. I trust him completely and feel adored by him at all times, so it is easy for me to have him lead in the bedroom and communicate my needs.

I think it is a BS to think that you become good at sex by sleeping with a lot of people. There are enough resources available for you to become good at sex even if you are only with one person - if you have desire, trust and communication. You can become good at sex if both of you want to improve your sex life. Sleeping with a lot of other people just empties out your soul and heart. Being good at sex is not rocket science. Around the world people have sex on their wedding nights without all the premarital sex practice.

Thankfully, both of us have matched libido.

I think the bold is a load of BS. .I say that as someone who only has had one partner and waited for a very long time because of nonsense like that. As you said sex is what people make of it.. and people have it for different reasons and yes sometimes it can be damaging but not because it's before marriage

No one is saying that sleeping around before marriage is damaging. I believe sleeping around before, during, after marriage is damaging. You have to have emotional connection, commitment, honesty and mutual respect with a worthy person, ( while both of you are single or married to each other) - and only then have sex with them.

Sleeping around damages women's ability to pair bond. The women I know who slept around in grad school tended not to have great marriages.

Is that what they say in tradwifeland?

I believe that sleeping around is harmful for both men and women. And it damages the ability to pair bond for both genders.

Based on what? I grew up in a liberal area where most people had multiple partners before marriage and my friends are mostly happily married 20 years and counting. People seem pretty bonded.

[Anonymous]

Of course not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I were college sweethearts, each other's first in everything. We dated for several years. Virgins on wedding night, both 25 yrs old.

We have been very happily married for 35 years and continue to have a wonderful sex life as well. I think our relationship outside the bedroom has played a key role in my desire for him. I trust him completely and feel adored by him at all times, so it is easy for me to have him lead in the bedroom and communicate my needs.

I think it is a BS to think that you become good at sex by sleeping with a lot of people. There are enough resources available for you to become good at sex even if you are only with one person - if you have desire, trust and communication. You can become good at sex if both of you want to improve your sex life. Sleeping with a lot of other people just empties out your soul and heart. Being good at sex is not rocket science. Around the world people have sex on their wedding nights without all the premarital sex practice.

Thankfully, both of us have matched libido.

I think the bold is a load of BS. .I say that as someone who only has had one partner and waited for a very long time because of nonsense like that. As you said sex is what people make of it.. and people have it for different reasons and yes sometimes it can be damaging but not because it's before marriage

No one is saying that sleeping around before marriage is damaging. I believe sleeping around before, during, after marriage is damaging. You have to have emotional connection, commitment, honesty and mutual respect with a worthy person, ( while both of you are single or married to each other) - and only then have sex with them.

Sleeping around damages women's ability to pair bond. The women I know who slept around in grad school tended not to have great marriages.

Is that what they say in tradwifeland?

I believe that sleeping around is harmful for both men and women. And it damages the ability to pair bond for both genders.

Based on what? I grew up in a liberal area where most people had multiple partners before marriage and my friends are mostly happily married 20 years and counting. People seem pretty bonded.

Based on divorce statistics and mental health situation of Americans. LOLz