Spinoff: were you and/or your spouse virgins on your wedding night?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only about 1/3 of Americans are virgins when they get married. About half of Americans have 4-10 partners over a lifetime, mostly before marriage. A small percentage of Americans have more than 10 partners over their lifetime.

3.3% is going to be a lot closer to the real number than 33%.

[Anonymous]

That would be extremely rare unless someone married very young like under 25, and even then, really rare.

[Anonymous]

Of course.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. Each others first as well. Still married 25 years later.

Beautiful

[Anonymous]

Not even close

[Anonymous]

Imo while marrying as virgins can backfire by ending up with a dud, so can marrying after multiple partners, as then you are unlikely to be happily satisfied with one partner for ever. Both ways can lead to dissatisfaction, infidelity and/or divorce. If you were blindsided by good sex, you may not like each other once novelty wears off.

Most virgin couples with mutual attraction , love and compatibility can easily learn, practice and improve their sexual connection. Obviously many would fail but its not as big of an issues as people try to paint it as.

There aren't any guarantees in either case.

[Anonymous]

Each other's first and only and still support our choice after couple of decades.

[Anonymous]

Its not as rare as you would think because virgins are made to think that it's something to be ashamed off. This should be accepted as an equal choice.

[Anonymous]

Different folks, different strokes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I were college sweethearts, each other's first in everything. We dated for several years. Virgins on wedding night, both 25 yrs old.

We have been very happily married for 35 years and continue to have a wonderful sex life as well. I think our relationship outside the bedroom has played a key role in my desire for him. I trust him completely and feel adored by him at all times, so it is easy for me to have him lead in the bedroom and communicate my needs.

I think it is a BS to think that you become good at sex by sleeping with a lot of people. There are enough resources available for you to become good at sex even if you are only with one person - if you have desire, trust and communication. You can become good at sex if both of you want to improve your sex life. Sleeping with a lot of other people just empties out your soul and heart. Being good at sex is not rocket science. Around the world people have sex on their wedding nights without all the premarital sex practice.

Thankfully, both of us have matched libido.

I think the bold is a load of BS. .I say that as someone who only has had one partner and waited for a very long time because of nonsense like that. As you said sex is what people make of it.. and people have it for different reasons and yes sometimes it can be damaging but not because it's before marriage

No one is saying that sleeping around before marriage is damaging. I believe sleeping around before, during, after marriage is damaging. You have to have emotional connection, commitment, honesty and mutual respect with a worthy person, ( while both of you are single or married to each other) - and only then have sex with them.

[Anonymous]

My first wife was a virgin when I had met her amd I’d only had sex once (kind of a one night stand with a friend sort of thing). I was 19 and she was 20. I think this was one of the main reasons our relationship didn’t work out. She was a very sexual person and was a prodigy at it almost immediately. You could she constantly thought about it but seven years after in, she had never been with anyone else. I think it kinda drove her crazy and was a big part of our relatioship’s downfall.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I were college sweethearts, each other's first in everything. We dated for several years. Virgins on wedding night, both 25 yrs old.

We have been very happily married for 35 years and continue to have a wonderful sex life as well. I think our relationship outside the bedroom has played a key role in my desire for him. I trust him completely and feel adored by him at all times, so it is easy for me to have him lead in the bedroom and communicate my needs.

I think it is a BS to think that you become good at sex by sleeping with a lot of people. There are enough resources available for you to become good at sex even if you are only with one person - if you have desire, trust and communication. You can become good at sex if both of you want to improve your sex life. Sleeping with a lot of other people just empties out your soul and heart. Being good at sex is not rocket science. Around the world people have sex on their wedding nights without all the premarital sex practice.

Thankfully, both of us have matched libido.

I think the bold is a load of BS. .I say that as someone who only has had one partner and waited for a very long time because of nonsense like that. As you said sex is what people make of it.. and people have it for different reasons and yes sometimes it can be damaging but not because it's before marriage

No one is saying that sleeping around before marriage is damaging. I believe sleeping around before, during, after marriage is damaging. You have to have emotional connection, commitment, honesty and mutual respect with a worthy person, ( while both of you are single or married to each other) - and only then have sex with them.

Sleeping around damages women's ability to pair bond. The women I know who slept around in grad school tended not to have great marriages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its not as rare as you would think because virgins are made to think that it's something to be ashamed off. This should be accepted as an equal choice.

Whether you are a virgin or a high body-count individual, shouldn’t that fact be kept PRIVATE? (shared only with your spouse or fiancé?).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I were college sweethearts, each other's first in everything. We dated for several years. Virgins on wedding night, both 25 yrs old.

We have been very happily married for 35 years and continue to have a wonderful sex life as well. I think our relationship outside the bedroom has played a key role in my desire for him. I trust him completely and feel adored by him at all times, so it is easy for me to have him lead in the bedroom and communicate my needs.

I think it is a BS to think that you become good at sex by sleeping with a lot of people. There are enough resources available for you to become good at sex even if you are only with one person - if you have desire, trust and communication. You can become good at sex if both of you want to improve your sex life. Sleeping with a lot of other people just empties out your soul and heart. Being good at sex is not rocket science. Around the world people have sex on their wedding nights without all the premarital sex practice.

Thankfully, both of us have matched libido.

I think the bold is a load of BS. .I say that as someone who only has had one partner and waited for a very long time because of nonsense like that. As you said sex is what people make of it.. and people have it for different reasons and yes sometimes it can be damaging but not because it's before marriage

No one is saying that sleeping around before marriage is damaging. I believe sleeping around before, during, after marriage is damaging. You have to have emotional connection, commitment, honesty and mutual respect with a worthy person, ( while both of you are single or married to each other) - and only then have sex with them.

Sleeping around damages women's ability to pair bond. The women I know who slept around in grad school tended not to have great marriages.

Is that what they say in tradwifeland?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. Each others first as well. Still married 25 years later.

Beautiful

Do you just lurk on dcum waiting for people to post about the 'right' kind of sexuality and then post single word compliments about it?