SIL Never Says Thank You

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Anonymous wrote:For the last 5 months we have been living locally with my husband's mother, in his childhood home.

This is partly because we are adding an addition to our home, but mostly because my MIL has pretty severe Alzheimers. My FIL was her care taker until last fall when he died of a massive heart attack. All options for care facilities are either full, under construction, or just too gross.

So, here we are providing care for her. I have cooked for her, picked her up when she falls drunk, taken over sooo many domestic duties, etc.

The end is in sight (July 31) but I can't hold my tongue anymore.

My SIL is in San Diego and has not done a single thing to assist in any of this. She has not visited, offered to instacart groceries, fly out for a week to give us a break. NOTHING. It is not for lack of time or money. She is 'retired' at 48 and her husband makes several million dollars a year and her kids are grown.

She is dead to me.

Do I let her know? Do I carry this to my grave?

I thought typing this all out would help me but it actually just made me more furious.

I don't understand your fury. She knows her brother is living with her mom for a limited time. It's brother's time to take care of mom. Why would she fly out to crowd the house further, or pay for your family's groceries while you're living with your MIL?

If she doesn't do anything for her mom after you're gone, then I guess you can be mad at her, but it sounds like you should be mad at your husband for making you his mom's caretaker while he's in the house, not your SIL who lives elsewhere for not saying thank you to you for doing your husband's job.

Do you have Asperger's? Your level of detachment is nuts.

This response makes no sense. Is this OP? Do you think that anyone who responds to a thread with less than fury is on the autism spectrum? Do you think your baseline level of unfettered rage is how the rest of society functions? It's not.

All throughout this thread, OP has been sock-puppeting and being exceptionally aggressive without identifying herself. Even if her story is real, I now have zero sympathy for her.

I am not OP and Jeff is more than welcome to confirm. I've read this entire thread and its very clear to me that there are two women sock puppeting in opposition to the OP. Why, who knows? But the idea that OP's anger at her sister for doing nothing while she cares for her abusive drunk mother is in anyway misplaced is... hilarious, simply put. OP is being used by her sister and a child can recognize this.

I hope the womne sock puppeting get dementia and they lay in their own piss.

You are actually the OP.