Slim picking dating in your fifties

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Anonymous wrote:Apps tend to be a waste of time for middle aged guys because mediocre women have unrealistic expectations. DC striver type women with zero personality get tons of attention as long as their pics are halfway decent. Best advice for guys is to screen really hard or you're going to be wasting a lot of your valuable time. If you have the resources, meeting women overseas is a no brainer. Meet them outside of the apps and you will be shocked at the quality relative to what you can get in the US.

Are you fat? Dad bod? Broke? I’m so tired of this “unrealistic expectations” crap. I’m a 51 YO woman, I make good money, and I haven’t let myself go. I don’t look 30 but I’m thin and fit, take care of my hair and skin, and as PP above says I’m not looking for someone to have kids with or to take care of me financially - just someone to have fun with (without being a sugar momma - we can take turns paying). So if I’m going to sleep with you, you better be attractive! If not, I’ll happily entertain myself with my friends and my vibrator. Bye!

Wow. Just, wow.

[Anonymous]

I'm a man in my 50s and I have no problem with women showing up in work clothes. That usually means they have jobs.

[Anonymous]

How do you know which men are worth it? Poster above mentioned this. For those of us who met our partners in 20s and are now divorced in 50s, we’ve been really protected from the current dating scene and men who lie, cheat etc. Should we believe a guy who seems really nice but who is married but claims to be trapped in a miserable marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a man in my 50s and I have no problem with women showing up in work clothes. That usually means they have jobs.

Haha I’m a woman and I was surprised by that rant too. IME people who are looking for a relationship (not pen pals or hookups) want to meet quickly in a low stakes situation- coffee or a drink. I definitely don’t want to plan an evening with someone new. If there’s chemistry, we either cancel our later plans or schedule another one soon!

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Anonymous wrote:hardline filters. No more or less than a 10 year age difference. College educated. No kids. Needed to respond within a day. Nothing weird in the chat. I only would do a weekday drink after work or early coffee date or a walk for the first date. Nothing casual.

You have a reasonable point that there are a lot of weirdos online, and you need to ruthlessly filter out people with incompatible age, education, location, and manners.

Attractive successful men are not waiting around to respond within 24 hours for the privilege of buying you a coffee. Some single women treat men as commodities and confuse high quantity of messages with availability of high quality men.

One woman wanted an early drink, and she predictably showed up in work clothes. I had anticipated this and excused myself one hour later for a second drink date with a woman 15 years younger (and took her home). If the first woman had scheduled a 7:00 drink and dressed appropriately for a date then this would not have happened. I preferred age-appropriate women with relationship potential. But I started walking out on dates when the woman was very late, did not look like her pictures, or acted inappropriately.

Some women want a convenient coffee date to audition the man. But it is a two-way audition, and you are already failing. If a successful, fit man feels that you are scheduling him for convenience, if you are not dressed appropriately for a date, and if you are not hot and pleasant, then you are not getting a second date. Enjoy your coffee and cats.

You walked out on her because of work clothes. lol, no you just didn’t find her hot or whatever and you already had another date planned. Ridiculous, trying to blame it on the woman when the issue is you.

That woman in work clothes is smart she avoided being used for a one night stand. Of a man likes you, he’ll see the curves regardless and will pop up back into your radar even after sex with other women

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so tired of this “unrealistic expectations” crap. I’m a 51 YO woman, ... if I’m going to sleep with you, you better be attractive!

Yes, both partners must be attractive.

Anonymous wrote:IME people who are looking for a relationship ... want to meet quickly in a low stakes situation- coffee or a drink. I definitely don’t want to plan an evening with someone new.

Single women want unlimited selection. If the men are asking and paying, then why not schedule a bunch of convenient free dates? The answer is that the men you want are quite different from 90% of the available men. Some women get a lot of dates and decide to do a quick meet-up to make sure the guy is not a loser.

Now think of the man's perspective. An attractive 51-year-old man can date an attractive young-looking 41-year-old woman. It displays bad attitude when the woman schedules a convenient coffee date, or is late, or dressed in gym clothes. I suggest a drink at the free daily Kennedy Center show. This gives you the option to upgrade to a second drink or dinner. It is rude when the woman treats the first meeting as an audition or a free-option instead of a real date.

Nobody ever fell in love over coffee. After 90+ coffee dates, D.C. dating author Erika Ettin finally met her fiance for an evening drink. My wife did this too, until I took her for an evening glass of wine. Be patient, and you might have the privilege of being my next ex-wife.

It sucks to dress up for a bunch of frogs, but you must always be prepared for a prince. Think of this as an interview, where you dress for the job you want. If you want the job of lover, then you had better be pleasant, punctual and dressed like a lover.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so tired of this “unrealistic expectations” crap. I’m a 51 YO woman, ... if I’m going to sleep with you, you better be attractive!

Yes, both partners must be attractive.

Anonymous wrote:IME people who are looking for a relationship ... want to meet quickly in a low stakes situation- coffee or a drink. I definitely don’t want to plan an evening with someone new.

Single women want unlimited selection. If the men are asking and paying, then why not schedule a bunch of convenient free dates? The answer is that the men you want are quite different from 90% of the available men. Some women get a lot of dates and decide to do a quick meet-up to make sure the guy is not a loser.

Now think of the man's perspective. An attractive 51-year-old man can date an attractive young-looking 41-year-old woman. It displays bad attitude when the woman schedules a convenient coffee date, or is late, or dressed in gym clothes. I suggest a drink at the free daily Kennedy Center show. This gives you the option to upgrade to a second drink or dinner. It is rude when the woman treats the first meeting as an audition or a free-option instead of a real date.

Nobody ever fell in love over coffee. After 90+ coffee dates, D.C. dating author Erika Ettin finally met her fiance for an evening drink. My wife did this too, until I took her for an evening glass of wine. Be patient, and you might have the privilege of being my next ex-wife.

It sucks to dress up for a bunch of frogs, but you must always be prepared for a prince. Think of this as an interview, where you dress for the job you want. If you want the job of lover, then you had better be pleasant, punctual and dressed like a lover.

Beautiful women on OLD usually already have several lovers. They don’t WANT unlimited selection of dates. They already have that unlimited selection, it’s their call. Not yours.

Both my lovers have several million on bank accounts, own businesses, homes, take me for weekend trips. Both are fit over 6’. I can’t decide which one to pick dating both already several months. I’m a late 40s woman

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so tired of this “unrealistic expectations” crap. I’m a 51 YO woman, ... if I’m going to sleep with you, you better be attractive!

Yes, both partners must be attractive.

Anonymous wrote:IME people who are looking for a relationship ... want to meet quickly in a low stakes situation- coffee or a drink. I definitely don’t want to plan an evening with someone new.

Single women want unlimited selection. If the men are asking and paying, then why not schedule a bunch of convenient free dates? The answer is that the men you want are quite different from 90% of the available men. Some women get a lot of dates and decide to do a quick meet-up to make sure the guy is not a loser.

Now think of the man's perspective. An attractive 51-year-old man can date an attractive young-looking 41-year-old woman. It displays bad attitude when the woman schedules a convenient coffee date, or is late, or dressed in gym clothes. I suggest a drink at the free daily Kennedy Center show. This gives you the option to upgrade to a second drink or dinner. It is rude when the woman treats the first meeting as an audition or a free-option instead of a real date.

Nobody ever fell in love over coffee. After 90+ coffee dates, D.C. dating author Erika Ettin finally met her fiance for an evening drink. My wife did this too, until I took her for an evening glass of wine. Be patient, and you might have the privilege of being my next ex-wife.

It sucks to dress up for a bunch of frogs, but you must always be prepared for a prince. Think of this as an interview, where you dress for the job you want. If you want the job of lover, then you had better be pleasant, punctual and dressed like a lover.

I’m married so I have no skin in this game. But this isn’t a pep talk for women. It’s Exhibit A on why most don’t want to get married again in middle age.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so tired of this “unrealistic expectations” crap. I’m a 51 YO woman, ... if I’m going to sleep with you, you better be attractive!

Yes, both partners must be attractive.

Anonymous wrote:IME people who are looking for a relationship ... want to meet quickly in a low stakes situation- coffee or a drink. I definitely don’t want to plan an evening with someone new.

Single women want unlimited selection. If the men are asking and paying, then why not schedule a bunch of convenient free dates? The answer is that the men you want are quite different from 90% of the available men. Some women get a lot of dates and decide to do a quick meet-up to make sure the guy is not a loser.

Now think of the man's perspective. An attractive 51-year-old man can date an attractive young-looking 41-year-old woman. It displays bad attitude when the woman schedules a convenient coffee date, or is late, or dressed in gym clothes. I suggest a drink at the free daily Kennedy Center show. This gives you the option to upgrade to a second drink or dinner. It is rude when the woman treats the first meeting as an audition or a free-option instead of a real date.

Nobody ever fell in love over coffee. After 90+ coffee dates, D.C. dating author Erika Ettin finally met her fiance for an evening drink. My wife did this too, until I took her for an evening glass of wine. Be patient, and you might have the privilege of being my next ex-wife.

It sucks to dress up for a bunch of frogs, but you must always be prepared for a prince. Think of this as an interview, where you dress for the job you want. If you want the job of lover, then you had better be pleasant, punctual and dressed like a lover.

PP here: but I like the idea of KC in the afternoon . Just because at first meeting I would want to see what’s your intellectual depth and if we connect. I would have already interviewed you on video call prior to RL meeting and ensured you are not fat

I wouldn’t continue into evening because I date non-exclusively several men at a time and someone would be already balls deep into me Saturday night. But you have a chance at date 3, if I’m very interested and decide to drop the prior guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m so tired of this “unrealistic expectations” crap. I’m a 51 YO woman, ... if I’m going to sleep with you, you better be attractive!

Yes, both partners must be attractive.

Anonymous wrote:IME people who are looking for a relationship ... want to meet quickly in a low stakes situation- coffee or a drink. I definitely don’t want to plan an evening with someone new.

Single women want unlimited selection. If the men are asking and paying, then why not schedule a bunch of convenient free dates? The answer is that the men you want are quite different from 90% of the available men. Some women get a lot of dates and decide to do a quick meet-up to make sure the guy is not a loser.

Now think of the man's perspective. An attractive 51-year-old man can date an attractive young-looking 41-year-old woman. It displays bad attitude when the woman schedules a convenient coffee date, or is late, or dressed in gym clothes. I suggest a drink at the free daily Kennedy Center show. This gives you the option to upgrade to a second drink or dinner. It is rude when the woman treats the first meeting as an audition or a free-option instead of a real date.

Nobody ever fell in love over coffee. After 90+ coffee dates, D.C. dating author Erika Ettin finally met her fiance for an evening drink. My wife did this too, until I took her for an evening glass of wine. Be patient, and you might have the privilege of being my next ex-wife.

It sucks to dress up for a bunch of frogs, but you must always be prepared for a prince. Think of this as an interview, where you dress for the job you want. If you want the job of lover, then you had better be pleasant, punctual and dressed like a lover.

PP here: but I like the idea of KC in the afternoon . Just because at first meeting I would want to see what’s your intellectual depth and if we connect. I would have already interviewed you on video call prior to RL meeting and ensured you are not fat

I wouldn’t continue into evening because I date non-exclusively several men at a time and someone would be already balls deep into me Saturday night. But you have a chance at date 3, if I’m very interested and decide to drop the prior guy.

DP. Inviting someone to an overpriced drink with overpriced parking for a free show? Plus I’m assuming anyone posting this hasn’t looked at the line up recently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m so tired of this “unrealistic expectations” crap. I’m a 51 YO woman, ... if I’m going to sleep with you, you better be attractive!

Yes, both partners must be attractive.

Anonymous wrote:IME people who are looking for a relationship ... want to meet quickly in a low stakes situation- coffee or a drink. I definitely don’t want to plan an evening with someone new.

Single women want unlimited selection. If the men are asking and paying, then why not schedule a bunch of convenient free dates? The answer is that the men you want are quite different from 90% of the available men. Some women get a lot of dates and decide to do a quick meet-up to make sure the guy is not a loser.

Now think of the man's perspective. An attractive 51-year-old man can date an attractive young-looking 41-year-old woman. It displays bad attitude when the woman schedules a convenient coffee date, or is late, or dressed in gym clothes. I suggest a drink at the free daily Kennedy Center show. This gives you the option to upgrade to a second drink or dinner. It is rude when the woman treats the first meeting as an audition or a free-option instead of a real date.

Nobody ever fell in love over coffee. After 90+ coffee dates, D.C. dating author Erika Ettin finally met her fiance for an evening drink. My wife did this too, until I took her for an evening glass of wine. Be patient, and you might have the privilege of being my next ex-wife.

It sucks to dress up for a bunch of frogs, but you must always be prepared for a prince. Think of this as an interview, where you dress for the job you want. If you want the job of lover, then you had better be pleasant, punctual and dressed like a lover.

PP here: but I like the idea of KC in the afternoon . Just because at first meeting I would want to see what’s your intellectual depth and if we connect. I would have already interviewed you on video call prior to RL meeting and ensured you are not fat

I wouldn’t continue into evening because I date non-exclusively several men at a time and someone would be already balls deep into me Saturday night. But you have a chance at date 3, if I’m very interested and decide to drop the prior guy.

DP. Inviting someone to an overpriced drink with overpriced parking for a free show? Plus I’m assuming anyone posting this hasn’t looked at the line up recently.

Noseda’s symphony concert was great a few weeks ago. He’s still there so hope not lost for KC series
I wouldn’t date anyone concerned about $30 parking fee but that said, there is plentiful free street afternoon parking in the area. Particular in the afternoon

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m so tired of this “unrealistic expectations” crap. I’m a 51 YO woman, ... if I’m going to sleep with you, you better be attractive!

Yes, both partners must be attractive.

Anonymous wrote:IME people who are looking for a relationship ... want to meet quickly in a low stakes situation- coffee or a drink. I definitely don’t want to plan an evening with someone new.

Single women want unlimited selection. If the men are asking and paying, then why not schedule a bunch of convenient free dates? The answer is that the men you want are quite different from 90% of the available men. Some women get a lot of dates and decide to do a quick meet-up to make sure the guy is not a loser.

Now think of the man's perspective. An attractive 51-year-old man can date an attractive young-looking 41-year-old woman. It displays bad attitude when the woman schedules a convenient coffee date, or is late, or dressed in gym clothes. I suggest a drink at the free daily Kennedy Center show. This gives you the option to upgrade to a second drink or dinner. It is rude when the woman treats the first meeting as an audition or a free-option instead of a real date.

Nobody ever fell in love over coffee. After 90+ coffee dates, D.C. dating author Erika Ettin finally met her fiance for an evening drink. My wife did this too, until I took her for an evening glass of wine. Be patient, and you might have the privilege of being my next ex-wife.

It sucks to dress up for a bunch of frogs, but you must always be prepared for a prince. Think of this as an interview, where you dress for the job you want. If you want the job of lover, then you had better be pleasant, punctual and dressed like a lover.

PP here: but I like the idea of KC in the afternoon . Just because at first meeting I would want to see what’s your intellectual depth and if we connect. I would have already interviewed you on video call prior to RL meeting and ensured you are not fat

I wouldn’t continue into evening because I date non-exclusively several men at a time and someone would be already balls deep into me Saturday night. But you have a chance at date 3, if I’m very interested and decide to drop the prior guy.

DP. Inviting someone to an overpriced drink with overpriced parking for a free show? Plus I’m assuming anyone posting this hasn’t looked at the line up recently.

Noseda’s symphony concert was great a few weeks ago. He’s still there so hope not lost for KC series
I wouldn’t date anyone concerned about $30 parking fee but that said, there is plentiful free street afternoon parking in the area. Particular in the afternoon

I also see NSO concerts. It’s not a better early date than coffee or after work drinks. You don’t sit silently for 80 minutes with a stranger.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m so tired of this “unrealistic expectations” crap. I’m a 51 YO woman, ... if I’m going to sleep with you, you better be attractive!

Yes, both partners must be attractive.

Anonymous wrote:IME people who are looking for a relationship ... want to meet quickly in a low stakes situation- coffee or a drink. I definitely don’t want to plan an evening with someone new.

Single women want unlimited selection. If the men are asking and paying, then why not schedule a bunch of convenient free dates? The answer is that the men you want are quite different from 90% of the available men. Some women get a lot of dates and decide to do a quick meet-up to make sure the guy is not a loser.

Now think of the man's perspective. An attractive 51-year-old man can date an attractive young-looking 41-year-old woman. It displays bad attitude when the woman schedules a convenient coffee date, or is late, or dressed in gym clothes. I suggest a drink at the free daily Kennedy Center show. This gives you the option to upgrade to a second drink or dinner. It is rude when the woman treats the first meeting as an audition or a free-option instead of a real date.

Nobody ever fell in love over coffee. After 90+ coffee dates, D.C. dating author Erika Ettin finally met her fiance for an evening drink. My wife did this too, until I took her for an evening glass of wine. Be patient, and you might have the privilege of being my next ex-wife.

It sucks to dress up for a bunch of frogs, but you must always be prepared for a prince. Think of this as an interview, where you dress for the job you want. If you want the job of lover, then you had better be pleasant, punctual and dressed like a lover.

PP here: but I like the idea of KC in the afternoon . Just because at first meeting I would want to see what’s your intellectual depth and if we connect. I would have already interviewed you on video call prior to RL meeting and ensured you are not fat

I wouldn’t continue into evening because I date non-exclusively several men at a time and someone would be already balls deep into me Saturday night. But you have a chance at date 3, if I’m very interested and decide to drop the prior guy.

DP. Inviting someone to an overpriced drink with overpriced parking for a free show? Plus I’m assuming anyone posting this hasn’t looked at the line up recently.

Noseda’s symphony concert was great a few weeks ago. He’s still there so hope not lost for KC series
I wouldn’t date anyone concerned about $30 parking fee but that said, there is plentiful free street afternoon parking in the area. Particular in the afternoon

I also see NSO concerts. It’s not a better early date than coffee or after work drinks. You don’t sit silently for 80 minutes with a stranger.

I was not suggesting the day concert can you read? At least KC has nice walks and views at Potomac if the stranger is a total dud. You can get drinks at he rooftop they open at 5 pm so I’ll still have time to retreat to my late evening f..k sessions

[Anonymous]

It's very hard for 50-something women (I'm in my late 50s and married for 30 years) to rhink the grass is always greener only to face the reality that they are considered past their prime once they get back out there thinking they'll easily trade up. We are past our prime. Those days are gone. We're grandma lions sitting in the shade, not cubs rolling around in the sun. We are never going to compete with a younger women physically, and men don't find our jobs sexy, or a catch. Oh, you're divorced and sit at a desk all day gaining weight while you earn money and obsess about your work, I love you already, said no man ever. It's why a man will pick a barista over the woman with the MBA and a Ph.D. Young, pretty, fertile, available, caring, compassionate, peaceful. That's all he wants.

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Anonymous wrote:It's very hard for 50-something women (I'm in my late 50s and married for 30 years) to rhink the grass is always greener only to face the reality that they are considered past their prime once they get back out there thinking they'll easily trade up. We are past our prime. Those days are gone. We're grandma lions sitting in the shade, not cubs rolling around in the sun. We are never going to compete with a younger women physically, and men don't find our jobs sexy, or a catch. Oh, you're divorced and sit at a desk all day gaining weight while you earn money and obsess about your work, I love you already, said no man ever. It's why a man will pick a barista over the woman with the MBA and a Ph.D. Young, pretty, fertile, available, caring, compassionate, peaceful. That's all he wants.

To me dating fishy change at all palsy divorce. I dated 30s men when I was in my 20s. In late 40s I date mid to late 50s men. Hot much younger women are not looking for them unless they want $$$ and by far not all men want sugar babies. Most men who look for a LTR date 5-10 years younger women .