Slim picking dating in your fifties

[Anonymous]

My newly divorced friend showed me her options on the dating apps. These older men she is matching with are not physically attractive or the ones who are don’t seem interested or obviously only want sex. I guess all the good ones are taken or prefer a younger woman.

My friend was beautiful in her twenties and thirties. She now looks like an average middle aged woman. She looks great for her age but she is still in her fifties.

[Anonymous]

What’s the question?

[Anonymous]

I call troll. According to DCUM, if a women divorces at any age, there is a stack of men lined up ready to date her. That's why the woman is always encouraged to get a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Why is she divorced? Cheated?

[Anonymous]

She’s 50. If she’s not fat or ugly there’s tons of 20-30 yr olds looking to smash.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I call troll. According to DCUM, if a women divorces at any age, there is a stack of men lined up ready to date her. That's why the woman is always encouraged to get a divorce.

I’m not sure why you think that I am a troll. I was with my friend and she made the dating scene sound truly sad in her fifties. I think she thought being single would be better than being with her ex.

She did date a few divorced men post divorce. It doesn’t last long and fizzles.

[Anonymous]

I know women in their late 60's, early 70's who have found great boyfriends after divorce or being widowed. There are better ways to meet than on apps. Your "friend" should persue her hobbies and interests 3-5 days a week. She will meet soneone of quality soon enough.

[Anonymous]

I'm divorced and in my 50s. I've done OLD both recently and back in my early 30s. The quality of the men is about the same, TBH. But I found it much easier in my 50s because I no longer cared about finding someone in time to have kids with him, and I was much clearer about what characteristics really matter in a partner. Half the battle with OLD is not wasting your time on men who aren't worth it and that's easier to discern with a mature man.

To find a great man, you need to screen out all the losers. Only chat with men who say they're looking for a LTR and who state they no longer want kids. Any man over 50 who says he wants or is unsure about kids should be avoided. Screen for men who are seeking women with at least a college degree. Avoid anyone who has children still living at home. If you're in DC, expand your geographic boundaries to include the suburbs because that's where divorced men who kept the house are located. Don't meet anyone in person till you have his full name and place of employment so that you can do a check to make sure he's legit. If he doesn't ask you out within a week of "meeting" online, drop him and move on because he's not serious and is likely just feeding his ego and might be married. Get a Google phone number so that you can text off the app without giving out your cell number.

[Anonymous]

Apps is not the place to go.

[Anonymous]

Can agree date younger? I'm 50 but date 35 yo and up

[Anonymous]

"There are better ways to meet than on apps. Your "friend" should persue her hobbies and interests 3-5 days a week. She will meet soneone of quality soon enough."

If that were true, we wouldn't have so many great people trying to find their match.

The men over 50 that I've met In Real Life all turned out to be emotionally unavailable misfits, married, or just looking for FWB. The odds of someone at the driving range being your soul mate are next to zero. Those are random men (likely married) who just happen to think you're hot. They aren't intentionally looking to meet a life partner, and they certainly aren't looking for that while shopping at Home Depot.

[Anonymous]

Lol thanks for the helpful info OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm divorced and in my 50s. I've done OLD both recently and back in my early 30s. The quality of the men is about the same, TBH. But I found it much easier in my 50s because I no longer cared about finding someone in time to have kids with him, and I was much clearer about what characteristics really matter in a partner. Half the battle with OLD is not wasting your time on men who aren't worth it and that's easier to discern with a mature man.

To find a great man, you need to screen out all the losers. Only chat with men who say they're looking for a LTR and who state they no longer want kids. Any man over 50 who says he wants or is unsure about kids should be avoided. Screen for men who are seeking women with at least a college degree. Avoid anyone who has children still living at home. If you're in DC, expand your geographic boundaries to include the suburbs because that's where divorced men who kept the house are located. Don't meet anyone in person till you have his full name and place of employment so that you can do a check to make sure he's legit. If he doesn't ask you out within a week of "meeting" online, drop him and move on because he's not serious and is likely just feeding his ego and might be married. Get a Google phone number so that you can text off the app without giving out your cell number.

Weird filter(s) and oddly soecific and a bit nit picky. I know we're not supposed to use the K word, but your specs are Karen matchish. Ew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Apps is not the place to go.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I call troll. According to DCUM, if a women divorces at any age, there is a stack of men lined up ready to date her. That's why the woman is always encouraged to get a divorce.

I’m not sure why you think that I am a troll. I was with my friend and she made the dating scene sound truly sad in her fifties. I think she thought being single would be better than being with her ex.

She did date a few divorced men post divorce. It doesn’t last long and fizzles.

This is more or less my experience with the apps as an attractive, fit, financially independent woman in my early 50s, and yet being divorced and single is way better than being with my ex. It sounds like her mistake was thinking she could trade up. She got divorced for the wrong reasons