Straight kid being teased as gay

[Anonymous]

My DS used to be called gay for doing a particular hobby. When kids called him gay he would say, "You must not know what that word means."
Pure ignorance really.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who cares what people think,if he's not gay then he would not be bothered by that.

Pretty much this.

Every male kid calls other kids "fag" "homo" etc. just kidding around boy talk, and if they get a reaction they like, then they often continue the teasing.

NP and it bears repeating that every male kid does not do that. Wtf how do you think this is normal?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who cares what people think,if he's not gay then he would not be bothered by that.

Pretty much this.

Every male kid calls other kids "fag" "homo" etc. just kidding around boy talk, and if they get a reaction they like, then they often continue the teasing.

NP and it bears repeating that every male kid does not do that. Wtf how do you think this is normal?!

You've never been around much then. Because it's normal and common. Maybe they just clean up their act around you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, why is this is a thing?

My kid is only in 4th grade but the boys play a game where they say whoever does x first (talk at lunch, move on the recess, walk down the hall) is gay. DD first encountered the game at lunch and told them to stop and to stop using gay as an insult. Then they turned on her and were like, you must be a lesbian. To her credit she said that it wasn’t their business if she was and doubled down on telling them that it wasn’t an insult and to stop using it as one. These are 9 and 10 year olds!

The worst part is that she said teachers were standing right there and heard the entire exchange. And she says it happens other places where adults look the other way. As long as adults are too embarrassed to interrupt this behavior and call it out, it’ll persist.

Well yeah, she broke the social rules by interjecting herself into other people's business and scolding them.

That's considered an attack basically, to tell other people how to behave, and obviously the other kids would see that as an opportunity to tease her, because she gave a reaction they wanted by being offended. If she behaves like that as an adult, she could wind up really hurt, talking physically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who cares what people think,if he's not gay then he would not be bothered by that.

Pretty much this.

Every male kid calls other kids "fag" "homo" etc. just kidding around boy talk, and if they get a reaction they like, then they often continue the teasing.

No, “every male kid” does not do this. Jerks do this.

Sure they do. Some more than others, but they all do at some point growing up. Even many grown males still do it, I'd estimate probably 40% or more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, why is this is a thing?

My kid is only in 4th grade but the boys play a game where they say whoever does x first (talk at lunch, move on the recess, walk down the hall) is gay. DD first encountered the game at lunch and told them to stop and to stop using gay as an insult. Then they turned on her and were like, you must be a lesbian. To her credit she said that it wasn’t their business if she was and doubled down on telling them that it wasn’t an insult and to stop using it as one. These are 9 and 10 year olds!

The worst part is that she said teachers were standing right there and heard the entire exchange. And she says it happens other places where adults look the other way. As long as adults are too embarrassed to interrupt this behavior and call it out, it’ll persist.

Well yeah, she broke the social rules by interjecting herself into other people's business and scolding them.

That's considered an attack basically, to tell other people how to behave, and obviously the other kids would see that as an opportunity to tease her, because she gave a reaction they wanted by being offended. If she behaves like that as an adult, she could wind up really hurt, talking physically.

You, my friend, are a terrible person. And a Republican, I assume. “Just watch out for yourself” is a horrible mantra.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who cares what people think,if he's not gay then he would not be bothered by that.

Pretty much this.

Every male kid calls other kids "fag" "homo" etc. just kidding around boy talk, and if they get a reaction they like, then they often continue the teasing.

No, “every male kid” does not do this. Jerks do this.

No. They really, really do not. Your attitude demonstrates why there are still people who do this, and are so casually dismissive of behavior that is abusive. Your anecdotal experience however does not negate my experience, or the experience of other PPs.

Sure they do. Some more than others, but they all do at some point growing up. Even many grown males still do it, I'd estimate probably 40% or more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who cares what people think,if he's not gay then he would not be bothered by that.

Pretty much this.

Every male kid calls other kids "fag" "homo" etc. just kidding around boy talk, and if they get a reaction they like, then they often continue the teasing.

No, “every male kid” does not do this. Jerks do this.

No. They really, really do not. Your attitude demonstrates why there are still people who do this, and are so casually dismissive of behavior that is abusive. Your anecdotal experience however does not negate my experience, or the experience of other PPs.

Sure they do. Some more than others, but they all do at some point growing up. Even many grown males still do it, I'd estimate probably 40% or more.

You try to speak for everyone else assuming your sheltered life is like everyone else's, and you attack those you think are different than you.

You are the same type of person who attacks gays.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, why is this is a thing?

My kid is only in 4th grade but the boys play a game where they say whoever does x first (talk at lunch, move on the recess, walk down the hall) is gay. DD first encountered the game at lunch and told them to stop and to stop using gay as an insult. Then they turned on her and were like, you must be a lesbian. To her credit she said that it wasn’t their business if she was and doubled down on telling them that it wasn’t an insult and to stop using it as one. These are 9 and 10 year olds!

The worst part is that she said teachers were standing right there and heard the entire exchange. And she says it happens other places where adults look the other way. As long as adults are too embarrassed to interrupt this behavior and call it out, it’ll persist.

Well yeah, she broke the social rules by interjecting herself into other people's business and scolding them.

That's considered an attack basically, to tell other people how to behave, and obviously the other kids would see that as an opportunity to tease her, because she gave a reaction they wanted by being offended. If she behaves like that as an adult, she could wind up really hurt, talking physically.

You, my friend, are a terrible person. And a Republican, I assume. “Just watch out for yourself” is a horrible mantra.

Very judgemental of you, just like most bullies. And no I abhor politics.

[Anonymous]

This was happening to my son. But then he stopped wearing skirts and makeup, started playing football.

All cleared up. He pretty much can't have a bad day now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who cares what people think,if he's not gay then he would not be bothered by that.

Pretty much this.

Every male kid calls other kids "fag" "homo" etc. just kidding around boy talk, and if they get a reaction they like, then they often continue the teasing.

NP and it bears repeating that every male kid does not do that. Wtf how do you think this is normal?!

You've never been around much then. Because it's normal and common. Maybe they just clean up their act around you.

You keep insisting it's normal and common and multiple people are assuring you that your casual homophobia is not at all common. Did you ever consider that it's normal and common only because you're the one constantly doing it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, why is this is a thing?

My kid is only in 4th grade but the boys play a game where they say whoever does x first (talk at lunch, move on the recess, walk down the hall) is gay. DD first encountered the game at lunch and told them to stop and to stop using gay as an insult. Then they turned on her and were like, you must be a lesbian. To her credit she said that it wasn’t their business if she was and doubled down on telling them that it wasn’t an insult and to stop using it as one. These are 9 and 10 year olds!

The worst part is that she said teachers were standing right there and heard the entire exchange. And she says it happens other places where adults look the other way. As long as adults are too embarrassed to interrupt this behavior and call it out, it’ll persist.

Well yeah, she broke the social rules by interjecting herself into other people's business and scolding them.

That's considered an attack basically, to tell other people how to behave, and obviously the other kids would see that as an opportunity to tease her, because she gave a reaction they wanted by being offended. If she behaves like that as an adult, she could wind up really hurt, talking physically.

Let me make sure I understand this: you are faulting the child standing up to nasty cruelty and calling her the one who's behaving inappropriately? And you're saying that she should be considered the aggressor and that she'll deserve it if/when she gets teased?

I think we have found the parent of the kids in my DD's 4th grade class, everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who cares what people think,if he's not gay then he would not be bothered by that.

Pretty much this.

Every male kid calls other kids "fag" "homo" etc. just kidding around boy talk, and if they get a reaction they like, then they often continue the teasing.

NP and it bears repeating that every male kid does not do that. Wtf how do you think this is normal?!

You've never been around much then. Because it's normal and common. Maybe they just clean up their act around you.

You keep insisting it's normal and common and multiple people are assuring you that your casual homophobia is not at all common. Did you ever consider that it's normal and common only because you're the one constantly doing it?

Uh, it is normal and common. Middle-Aged-Moms-of-DC might be clutching their pearls, but I guaran-fckin-tee you that this is situation normal in locker rooms and hallways among the boys of the hoi polloi.

But are they calling each other "queer" in front of their Bernie-bumper-sticker Subaru-driving moms? No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who cares what people think,if he's not gay then he would not be bothered by that.

Pretty much this.

Every male kid calls other kids "fag" "homo" etc. just kidding around boy talk, and if they get a reaction they like, then they often continue the teasing.

NP and it bears repeating that every male kid does not do that. Wtf how do you think this is normal?!

You've never been around much then. Because it's normal and common. Maybe they just clean up their act around you.

You keep insisting it's normal and common and multiple people are assuring you that your casual homophobia is not at all common. Did you ever consider that it's normal and common only because you're the one constantly doing it?

Uh, it is normal and common. Middle-Aged-Moms-of-DC might be clutching their pearls, but I guaran-fckin-tee you that this is situation normal in locker rooms and hallways among the boys of the hoi polloi.

But are they calling each other "queer" in front of their Bernie-bumper-sticker Subaru-driving moms? No.

I'm a 45 year old man who competed D1 in college, spent 3 years as a professional athlete, and worked in finance for more years than I should have. And I haven't heard the kind of casual homophobia you're talking about since middle school in the late 80s. So maybe it is common among tween boys, but you're way off base.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who cares what people think,if he's not gay then he would not be bothered by that.

Pretty much this.

Every male kid calls other kids "fag" "homo" etc. just kidding around boy talk, and if they get a reaction they like, then they often continue the teasing.

NP and it bears repeating that every male kid does not do that. Wtf how do you think this is normal?!

You've never been around much then. Because it's normal and common. Maybe they just clean up their act around you.

You keep insisting it's normal and common and multiple people are assuring you that your casual homophobia is not at all common. Did you ever consider that it's normal and common only because you're the one constantly doing it?

Why do you insist on denying reality, and making up ridiculous accusation as part of your denial and hysteria. Do you not realize you are exactly like the people you say you hold in contempt.