Straight kid being teased as gay

[Anonymous]

My 14-year-old son is being teased at school and called gay, which is bothering him. Just to clarify, he’s straight. The comments stem from the way he talks, but he has speech-related issues and is high-functioning autistic. How can we best support him in dealing with this.

[Anonymous]

Tell him to ask them why they're implying there's something wrong with being gay, are they homophobics?

[Anonymous]

My DD stood up to some boys at school 2 years ago when she was 15 who did this to another kid. She wasn't even friends with him but told them to cut it out. And they did. Does he have anyone that can stand up for him?

[Anonymous]

Talk to the school

[Anonymous]

Talking to school is not an option. I have done it in past and it only makes things worse for my DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell him to ask them why they're implying there's something wrong with being gay, are they homophobics?

There’s nothing wrong with disliking people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell him to ask them why they're implying there's something wrong with being gay, are they homophobics?

There’s nothing wrong with disliking people.

There is, if the only reason you dislike them is because of their sexual orientation.

[Anonymous]

how does he respond. if he just ignores them, maybe they will stop.

if he gives them the response they want, they will do it more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:how does he respond. if he just ignores them, maybe they will stop.

if he gives them the response they want, they will do it more.

He feels awkward has trouble assimilating. He is part of a sports team it happens both at school and during practice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:how does he respond. if he just ignores them, maybe they will stop.

if he gives them the response they want, they will do it more.

He feels awkward has trouble assimilating. He is part of a sports team it happens both at school and during practice.

how is your relationship with coach? can you ask them to keep an ear out for it and address it if they hear it?

[Anonymous]

"You know the most homophobic people? Those in the closet themselves."

"I know you are but what am I?"

"I'd rather be gay than an a-hole like you"

"You keep bringing this up, are you looking for a date to prom? If that's the case, I'm not interested. You might try someone in your league."

"Wow, your own sexual identity must really be on your mind if you're so fixated. There are therapists for that."

"You keep saying that like it would be a bad thing. So what? It's 2025. Catch up."

[Anonymous]

Maybe you could try by letting him know that being gay isn’t something to be bullied about? It sounds like you’re ashamed of this specifically because it’s about being gay? What kind of example are you setting by being so concerned someone might think he’s gay?

[Anonymous]

I would try to escalate again, to the Headmaster or whoever is at the top. And then if nothing changes, I would change schools. This is unconscionable.

[Anonymous]

Honestly I think ignoring it the best route. If he gets too defensive, it will only reinforce the comments. If he tries to insult back, it implies being gay is in an insult. I don’t see a way out of this other than avoiding the offenders and ignoring- or get a girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

This happens to NT straight kids too.

Tell him to act bored by it. They want a reaction. Or if he's stuck with the bullies to go stand by the coach.