Would it matter to you if your child dated someone of a different background?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think the only choice that would cause me heartburn would be a fundamentalist anything religion and / or a conservative republican. Neither of these groups reflect my values. So, I would be disappointed.

That said, disappointed does not mean i'd "object." Besides, I'm not sure what I could really do about it if my grown DD makes that choice for herself. And, if the person is a "good" person who treats her well and with respect, that is the most important thing. If the person is not a good person, then I'd make more of an effort to object.

In my view, political philospohy shouldn't matter one iota. Reasonabpel people should be able to disagree - my DH and I disagree about politics all the time.

I agree that a religious fundamentalist would be more troubling (although it's difficult for me to imagine that my DD would be attracted to a fundamentalist, given the way she's being raised). But that's my issue - if my DD is happy, that's all that really matters in the end.

For me it does.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:different race or ethnicity? wouldn't bother me a bit.

but, i must admit i wouldn't be thrilled if our dds dated/married super religious/conservative people. (or a republican)

I would be VERY disappointed - specially if he was super religious....

DITTO.

If evolution were voluntary, conservatives would still be walking on their knuckles.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It does not bother me at all - we are white but we live in a diverse area and kids have friends of various races, ethnicities, etc.

We are already a family with a mixture of Christian and Jewish and my step mother is Muslim. So hard to bring too much more to the party here that isn't already here.

I am a Democrat and my spouse is a Republican so again we've got those bases covered.

Any convicts or people from the "wrong side of the tracks" in the fam?

Not convicts but definitely a variety of black sheeps in the extended family.

Plural of sheep = sheep.

[Anonymous]

I'm white and mostly date white guys, mainly because the lion's share of guys I meet are white. I have dated outside my race, cuture and religion, though it hasn't worked out long-term for other reasons. For my daughter, I care about the kid's personality and how he treats my daughter, not so much about his race or his background. I might not like it if she dated someone of a very conservative religious background, especially one that didn't see women as equals. That would concern me. (But I think that's part of his personality and treatment of my daughter.)

[Anonymous]

It doesn't matter what you want or think about the person your child decides to date or marry if they are over 18. If you disapprove but you want to continue a relationship with your child and have one with your grandchildren, accept their choice or you will lose both.

[Anonymous]

Yes.