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Would it matter to you if your child dated someone of a different background?
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Anonymous
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A friend of mine who is Indian, is dating a woman that is half white/half Vietnamese. He keeps it a secret from his family because they would never accept him dating someone not Indian. I know older generations in all ethnic groups are more likely to be rooted in the "stick to your own kind" mentality. My parents did not want me to date outside my race, but I did anyway and married a white man, after dating men of various ethnicities different than mine. They got over it eventually.
Now, my white 17yo stepson is dating an AA girl, and his mother is not happy about it. DSD lives with DH and I, who have no problem with it, as we are an interracial couple ourselves. He continues to date her regardless, and we are supportive, but she continues to give him a hard time about it. None of my friends would give a rats ass if their children dated interracially. Would you? |
Anonymous
| I would not care in the least. |
Anonymous
| Nope, I wouldn't care either. Want my kids dating nice other kids with good values, doesn't matter what skin color or ethnicity. |
Anonymous
| Wouldn't even occur to me to care. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't let my kid date a Ginger. Besides that...anything goes. |
Anonymous
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Hurray for a mixed gene pool! These children are smarter and cuter (just kidding). My parents come from opposite sides of the globe (and their parents fought on opposing sides in WWII, though not on the same continent). My mother's xenophobic family shunned her for 10 years because of this.
All joking aside, has your stepson asked his mother to articulate exactly why she feels this way? It might make her realize how unfounded her prejudices are. If it doesn't, he has to go his own way, with your support. |
Anonymous
what's a ginger? |
Anonymous
| red hair and freckles |
Anonymous
| A woman I know grew up in a predominantly white area where people are openly (and proud to be) KKK members. She dated a black guy and her parents were against it because they were prejudiced. She later got pregnant and had a baby with her boyfriend but because she was really young and didn't want the baby to grow up in their hometown, she thought about giving the baby up for adoption. But her parents got over their prejudice and eventually accepted their grandchild. They raised him as their son, let him believe his mother was his older sister and told everyone they had adopted him. Life was really hard for them because their "son" was picked on all time and they were called nasty names and received a lot of threats (the dad got into a lot fistfights over racial insults). She said this changed their life because they finally understood how stupid racism is. Had she never had her son, they would have kept on hating blacks. |
Anonymous
| Considering DH and I are from different backgrounds, the answer is most definitely yes! As long as the person they are with is kind, caring and genuine...it does not matter to me. |
Anonymous
| I am biracial and am currently in a biracial relationship so no, I wouldn't care as long as the person was kind, genuine and shared similar moral and political beliefs. |
Anonymous
| Another biracial marriage here. Would not bother me at all if he dated someone outside of his "races". I just want him to happy and to really love someone. |
Anonymous
| He probably will. There aren't that many of us around here. It is fine. |
Anonymous
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different race or ethnicity? wouldn't bother me a bit.
but, i must admit i wouldn't be thrilled if our dds dated/married super religious/conservative people. (or a republican) |
Anonymous
| I am white, DH is white, and we both grew up in a 99% white area. We have purposefully chosen to live in a culturally diverse area. Our almost 4 year old DS has never once noticed that some of his friends look different from him. I thoroughly expect him to bring home girls from different ethnicities. As an aside, my father stopped talking to me almost 20 years ago because of someone that I dated. |