Would it matter to you if your child dated someone of a different background?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It does not bother me at all - we are white but we live in a diverse area and kids have friends of various races, ethnicities, etc.

We are already a family with a mixture of Christian and Jewish and my step mother is Muslim. So hard to bring too much more to the party here that isn't already here.

I am a Democrat and my spouse is a Republican so again we've got those bases covered.

Any convicts or people from the "wrong side of the tracks" in the fam?

Not convicts but definitely a variety of black sheeps in the extended family.

[Anonymous]

What about Pastor Terry?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:different race or ethnicity? wouldn't bother me a bit.

but, i must admit i wouldn't be thrilled if our dds dated/married super religious/conservative people. (or a republican)

I would be VERY disappointed - specially if he was super religious....

So, to you it is all right to discriminate against certain religions or religious beliefs and political beliefs? You are a bigoted hypocrite and that goes for all the others who objections are "limited" to those stated by you.

[Anonymous]

Communists.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't care or object. Even if I did have some personal opposition to the race/religion/political views of the person my son dated, what right would I have to impose preference that on him? He's dating them, not me. Unless the person is abusive and putting him in physical/emotional danger, he should get to pick whoever he wants

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Communists.

Point of clarification: Are you calling the PPs Communists, or are you saying you would object to your child dating a Communist? Or both?

[Anonymous]

I would object to their dating communists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:different race or ethnicity? wouldn't bother me a bit.

but, i must admit i wouldn't be thrilled if our dds dated/married super religious/conservative people. (or a republican)

I would be VERY disappointed - specially if he was super religious....

So, to you it is all right to discriminate against certain religions or religious beliefs and political beliefs? You are a bigoted hypocrite and that goes for all the others who objections are "limited" to those stated by you.

Let's turn this around a bit. How would conservatives feel if their son was to be married in a liberal church where the minister was an open Lesbian, and that their kids would be going to sunday school where some of their classmates have two dads, and where the teens learn that pro-choice is acceptable within the christian faith?

Not an "open Lesbian!!! lol

Is that like a Reknown Lesbian?



Hello, pp, the 1950's just called, they want their rampant small mindedness back.

[Anonymous]

I think the only choice that would cause me heartburn would be a fundamentalist anything religion and / or a conservative republican. Neither of these groups reflect my values. So, I would be disappointed.

That said, disappointed does not mean i'd "object." Besides, I'm not sure what I could really do about it if my grown DD makes that choice for herself. And, if the person is a "good" person who treats her well and with respect, that is the most important thing. If the person is not a good person, then I'd make more of an effort to object.

[Anonymous]

I would prefer my DD not date a practicing homosexual.



(i'd prefer she date someone who's good at being homosexual.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:what about socioeconomic group? does that matter?

Yes, I would be very concerned if either of my kids married someone from the proverbial "wrong side of the tracks" especially DD because I think lower middle working class men treat women differently, less respecfully,less as fully capable and thinking. I would greatly prefer eithre child marry a person from a similar soci-economic status as they grew up in. I would not care about skin color or ethnicity. I might have a small problem with any non-christian religion or overly conservative religion but that would depend on the spouses' expectations for kids and family events..

Growing up wealthy and privileged is no guarantee that a boy will treat your daughter well. See Hugeley, George.

[Anonymous]

"I wouldn't let my kid date a Ginger."

Never trust a redhead!

[Anonymous]

"Life was really hard for them because their "son" was picked on all time and they were called nasty names and received a lot of threats (the dad got into a lot fistfights over racial insults). "

Sounds like the novel/movie "Giant".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the only choice that would cause me heartburn would be a fundamentalist anything religion and / or a conservative republican. Neither of these groups reflect my values. So, I would be disappointed.

That said, disappointed does not mean i'd "object." Besides, I'm not sure what I could really do about it if my grown DD makes that choice for herself. And, if the person is a "good" person who treats her well and with respect, that is the most important thing. If the person is not a good person, then I'd make more of an effort to object.

In my view, political philospohy shouldn't matter one iota. Reasonabpel people should be able to disagree - my DH and I disagree about politics all the time.

I agree that a religious fundamentalist would be more troubling (although it's difficult for me to imagine that my DD would be attracted to a fundamentalist, given the way she's being raised). But that's my issue - if my DD is happy, that's all that really matters in the end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I wouldn't let my kid date a Ginger."

Never trust a redhead!

As a redhead, I resemble that remark.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:different race or ethnicity? wouldn't bother me a bit.

but, i must admit i wouldn't be thrilled if our dds dated/married super religious/conservative people. (or a republican)

I would be VERY disappointed - specially if he was super religious....

So, to you it is all right to discriminate against certain religions or religious beliefs and political beliefs? You are a bigoted hypocrite and that goes for all the others who objections are "limited" to those stated by you.

Let's turn this around a bit. How would conservatives feel if their son was to be married in a liberal church where the minister was an open Lesbian, and that their kids would be going to sunday school where some of their classmates have two dads, and where the teens learn that pro-choice is acceptable within the christian faith?

Not an "open Lesbian!!! lol

Is that like a Reknown Lesbian?



Hello, pp, the 1950's just called, they want their rampant small mindedness back.

I wouldn't care about the 2 dads or pro-choice. On 2 dads - I've seen dad couples at school events and nobody blinked. If selling stuff and encouraging purchases for mother's day and a kid said i have 2 dads my advice is buy for grandma. If 2 moms and father's day or Xmas etc then buy it for grandpa. Very practical . I'm more worried about radical religious beliefs or if his/her mom sported a veil or as one friend [guy] once said came from a family that would eat dogs. Generic USA African -American, Jewish, etc is fine by me.