Marrying a man who works too much

[Anonymous]

Or you could love someone else who has a more family-friendly schedule. You're making up a straw man if you say the alternative is a man you don't love. If this relationship ended you'd likely find love again and you know it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been with boyfriend for the past two years. I’m very much in love with him but keep getting “ warned” that I’m making a mistake choosing a man who works too much. I work a lot but definitely have a better work/life balance. He makes time for life but he does work way more hours than I do. I know this may make future life challenging at times, but I love him and want to marry him. Am I being foolish? Should practicality come into play before love?

Sounds like you love his paycheck more than you love him.

Step 1, secure the bag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been with boyfriend for the past two years. I’m very much in love with him but keep getting “ warned” that I’m making a mistake choosing a man who works too much. I work a lot but definitely have a better work/life balance. He makes time for life but he does work way more hours than I do. I know this may make future life challenging at times, but I love him and want to marry him. Am I being foolish? Should practicality come into play before love?

What else a single man with no wife or kids suppose to do if not be ambitious and build a career. Isn't this the crucial time to advance his career?

[Anonymous]

More money doesn't justify more work hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ASK HIM THE HARD QUESTIONS

It's fine coming on DCUM for advice, but do not "assume" how he feels and what he wants to do. If you can't ask him anything, you should not marry him.

Ask him if he always plans to work that hard. Ask him how he sees childcare being handled. Ask him if he'll work on vacations. Ask him if he thinks his job is more important than yours. Ask him if he expects you to make changes to accommodate his job. Ask him if he'd scale back or find a new job if needed. Ask him what his plans are for the money he makes at that job.

This just the beginning. He probably knows what you want to hear and will promise to not work as much. Draw some guidelines now, and see if he puts the work aside and follows through.